sex fear help!?

Question

i've been sexually active for about 7 or 8 months with my boyfriend and he's never had his own room. therefore its hard to find times when we can have sex in private,or have to be very quiet, and i always have the fear of someone walking in or catching us. Now my preceptions of sex are really not good because i'm not comforable and my boyfriend wants to know why i "dont want to be intimate with him" any suggestions?!!?!?

I'm 19 almost 20 (Feb. 23) and i'm a full time college student.

Answer 1

tell him the truth

Answer 2

Your experiences of hiding and fear durring sex have been conditioned into you because of the situation you do it in. You gotta find a better time and place. Make sex a special thing, instead of something rushed.

Maybe get a new boy friend who has a room.

Answer 3

tell him the truth, I'm sure he'll understand. If you explain the problem to him maybe you two can work something out. Since you've been together for so long it shouldn't be a problem. Also, use the opportunity to look for exciting places outside of the bedroom to do the deed, that should amp up the excitement!

Try the site below...

Answer 4

Well talk to him about it. talking really helps a lot. Tell him how u dont want to do it in a area that is not private. Tell him you got other things in your mind like people walking in on u guyz. Tell him if he wants to get intimate go to a more private location or when his/ur parents are out :D

Answer 5

You are refusing sex for fear of being caught? I understand why you are hesitant to say this, because it's a pretty lame excuse. I think there are more fears involved than that, or the relationship is not all that great.

Answer 6

Sounds to me the both of you need to do some growing up. What? r u like 14 or something. Apparently, neither of you drive yet or have a car. My words for you would be to abstain at least till you can go parking in a car or something.

Answer 7

Just tell him why! Ok, just say " I really like having sex with you, but I hate thinking we have to do it quietly, or having the fear of someone walking in. So can we try to find a better place?" Just talk to him about it, and tell him that its not his fault, or else he will start thinking you dont like doing it with him, and that will cause problems!
Hope this helps! :)

Answer 8

I don't understand, you just said that you have been sexually active and then you say you don't want to be intimate !
my suggestion if he doesn't have a room then take him to your room.
another alternative is rent a room for that special day
or if you know a friend who got an extra room then you could ask for a favour
easy..... problem solved

Answer 9

it all depends on how old u are too, if u 2 want to be together get an apartment and then u have all the privacy u want. if ure not at that age yet, then check into a motel or a hotel.
just be careful

Answer 10

tell him unless it's done in private and without the fear of anyone walking in on you, it's over! simple. you have every right to feel comfortable having sex, don't let this ruin your experience...and just food for thought, next time wait until it's more appropriate to even begin sexual relations, I mean, you obviously knew he didn't have his own room, so if you feel so bad about it, don't let him pressure you, do what makes you feel good....wait til your married..

Answer 11

# 1 how old are you? Because if you are older than 16 i would guess you have a brain big enough to make your own choices and speak your mind, not run to a computer for answers. TELL HIM YOUR FEELINGS! Doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure this out, hun.