How do I get my girlfriend to use protection?

Question

My girlfriend has accidents. I don't need advice on getting her to see a doctor, or what types of treatment, etc, that's all handled.
The problem is, she currently doesn't use any protection. We'll be out, and she'll wet herself, or we'll be cuddled up on the bed watching TV and I'll suddenly be soaked and in a puddle, not to mention every single morning. How do I get her to wear a much needed diaper? I'm not talking about a little trickle once in a while, it's a complete flood usually more than once a day. I told her not to be upset, but... it needs to be handled better.

I love my girlfriend, I'm not going to leave her over something that isn't her fault.

What is telling her I have an STD going to accomplish?

As I mentioned, she's been to the doctor and all that.
She's stubborn and insists her problem isn't that bad. I don't want to insult her, so I haven't even tried suggesting anything. I don't know how I'd bring it up without hurting her feelings or something.

Not sharing a bed with her or cuddling is something I could not bare. Most guys hate to cuddle, I on the other hand cherish every moment of it.

She is currently unemployed, which has her stressed. I put a protector on the bed under the sheets. Sometimes I clean it up, but she usually does.
She's the type who could loose a limb and insist it's not that bad, as if having any sort of medical problem is a weakness.
She's 22.

I see answers suggesting I find another girlfriend. How could somebody be so heartless as to leave somebody for a medical condition?
When I say "I love you", it doesn't mean "I love you, but only if you are in perfect health and have no problems that I have to deal with". Her problems are just as important to me as my own.

Why don't you put youreself in her shoes... If you were in love with somebody, and now you have a medical condition through no fault of your own, how would you feel if your significant other just walked away? Is that something you would actually do to somebody?
Anybody who suggested I leave her over this doesn't deserve the joy and warm of another's love.

Answer 1

Well I would suggest first of all that she see a Doctor. She may take it much better coming from a Doctor, not to mention I'm sure there is medication that can help her with that.

GL!

'-)

Answer 2

Probably there is a small stubborn child in her, also having a lot of ego.(not a bad thing) Try treating her like a child, how u would tell a 6yr old to wear diapers.(may work)u may have to become little stern, behave like a father. Usually girls like fathers. She may listen to your fatherly advice.

Or bring a pack of diapers, keep it at home. Dont give it to her, keep it somewhere. Just inform her that she can use it whenever she wants. Don't tell her "If you want it u can use it". Don't use the word 'if'.

Best of luck!!!

(Well, I have some questions,
1. Who cleans it after it is done on the bed?
2. Do u use a rubber sheet for the bed?
3. If she does it when she is out on a work? what she does? Returns back home or carries on?
4. Why doesn't she consider this as a serious problem? How old is she?

Please answer)

Answer 3

Try this.

"I need to talk to you about something. Just let me speak, hear me out before you say anything.
I love you, and I love being close to you, but I don't like being all wet. I know it's NOT your fault, I'm not mad, and I'm not upset with you. I'm not going to leave you over some medical problem.
I need you to use a diaper until we get this problem fixed. I'll still find you attactive, and I'll always think you're beautiful, no matter what you wear. When we cuddle, wouldn't you rather just a wet diaper, instead of a wet boyfriend? Remember the time when [insert embarassing incident here]? I'm sure you would have felt better having just gone to the restroom and used the spare in your purse/bag. I'm sure it's more comfortable than wet clothes.
If calling it a diaper is embarassing or uncomfortable for you, just let me know and I can call them something else.
I'm here for you, and always willing to help. Wheather that means helping you manage this, going to the store for them, just lsitneing to what's on your mind, or even if it's stepping back and letting you handle it all on your own. Whatever it is you need, I'm here. I just need you to wear these for now, to make it easier for us to get through this."

If need be, follow this up by asking her why she's reluctant to wear diapers. She might be worreid about what you think, which would then be an easily solved issue.

Answer 4

Tell her that you won't get into bed with her if she's not wearing a diaper or whatever. Then enforce it. She'll come around.

edit-

OK, you didn't like that idea. I seriously didn't mean it in a rude way, I just know that would work on me (if I was having that problem). All I can say is you need to tell her how much you love her and cherish your time together. Tell her you understand that it must be embarrassing to have to wear a diaper, but it doesn't bother you at all and you just want to be able to cuddle her and not worry about getting wet. All I can say is be gentle and understanding and persistent. Good luck and ignore all the unsympathetic people on here.

Answer 5

I think the other answers were a little insensitive. You can't control who you like/love. Your heart doesn't know she has accidents. Just explain to her calmly and sweetly that you care about her a lot and you like being with her but being soaked more than once a day is more than just an inconvinience, especially when it can be handled so easily. It must embarassing for her to need to wear a diaper, but I am sure that a slim, inconspicuous diaper can be found: there has to be one in a market! She'll also feel better about herself.

Answer 6

Clearly she needs to see someone. If she is upset then she is not happy with the situation, and it will not change unless she does seek some professional help. Let her know that you are behind her 100% and it's all between you, her and the Shrink. She shouldn't live in fear and embarrassment.

Answer 7

you need to just tell her that this situation is not good for her
or you.let her know that this does bother you that this is happen
and she need to take care of her self. sound like she does
not care about her self, if this is the situaiton. you may need
to move on. if she does not care about her self then she does
not care much about you as well.but you sound like a good person there are not many man that would put up with this
at all. you are a rare gem. i hope she apprecate you.

Answer 8

Well, just tell her that it makes you very uncomfortable, suggest that she wear a diaper.

Answer 9

This sounds like a psychological issue.
This root of the problem needs to be addressed.
The depends undergarments are not going to be accepted by her until she speaks to a professional

Answer 10

I don't think this is a serious question because if you had an uncontrolled desire to urinate and you do so, no matter where you are...you'd probably sprint to the nearest store for some huggies. LOL This is too wierd for me to have even answered. :)