I don't know if any other women are turned on by the thought of using a strap on.(sorry for being graphic) I would like to know exactly how many women are open to that idea, and if so.. can the user actually have an orgasm from it. I would also like to ask about how another woman would feel if I was always the one who used it. I really don't like anything being used on me. Oh, I forgot to mention that I am extremely feminine, but there is something so sexy about being the one in charge.
2007-02-06 16:02:03 · 13 answers · asked by arlenes s 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yes, the strap-on wearer can definitely orgasm from using it. Oftentimes, the blunt end of the dildo butts up against her clitoris when she thrusts, stimulating her. Or there are specialty harnesses that come with places for vibrating 'eggs' or 'bullets' that stimulate her while she does her thing. Other times she might slip a hand down to take care of herself while thrusting. In addition to this physical stimulation, oftentimes the psychological aspects help send her over the edge- the control idea, the genderplay aspect, being able to see the pleasure you give, etc..
As for if other women would mind if you only used it on her, well, it's going to depend. You don't say what kind of woman you like, but I assume a feminine one. In butch-femme matches, it's common to find butches who really don't care to have anything used on them, but love to give it to their femmes. I don't know how common this is in the femme-femme world, but I'm sure there's a girl out there who wants you to pleasure her that way but will respect or won't even mind your not wanting her to reciprocate.
Hope that helps you and good luck!
2007-02-06 17:46:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
it differs from person to person. Some people like penetration, others don't. For some it depends on how realistic said strap on is. And there's nothing wrong with wanting to be the dominant one, so long as you have a partner who prefers to be on bottom. Because if you don't, problems could arise in the bedroom.
Of course they could have an orgasm from it, hetero women are able to have them when they sleep with men, so why should lez's be any different? So long as they're aroused, it should be fine.
Every woman's different, so you'd be best off talking it over with your partner, and going to a sex shop together.Make it sort of like a bonding type of thing, if you catch my drift.
Experiment, and if she likes it, well then you have a new toy. If not, perhaps you should try something else.
2007-02-06 18:29:39 · answer #2 · answered by Sabrina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both me and my primary partner are able to have orgasms from being the penetrative partner in strap on sex. I actually find it easier to have an orgasm from using a strap on on someone else than from being f ucked with it (unless I am recieving, either from my hand, a partner's hand, a third partner's tongue, a vibrator, whatever, some kind of clitoral stimulation). Of course, I can orgasm without being touched - I get off more on the mental aspect of this activity than on the actual friction of the dildo base/harness against my pubic area. Hell, I used to wear the thing out to clubs and look for hookups with it.
I don't really like penetrative sex, especially with a dildo in any context with casual lovers - I'm more of a top - but do enjoy it with lovers I trust. And I'm picky about dildos - they need to be silicone and as non-realistic as possible.
2007-02-06 16:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by Salek 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I've never used a strap on, and very seldomly want to try it. But when I do try it has to be another femme that does it. I'm a femme and I want to do that with another femme because that turns me on. I also would like to be the one that does the strapping.But fem or butch,strapping is something that most lesbians try and either like or don't like. However, a woman using nothing but her natural body will always top any straps,toys,or devices!
2007-02-06 17:54:35 · answer #4 · answered by indrep33 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, the user (Feeldoe, which makes a strapless dildo for two people, says "driver") can certainly get something from it, but you need to get one designed for that. The straps or the end you insert inside you will stimulate your clitoris.
Some women like it, some women don't, and some need a little gentle convincing. My wife and I had a strict "no toys" rule for ten years, but our minds changed together.
Whatever you like, someone else will like it, don't worry.
2007-02-06 16:11:33 · answer #5 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My wife says no man could ever be as good as me and my strap-on. She once dated men years ago but now she knows that women give women the BEST oral and the best intercourse.
Strap it on and ride her to heaven! You will both enjoy yourselves. We know that some lesbians love the feel of intercourse, but they just don't love a man's body giving it. Penetration alone isn't what most ladies crave - it's great oral! A nice, soft woman's body and knowing touch combined with the powerful thrusting. Better than a man!
2007-02-06 16:35:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I never have used one, but my partner has in the past. She told me she was always the one who wore the thing and she did not have an orgasm while wearing it It surprised me a bit as she is also very feminine, but does like to be in control!
2007-02-06 16:22:05 · answer #7 · answered by kar506 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you know, phags_spread_aids (you're not a troll at all, are you), lesbian sex (especially with dildos as long as you use a condom/wash them/don't directly share them) is way way way safer in terms of aids than hetero sex. There's like zero percent chance of getting aids from woman-woman sex unless you are also an IV Drug user. Eat your pathetic heart out.
Wierdly enough, I know salek and her gf (scruffy on this forum) in real life. They are cool people.
I've never used a feeldoe - have used the nexus. Didn't like it because it was too big and looked too much like a penis. I've had sex with a strap on both ways and like receiving better.
2007-02-06 16:32:05 · answer #8 · answered by roco 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I used one for the first time on Friday wow was that amazing. My girl knew how to use it and i am opened to use it yes i was turned on by it and i want to even try it on her but will have to see later cuz that was the first time ever using one.
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2016-12-17 04:16:14 · answer #10 · answered by vogt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋