When I was deployed My wife cheated on me, I dated her for over 6 years before we married and have a beautiful son who is now 4. It only took her 3 months to decide what she wanted to do. I called her on our annerversary, and believe it or not, thats when she broke the news. I've never cheated on anyone, I can honestly say that. I came back homeless. So after losing some friends I also lose my wife and kid. She is still with him now for 3 years, and no were not divorced, by staying married I can send more money to my kid. I still love her and want her and my son back in my life, and here in korea. This man cheats on her, and she knows it but still she stays. Just so happens hes a black man with no job at present. Im not racist but now I hate everything about it, hip hop, the clothes, BET, all that. I dont mean to offend. This has really destroyed my life.
2007-02-06 14:21:14 · 20 answers · asked by sxysoldier32o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sorry but she sounds like an easy slut and isn't worth your time. She couldn't go THREE MONTHS without getting laid? That's pretty sad, but it's better to find out now than later. She is NOT worth your time because you sound like you're truly a good person. I don't blame you for your resentment towards the guy and his culture--that's just human nature to hate everything about it because it all reminds you of his sorry ***. I know you love her because of what you had with her, but you didn't honestly know the real "her". If you did, you never wouldn've wasted your time on her. You need to divorce her, get custody of your son and move on. I know you love her, but you DO NOT want her and some random worthless thug raising your little boy. He deserves better than that and so do you. By the way you're amazing for going to war for our country. Thank you.
2007-02-06 15:37:05 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Ya know.. I really hate this situation for you, I can understand your frustration and all behind this, but to be honest she is not right for you then because a real women that loves her husband regardless how long you were gone would have never played the field.. It's not that serious.. she could have waited.. I also know that you hate the guy and all, but honestly it was her decision, she's the fool if she wants to stay with a man that has no job and cheats on her.. they say what goes around comes around so she's getting what she deserves.. as far as him being black.. that really don't have nothing to do with it, he could've been white and doing the same thing to her.. there are alot of low life men that are dogs.. white, black, hispanic, whatever.. but it's the women that are fools to stay in that relationship... if I was you I'd move on and I know that is easier said then done, but she no good.. let her have that life and in the meantime take care of your son, and be the father to him that he needs, cause it's obvious that she is not setting a good example for him, and I want to say this also.. not all black men are like that.. my husband is a black man and we have 5 children tiogether and he works very hard for our family, she just gotten herself a thug... and that shows how much she thinks about herself.. well good luck and I wish the best for you...
2007-02-06 22:34:37 · answer #2 · answered by mmarie1221 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am an army wife, my husband and I have been married for 3 years-about- He has been in Iraq for 7 months, and no matter how sad i get or lonely I never even THINK about cheating on him. You know why? Because I love him more than anything, we have a 5 yr old son and a 9 month old daughter. Shes not cut out to be your wife, you deserve better....
2007-02-06 22:33:33 · answer #3 · answered by cherokee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To her it doesn't matter if you are a good guy or a bad guy. She wants someone with her and thats all that matters. Selfish, yes, very much so. The guy probably sweet talked her and said some crap like if I was with you I wouldn't leave and blah blah blah. Women need to realize when they have a good man and they are trying to do a good thing thats where those sex shops come in handy. Go out and buy a toy. You don't need to cheat on your spouse just because they are fighting for our country. I know why you didn't file for divorce but as long as you are married they are going to use your money and that makes me want to go whip her ***. Go talk to the family advocacy where you are. They Might be able to help you.
2007-02-06 22:38:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pay your child support and keep it moving. If she could cheat on you while you are away than you don't need her. If you spend your time thinking about it you might get yourself killed so stop! If she want to be with a dog than let her it's just karma what goes around comes around. Just becuz he's black doesn't make him a dog any man any color can be a dog. You will find you a good woman when the time is right. Get over it the sooner the better.
2007-02-06 23:15:08 · answer #5 · answered by IceQueen_Always2002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry this happend to you buddy. but I as a woman have known of other women that don't settle for the good guy. No offense here ladies, but there are just some women that like to be treated like crap and still stay with them, you know what it is? They are blinded by love. Be there for your son, she will get tired of his cheating and realize she had it good with you! Keep your head up! and god bless you!!
by the way I agree with the first two answerers!
2007-02-06 22:27:56 · answer #6 · answered by Shorty06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you still want to be with someone who is so willing to hurt you? This is not a good situation for your son. He is seeing that it is okay to cheat and lie. You should not be angry with this man (even though he should not be with a married woman). Your wife is the one who chose to do this. Move on with your life and simply be a good father to your child.
2007-02-06 22:29:53 · answer #7 · answered by suz' 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don`t let that bother you it could have easily been someone one else don`t blame the race color or creed this person is just bad as so is your wife or Ex. Get a divorce and move on.. Good luck. Oh if your gonna join the military don`t get married it`s a bad combination.
2007-02-06 22:37:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm here in Germany. I see this type of stuff happening all the time. Cut her off. She will mentally destroy you. Just think, if you want to see your son, you haven't lost him. Go to JAG and get papers drawn up so you guys have shared custody. Just because your relationship with her is over, doesn't mean it has to be over between you and your son.
2007-02-06 22:41:46 · answer #9 · answered by L G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wont be the one to say be a cut-throat. But who do you think your boy is better off with? Do the right thing. If you want to be with your kid and her out that get ready for a battle in court. DOCUMENT MONEY SENT TO HER like was said before! If possible, send by check so its easier to trace. DO NOT do it by allotment.
Fuckit! Get your kid back...he dont need to grow up that way!
Hate it for ya dude. :( Especially that little guy
2007-02-06 22:37:18 · answer #10 · answered by Crazy Bi Chick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋