I'm friends with a guy who has a long distance boyfriend. He knows I am attracted to him, and told me he just wants to be friends. the other night we went out drinking and I had to stay over at his place because i drank too much.. He told me that nobody is allowed to sleep in his bed with him, and I would have to sleep on the floor.
Then he told me I could sleep in his bed, but I had to behave.. which I did, but 5 min later, he put his hands down my pants and the rest of the night he was wanting me to hug him and put my hands down his pants.. The next morning he said he shouldn't have done that, and doesn't want to lead me on, and just wants to be friends.. yet he told me this while laying his head on my crotch.
Next day he told me again that he doesn't like me that way, just wants to be friends.. yet he is always flirting with me..
What should I do? does this guy like me, or is he insane??
2007-02-06 14:39:36 · 21 answers · asked by adair 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Recently we have spent every day together, and I always catch him looking down at my crotch.. I realize he could just feel guilty about cheating on his long distance boyfriend, but I don't get why he would tell me he doesn't like me that way- yet flirt with me and tease me-- confusing the hell out of me.. Is there a reason why he would lie to me and tell me he doesn't like me, yet when his inhibitions are taken away (alcohol) he wants to fool around?
2007-02-06 14:43:44 · update #1
He sounds like a sane pole smoker.
2007-02-06 14:42:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's leading you on. You're giving him the thrill of knowing that someone is attracted to him and he playing it up. You must be mildly at least attracted to you because you've fooled around a little when intoxicated, but nothing major I will point out.
You should move on and find someone who is really interested in you and stop wasting your time. If you really does like you when he starts seeing you with other guys he'll break it off with his long distance BF and want to be with you. If he doesn't then you know it was all a game...and it probably is.
2007-02-06 14:48:13 · answer #2 · answered by xander2025 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could have this guy in a physical way in about 3 seconds. If you even SUSPECT that you would want more out of this...as in, a relationship...you're barking up the wrong tree.
Please don't choose casual sex with him or anyone else, and always use protection. I'm just saying that because if he has his way, your physical encounter will be spur of the moment and you may not be prepared! Don't let your hormones or your heart talk you into doing something stupid...not to mention, this guy's boyfriend might be jealous and violent!
2007-02-06 14:43:50 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that he likes you. Or simply is horny and feeling conflicted between wanting to get laid and the fact of cheating. But for your sake, tell him that laying his head on your crotch and feeling some one up is cheating. So you either become the "other person" or tell him that while he is in a relationship he can't be groping you. Good luck. And of course he may be playing hard to get(no phun intended).
2007-02-06 14:45:58 · answer #4 · answered by andy_thaxton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is attracted to you, but doesn't want to cheat on his boyfriend... You should give him plenty of space until he decides exactly what it is he wants to do with that relationship. His decision shouldn't be based on any pressure or enticement from you.
2007-02-06 14:43:15 · answer #5 · answered by Jason 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He was most likely under the influence of alcohol, I would stay friends.
2007-02-06 14:43:15 · answer #6 · answered by baa2320 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's a nut whos trying too hard to be straight...but is really gay...so tell him to grow up and either be 'friends' or boyfriends...
2007-02-06 14:43:47 · answer #7 · answered by Chrys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You owe me $1. The answer is yes.
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2007-02-06 15:39:03 · answer #9 · answered by bruce 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if he did like you, why would you want to be with a person like that?
2007-02-06 14:43:12 · answer #10 · answered by Ann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋