We may be going to court for visitation rights to our son, but he is not my friend. He cheated, lied stole and hasn't supported out son ever in these years past 9 years. He spent at 8 years in and out of prison and I figured since he had a drug problem if he just got his life together he would be straight. But when he started to get it together he lied about seeing another woman that is a drunk and control freak that is jealous of me but I don't want anymore he's a loser.
But he has the nerve to say we are friends but with friends like him, who needs enemies?
I am filing for child support but I don't want my son to leave this state to visit b/c the loser is in another state. He says he wants to see him and I can't deny my son him b/c he loves. Why are guys azzholes like this?
No I didn't know he was a creep before I got pregnant.
I have an education
I don't live in the projects
I work
People that have an understanding please answer.
2007-02-06 14:19:36 · 12 answers · asked by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He has a criminal record and I know he can't get custody b/c my son has lived here over 8 years and has an attachment to his grandparents and school. He can't take him away from me.
2007-02-06 14:21:48 · update #1
Yip y is a loser
2007-02-06 14:29:18 · update #2
Your ex is hoping you can be friends for your son's sake. You don't have to be his friend but don't talk against him to your son. It is his father, even though he has made a lot of mistakes. Your son needs to have his father in his life and hopefully it will have a positive effect on him. The court will decide what kind of visits he will get. I hope it works out for your son. He's really the only one that can win in this situation.
2007-02-06 14:29:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your ex doesn't know what the real meaning of 'friend' is. Consider yourself lucky that you are no longer with him. There is an organization that can help you as far as the court situation with your son. Look into CASA/Guardian Ad Litem in your area. They will assess the situation (for free) and speak to the judge on behalf of your son's best interests. There are also laws governing visitation out of the court jurisdiction that will help protect you and your son. It also sounds like you are still dealing with feelings for your ex, and that makes it harder for you to cope. But, you seem to have your act together. Have faith and confidence in yourself in knowing that you can handle anything. Praying to whatever God you believe in will be a source of strength for you. By the way, your ex can have visitation with you there. It does not need to be out of state. My best to you.! Just remember to 'be there' for your son. He is going through a lot more than you may realize. Often they think everything is their fault and the problems you and your ex are having he may think he caused. Keep up the good work in being a good Mom.
2007-02-06 14:40:28 · answer #2 · answered by cameo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people who play the "still friends" card when there's no basis for a friendship are trying to make themselves feel better. Don't pay it any attention. If he called you a frog you wouldn't turn green; if he calls you his "friend" it doesn't make you that either.
He can SAY whatever he wants, but the only route to friendship is to BE a friend. I'd ignore it and be as cheerful but objective as possible about the visitation. Don't let him play on your sympathies (and possibly get out of paying child support) by trading on the "friend" malarkey.
2007-02-06 15:14:23 · answer #3 · answered by sparticle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lt looks like you'll be raising your son on your own. A person like your ex who can't get their act together should be left to fend for themselves. He is way too old and should be responsible by now.
Just continue being a good parent. Focus on your son and your future together. Your lovelife can wait. Make sure you truly know the person you'll fell for the next time.
We all learn from our mistakes.
l wish you and your son happines...
2007-02-06 14:29:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some ex- es just feel the need to get under your skin and hurt you in any way they can because they're jealous that you're able to go on with your life without them and be happy about it.
2007-02-06 14:24:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry, he does not have a chance, if he still has a bad standing with his parole with drugs involed there will be a chance he will not get the child and the child is 8yrs. old and the judge will ask the child what he wants to do or be with. he has no chance unless he has better him self and is doing great.
2007-02-06 14:27:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is not a fun situation and many times our ex's can make things even worse.
Sounds to me like he is trying to suck up so that you will be easier on him in court. Stand your ground and GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-06 15:21:54 · answer #7 · answered by Linda L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See, chicks like you always go for sex with the "biker outlaw" types and turn down the nice guys because they are considered losers.
I say you're getting what you deserve
2007-02-06 14:28:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
because maybe he wants to be your friend and not on bad terms with you.
2007-02-06 14:42:48 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cuz he wants a lil sumdin sumsdin yadadadamean?
2007-02-06 14:22:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋