I'm tall, tan, i think handsome. I work out, but not to much muscle. I'm into my studies, and I don't cheat on my girl. Some girls say I'm not their type of guy, that they like 'em tougher. What do you like in a guy? why?
2007-02-06 14:41:59 · 33 answers · asked by legal stan 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
You sound pretty awesome to me. I like a man who is intelligent, witty, humourous, a great conversationalist, considerate, intuitive. Looks fade but a personality is forever.
2007-02-11 06:39:36 · answer #1 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legand is right.
Talking historically. It has been suggested that in a biological necessity women sought out a strong independent type of guy , usually from a different , far away village (and I guess someone who was chucked out for being exactly what makes him attractive to inexperienced women.) There was a genetic advantage in this. Resistance to diseases which would otherwise decimate populations was gradually introduced to keep a population going.
These "stud" types rarely made good fathers and moved on. Women were left to find the nurturer of the family from a "nice guy" closer to home.
At least I would like to think this. I never could work out why all the most desirable young ladies were set on people I could see were outright bastards while with a bit of good sense they could have chosen me!
2007-02-13 10:24:40 · answer #2 · answered by salubrious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like i would like you, as far as looks go. I like that you're into your studies but do you know how to let go sometimes and have some fun? Work is fine but it's not all of life. We need some play time too. Monogamy is awesome! I didn't know there were guys who didn't cheat. But you never mentioned your sense of humor and i love to laugh and smile, so a guy that can do that, is on my good side but also the guy has just chill with me and be like you look good whether you're in sweat pants or in 5,000 dollar jeans, there are somedays i don't feel like going all out and putting make up on. I would like him to be laid back too too long i've rushed through life trying to get to the finish line for the trophy but life isn't a race so what's the point in dashing through? And my man must be a good well rounded cook, because i don't cook.
2007-02-06 23:21:52 · answer #3 · answered by Gen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, my number one requirement was that my husband had a solid relationship with Jesus.
Other than that, honesty, commitment, passion for whatever your "vision" in life is, and humor are major factors.
Aside from looks (because anyone who's smart will admit that's not everything), it sounds like you're a pretty good guy. And I know this is a sappy, "girl" answer, but I truly believe that the best person for you will show up at some point or another, whether you're looking or not.
Blessings on this journey with women! It can be a tough road, but one well worth travelling. :D
2007-02-06 14:50:52 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The perfect man to me has to be attractive. I define attractive as a man who could have sparkling blue eyes He doesn't have to have the perfect body or the perfect face. I am one independent lady I really don't care what my friend think as far as his looks. A man that surprises you with even one flower just to say "I love you." Someone that can make me laugh and laughs with me. Someone that isn't being something they aren't to impress me. I like good down home, honest, "what you see is what you get" type of men. A man that is interesting to talk too, yet realizes I'm bright and have topics I like to talk about and he's interested in what I have to say. A man that is loyal, no game playing and I DO LIKE a man that is on the shy side. I find men that are too confident too blasted smooth. I am the type of woman that is extremely out-going and if the guy is shy or having a rough time I make it as easy as possible.
2007-02-14 00:54:52 · answer #5 · answered by syeda k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy must have a sense of humor, understanding, and be spontaneous. A true smile with caring eyes will catch most girls attention quicker than a tan anyway. Just be honest with us about what you are looking for and what you want in life, and don't try to show off your muscles it really is a turn off! I can't stress this enough-- BE YOURSELF!
2007-02-06 15:58:40 · answer #6 · answered by mz2independent 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i was a teenager, the perfect guy was blonde, tanned, six pack and a goatee.
Now, almost ten years later, i know what the perfect guy is.
Muscles are nice, but i prefer the slight "gone to seed" look of a athlete that hasn't worked out in a few years. a cushion to cover the six pack, as it were.
Shoulders are what do it for me now. big, well built, muscular shoulders. they dont have to be defined, but i like them muscular. i hate scrawney shoulders.
Yeah, i still like goatees.
thats just physical though. I like a guy who can protect me but isn't a jackyouknowwhat. my boyfriend is delicate and gentle with me, but i know he could knock a guy flat if i ever needed to be protected.
I like a guy who is diverse. i need a guy who can be joking and goofy, AND serious, depending on the situation.
I need a guy who mentally stimulates me. who i can hold an intelligent conversation with and not feel either completely stupid, or too intelligent.
i like a guy who tries new things. even if he's nervous about it, that he tries it.
I like a guy who pays attention. my boyfriend, before we started dating, we used to hang out all the time, go to random stores and just goof off. my birthday was coming up. at some point(s) during our time together, i had mentioned i loved fire and ice roses, and i had mentioned a certian book i wanted. for my birthday, several months after the fact, he not only special ordered the roses for me, but, because he couldn't remember which book i wanted, he got me TWO of similar topics., hoping one would be the proper book.
that is what i look for in a guy. its pretty rare...i've only found one like him ;-)
2007-02-06 16:15:13 · answer #7 · answered by tanja_berengue 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a girl but in general similarity and financial stability. There's a large cultural component to what women find attractive too. I think the girls you're talking about seem to be suggesting they like guys with more self-confidence?
2007-02-13 11:47:56 · answer #8 · answered by Basil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy must have a sense of humor and understanding. Looks are important but not always the "thing" girls are looking for. Just be strait up honest with us about what you are looking for and what you want in life. and don't try to show off your muscles it really is a turn off!!!!
2007-02-06 14:51:17 · answer #9 · answered by hardcore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guy is my best friend. He is masculine yet, feminine which makes him a well-balanced person.
He is adventurous, with a great sense of humour, loving and supportive. He is my greatest sense of security and comfort. We can talk about anything and everything.
He's a most generous lover and great in the kitchen! On top of all this, he is a knock-out. How can I ask for more than this?!
I am one very lucky (and happy) girl. :-)
2007-02-12 02:34:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Within your question you mentioned your appearance, that you are focused on your studies and don't cheat on a girl . . . Yet I read no mention of your core values, no mention of reflection of your inner self, humor, deeper values, how or if you embrace life . . .
I read of a person that spoke of their appearance, their outside . . . very little to no mention of self inside.
For me personally. . . a man as that has no interest for me. A shell (the appearance) is the shell. It's who a person is within that " shell " that I would be really be relating to and spending time with.
You asked . . . that is what I look for in a guy without my mentioning specifics here due to the way you reflected your question.
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2007-02-06 14:49:38 · answer #11 · answered by onelight 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋