Im 15 and ive had sex with my best friend how do i tell my mom and we didnt use protection or anything else
2007-02-06 14:22:39 · 28 answers · asked by bludanez 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
be honest and humble and be prepared for a most likely emotional response.
2007-02-06 14:26:45 · answer #1 · answered by Danielle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really need to tell her? If you feel you have to, I'm sure you will figure out the best way to do it, although I don't think it is really necessary. Moms are different - some understand, some get upset, some get truly mad and there are even moms who just don't seem to care. You know your mom - think well before you take a decisive step.
What is very important, however, is to be responsible - use protection, baby. There is nothing wrong with sex really, but do use protection. There are serious problems and complications you don't want to get. If the guy is worthy, if he is your best friend, he wouldn't mind, on the contrary - he should show that he cares for you.
Take care :)
2007-02-07 05:16:25 · answer #2 · answered by nelabis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy does this sound familiar....
I never told my Mom, but now that she is gone, I wish I had.
I would start out by telling her you want to have an open and honest relationship with her. Tell her you want to tell her something very important and that you know you could come to her. That is what I hope my girls will tell me.
My guess is that she will be upset about your life choice, but will in the end, be supportive and glad that you trusted her enough to confide in her.
But... be prepared to be disappointed, at least, at first. She may be so upset in the beginning, don' t fly off the handle. Remember, she is your Mom and is supposed to be very protective of you.
It sounds like you value your Mom's opinion, otherwise you wouldn't be asking for help in telling her, so remember to be calm and remain rational.
If at any point you think that it is getting out of control, or not going the way you are comfortable with, tell her and leave for a while to cool off. This is definitely not something that you want to FIGHT about. This is a huge step in growing up. If you were my daughter, I would be glad to talk to you about it. I hope she feels the same way.
Good Luck!
2007-02-06 22:32:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Usually Mom is the best friend of you. You should not worry about how she reacts. You should just tell her the truth and she will protect you. First, she may be mad at you but she knows what she has to do if your mom is a decent person.
You should not have unsafe sex again.
2007-02-07 00:20:55 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No reason to tell your mom unless you feel you may be pregnant, purchase a test or go to planned parenthood before you say anything. Your sex life is personal no ones buisiness but you own. Obtain birth control, you may do so from Planned Parenthood, county health dept, your doctor without your parents knowing.
2007-02-07 09:12:35 · answer #5 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well no mother wants to hear there child is having sex but just be honest and tell her and remember always use protection
2007-02-08 13:33:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way, but to be open and honest, but be prepared because she will probably be upset about you only being 15, not married and you were not smart enough to use protection. With so many diseases and unplanned pregnancies out there.
2007-02-06 22:28:07 · answer #7 · answered by faith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you literally screwed yourself over. you will need tot ell her. since you didnt use prtection you could be pregnant of have a std.... so just explain to her what happned and go get testes in 6 months for HIV/AIDS (this is show long it take for HIV virus to show up on test) and get tested for other things such as clamidya, gohnorreah, syphillus... the list goes on and one.. you knew you were putting yourself at risk so why did you in the firt place??also take a pregnancy test after you miss you period (if you do) which there is always a possibility... well you are naive and shouldnt be having sex in the first place since you are so irresponsible.....
2007-02-07 02:06:16 · answer #8 · answered by laa dee da 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really feel like you need to tell your mom, then just be honest. It's not like you absolutley have to tell your mom you had sex. You can do things like getting birth control and emergency contraception without her having to know. It's up to you whether you want to tell her or not.
2007-02-07 16:25:14 · answer #9 · answered by ohboyitsporkchops 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please please tell her right now as so many thing can go wrong, you could be pregnant, or have a disease, yes she is going to be up set but it will be worse if you have to tell her that you not only had unprotected sex but you have an even bigger problem, . She can and will help you. if this doesn't happen for what ever reason please go to to the school nurse and get her help. and no more sex until you are much better educated.
2007-02-06 23:07:05 · answer #10 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel you need to tell your mom? If things go wrong (and the odds are there, but they're really not as high as some people make them out to be) and you do turn out to be pregnant or have developed a disease, then you'll want to tel your mom, who will hopefully be more worried about you than upset with you. If you just tell her now, she might just be really p*ssed off with you.
Unless you need her advice on something sexually related, I just don't see why mom needs to know. Mom's don't always *want* to know these things! I am one, I know!
2007-02-06 22:27:46 · answer #11 · answered by RIffRaffMama 4 · 9⤊ 0⤋