Ours was a love marriage which took place 7 yrs back and have 2 kids. my wife and myself are now in dubai .?

Question

It was really shocking to find that my wife whom i loved so much is having an almost 2 yr affair with another man who is a close friend of ours. I did tell her that i had found this out . She admits that she has had sex with him. also that he was a really good friend of hers. She told me she will not continue this relationship. But i just cannot get the tension out of my head. What should i do. How should i be with this friend . Pls help me.

Answer 1

number one you need to know that a close friend does not sleep with one's wife if they are really a friend, number two you should ask yourself if you can trust her anymore and forgive her if not then you should do what makes you happy, it may be a while before the answer comes to you but it will come, you also need to ask the wife why she chose to do this is it cause the flame has gone out or that you have grown apart and are just there for the kids if that is the case the best thing that you can do is leave

Answer 2

I'm so sorry to hear this. The EX-friend should be completely out of BOTH of your lives. People are only human, that means they make mistakes. All mistakes can be forgive, though obviously some take more time then others. If you and your wife are wanting to work things out then he needs to be no longer friends with either of you. How can you ever trust them around each other again? Your trust has been destroyed. I would confront him, if you haven't already, and tell him to never come around again. I've been married over five years now and I can only imagine how you must feel. It can't be an easy thing to stay and work things out when something like this happens, I don't think I could. If I did stay I would move and start fresh some place far away from the so-called friend. I wish you the best.

Answer 3

i am sorry to hear bout that. i know someone who has gone thru the same problem just recently. i'll tell you what i told him. if you love her and think you can put this behind you then go ahead and try. however, love isn't enough.do you have the tolerence? it will take some time to get over this. trust will not bounce back but will have too be earned over a seriously long time. can you let it go? if you can't then don't stay with her and let it eat at you it won't help you feel better and it won't help your marriage. the stress and arguments and distrust can eventaully hurt the kids too. an unhappy marriage can lead to unhappy children. think hard and think twice. then think again!! hope you can work this out .

Answer 4

u shud kick his butt!!! that's so messed up...specially if it was a friend of urs. u don't need him in ur life for real. nd ur wife...i mean just try 2 get ur relationship bak to where it was and find out why she cheated in the 1st place..n work it out..cuz u guys r married n u promised 2 eachother till death do yall apart..u know.

Answer 5

FIRST OFF, THIS IS NOT A FRIEND. A FRIEND WOULD NEVER DO THIS. IF THE TWO OF YOU CAN WORK THIS OUT GREAT. BUT THE SO CALLED FRIEND SHOULD NEVER COME AROUND AGAIN. NEVER TALK TO OR SEE THIS PERSON AGAIN. YOU OR YOUR WIFE

Answer 6

The trust is gone.She got caught and now she wants to make it right?Almost impossible.It's probably a losing battle, I hate to say.You notice I'm using the words almost and probably.Just trying not to be too harsh.......

Answer 7

Ever think of Sharia law and what it could do for you? This seems like a case for some good old stoning.

Answer 8

A two year affair? I would give her to your CLOSE friend and tell him thanks a lot. If she cheated on you, she will cheat on him. But I hope not with you. You deserve better than her.

Answer 9

...think about how you wish to remember yourself at the end of your life, and act with dignity, courage, and honor, and strength.

Answer 10

can you really still call him a freind?