I meet plenty of guys who say they like me but would never approach me. They say the reason is they are scared I will turn them down. In my opinion all a person can say is no.
2007-02-06 14:56:30 · 15 answers · asked by nobodybetta_99 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It goes back to the days of "the tribes." If a man was shunned by one woman, she would spread that around and soon he'd be out of luck for mating.
2007-02-06 14:59:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be so that, in your opinion, all a person can say is no, but the word no, to some is just a "shooting down" of what was "built up" to a certain courage to approach you whilst visualizing, fantasizing dinner, a movie, some dessert, and goodness-knows-what-else to have taken place. All to have been for naught, the word no after all that effort.
In my femaleness, I have the deepest understanding of most men. So much so, that I fear that I don't so much as understand my gender-sake.
You should try to place yourself in their shoes. How shall you react. How shall you feel after taking notice of a gentle lad at the beginning of a college semester, fantasizing about the two of you bumping into eachother in the halls on the way to the loo, catching one another's quick glimpse, yet never so much as uttering a "hello" yet, all that escapes your mouths is a grunt and a clearing throat. You're embarrassed, so you wait some more, until a few more weeks trot by, then finals approach, you glance back at him ever so unnoticeably, and quickly turn your eye as he lifts his head. Finals are over, you say, "Dammit, this is it". You approach him with a hopeful step, one after another, after another. He's noticed and though, you tend to think positively and are sure he couldn't possibly turn away......he does, and walks away. Not even a no was good enough for you, yet his steps screamed it through the tunnels of your ears, like crashing cymbals. You're a dud, a loser and a reject. You know now, without a shred of doubt, you could never again expose yourself to such rejection.
Swallow it. You're just as vulnerable to rejection as any man. You've just not experienced the ultimate let down by that one man that you have been setting your heart upon.
Just you wait, that time will come...
2007-02-06 15:16:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nobody likes to be rejected. Some just happen to have the guts to handle it and take a chance. That person will come along for you!
2007-02-06 17:21:41 · answer #3 · answered by kar506 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody is afraid of rejection to a point - what they mean is that they are afraid of making themselves vulnerable and getting hurt.
If you are REALLY interested, don't push, take your time and show that person that they can trust you and rely on you and maybe your relationship will blossom
good luck to you
2007-02-06 15:00:53 · answer #4 · answered by island3girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't try and understand another persons insecurities and it might be a vibe you're giving off to people that makes them think you would say no in the first place.
2007-02-06 14:58:55 · answer #5 · answered by xander2025 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, the guys in this section aren't afraid of rejection so much is that THEY ARE GAY...
2007-02-06 14:59:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Male ego, they have to be in charge, they need to do the rejecting and when it happens to them first they aren't prepared to handle it.
Sigh, it kills me every time I have to do it.
2007-02-06 15:04:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ever get a rejection you will know.
Some guys may be shy.
2007-02-06 15:00:17 · answer #8 · answered by robert p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats just how it is.
To me personally I would find it to be awkward afterwards when she says no
2007-02-06 15:00:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because it takes so much to get that initial courage...if the answer is no it's like crushing all the confidence he struggled to build up.
2007-02-06 14:59:07 · answer #10 · answered by Doc Manhattan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋