threesome question?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for 1yr and 3 months. Im his first sexual partner he isnt mine though. He wants to have a threesome but Im not sure. Im scared that if he has sex with another girl (even if Im there) and he likes it more then sex with me he will stray from our relationship. please help

Answer 1

I guess if your relationship is built on sex, and he is so shallow that good sex with someone else would draw him away from you, then it could. If your relationship is built on companionship, friendship, true love, etc., and because of that you have great sex together, then no other woman could draw him away with sex.

Same with you? Think about it... Why aren't you with any of your old boyfriends? I'm sure sex was good with them. But it probably wasn't enough to keep you in a relationship with them. You're boyfriend obviously has something they didn't and I'm sure that even if you had a MFM threesome you wouldn't leave your boyfriend for the other guy, right?

If the above is true, that you have a REAL relationship, not just a sexual one, then a threesome is just additional sex, it's not replacement sex.

My wife and I have been in the swinger lifestyle for several years and have had many MFM and FMF threesome and even moresomes. And from personal experience I'll tell you that sex I have with other women is not better sex then with my wife, it's just different. And like I said above... none of these other women are my wife. Nobody but her can be that nor ever will be.

Answer 2

You've asked a straight forward question so I'm going to give you a blunt answer. From a purely mechanical point of view, all you girls have more or less the same equipment. If he's with you it's because you offer him something he can't find anywhere else. Chances are it has nothing to do with your body.

That was the easy part of the answer. The hard part is this. If you are his first I'm going to guess that you are both pretty young (like 16 to 20). To be blunt, that means he sucks at sex. He hasn't got enough experience yet to be good at it and you haven't got enough experience yet to know how bad he really is. What I hope you can understand from a purely biological perspective is that he is a dime a dozen. Girls like you who will even consider a threesome are not.

Now that you know (from a somewhat more experienced perspective) that he is nothing special but you are, I would STRONGLY suggest that reciprocity is the key. Even if the two of you can find another girl that you are both comfortable with (and one that is comfortable with you) I think you should hold out for a threesome with another guy. Wouldn't that be only fair? If he isn't man enough to give as good as he got, your relationship isn't worth much anyway.

Answer 3

I know so many couples whose relationship was ruined by a threesome. It sounds like a fun and sexually enlightening experience, but trust me, afterwards nothing is the same. You lose trust and respect with one another. Sex shouldn't be between two people who love each other and a third wheel. If you are scared and don't want to do it, tell our boyfriend how you feel. If he insists, then forget him. If he doesn't care about your feelings and wants to have sex with another woman so badly, then he doesn't truly love you.

Answer 4

Threesome have one too many.

Maybe you should look at your relationship and see if he has what is takes. I notice that his threesome had two girls and one guy. Maybe you should change the dynamic and have two guys and one girl. Do you think he would be so eager?

Fantasy is just that. Maybe it is time for you to move on to a more mature relationship. One where you will be enough.

Good luck.

Answer 5

This is a slippery slope. If there is any doubt in your mind, you shouldn't do it. To go down this path you have to be absolutely certain that he won't change his feelings in some way, and that's next to impossible. We never know the kind of emotional changes that will occur after something like this. Will he lose respect for you on some level? If he does, will that make him more likely to stray? You don't sound like you want it, and that's important too. I don't think you should go for it with the trepidation you're experiencing.

Answer 6

NOT A GOOD IDEA!!! They call it a fantasy because it is supposed to stay MAKE BELIEVE.

Everytime I have had friends try this (although they swore they were ok with it) there was disaster and it ruined the relationship.

A big red flag that the relationship has problems if he wants to bring another person into the loop

good luck to you

Answer 7

If your not 100% comfortable with it don't do it. You sound like the slightly jealous type. And even if you do do it and he assures you that you are better and he doesn't want to be with anyone but you you will wonder if he is feeding you a line and really thinking of the other girl. You need to be sure that you are on board with the idea don't just go along to make him happy. You will be miserable if you do. make sure you want to do it first and if you do do it more power to you. good luck.

Answer 8

It may be a guys biggest fantasey but it doesn't sound very good for people in a relationship.... jealousy can accur and such. If he was any kind of boyfriend he would be satisfied with just having sex with you. A threesome is a guys biggest fantasey, but it just stays a fantasey for most guys.

Answer 9

Threesomes are only for people who are completely confident in their relationships. Don't feel bad you aren't 100% OK with sharing your boyfriend. Tell him you'll think about it, and maybe with time you will become more comfortable in your relationship, and more apt to try other things.

Answer 10

If he loves you then there's nothing to worry about but I still advice against it. Jealousy and all other emotions will come into play and besides that why would you want to share? You should be good enough for him and if you don't want to bring anyone else into the relationship then he has no right to push you.