We started talking he helped me out with my problems and i've helped him out. we got to know each other alot better and i'm really starting to like him. he's told me b4 that he's liked me and its up to me if i want to make something of it. he has never cheated on his wife b4. he doesnt have the best relationship with his family. what do i do?
2007-02-06 14:16:48 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If he told you that it was up to you if you wanted to make something of it.Chances are he has done this before.If he was faithful to his wife is wouldn't start a relationship of any kind with you,or any one else.He would work on his marriage.Besides,most married men who do cheat,are running from the problems they have at home.Instead of being a real man and handling them as they should do.Not to mention the fact that you are on the verge of becoming the other woman.He won't leave his wife for you,but he will have you as a booty call.Especially when he and his wife are not getting along.Is that what you really want?Use the beautiful brain God gave you and make the decision that is going to keep you from becoming a home wrecker.
2007-02-06 14:39:18 · answer #1 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I just want to say that your fling and his wife are not doing their children any favors continuing to live together. Children are incredibly perceptive to what's going on around them. As we age into adults and are forced to balance the values we were taught and the values we have learned, we forget that. Second ... your instincts are kicking in because they are trying to tell you this man is getting way too attached. Things are about to get royally messy girlfriend. He is a fling, nothing more. He and his wife clearly have an arrangement that does not involve messy emotions with their flings. The guy are you messing with is breaking that rule. Put yourself in her situation; you and your husband have an arrangement that you're honoring but he's breaking. I'm not judging you or what you're doing; I'm adult enough to know that adult relationships are rarely ever black and white. We all play in shades of grey at one point or another. All I'm saying is protect yourself. Cut this off now before you find yourself in the middle of some married dude's bullsh*t drama you didn't sign up for.
2016-03-29 08:48:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very wrong! why does girls always think that a guy that tells you that he has never cheated on his wife,believes that is the Gospel truth, he is just telling you that so you would believe every word he tells you. "Come into my lair say the spider to the fly" is very true. Once he has you in his control he will be happy for some time then, he is going to say that his wife found out about you two, and he realized he made a mistake in being unfaithful and will end the relationship, he has with you. I hope you will reconsider ,and will try to think a little bit harder about it, and if you do decide to have an affair with this guy, be ready for the consequences.
2007-02-06 14:34:21 · answer #3 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES is WRONG!!! He is taken!! M.A.R.R.I.E.D.!! You have no rights to him! Sure he has never cheated on his wife before! This is what he will be telling the other women if you are foolish enough to believe him and involve yrself in a relationship with this creep. Did he have the decency to at least tell his wife that he has been unhappy? Bet not, as this takes character. Not you but HIS WIFE ought to be helping him with his problems, and I am sure you have friends other than a married man to help with yours! Wether he has or does not have the best relationship with his family...do yrself and his poor kids a favour, and STAY AWAY!
2007-02-06 14:26:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you honestly believe that? once a cheat always a cheat. if he has marriage problems and would rather cheat than work them out what does that say about him? if things don't work out with you then he'll cheat on you too. do you really want to mess around with someone who goes home to his wife's bed every night? how do you know there's problems with his wife anyway? did she tell you so? could it be that maybe all is fine at home for a normal marriage is concerned and that he just wants some *** outside of home?what about the wife? what if you were the wife? would you think it was ok?
2007-02-06 14:24:58 · answer #5 · answered by LostInReality 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you know he hasn't cheated on his wife before? After all he did chea on her with you, right? I wouldn't pursue this relationship because you will suddenly be number 2 in his life. Ask him to leave his wife and never return(divorce) and see what he says. If he isn't ready for that, he's playing you. On the other hand if he does then I would go for it but always protect and do for you first. Take care
2007-02-06 14:24:02 · answer #6 · answered by nursey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never a good idea to mess around with a married man. For one, it's not good for you because you're tying yourself to a man who may never belong to you. For two, it's not good for the man because he's caught between two women. For three, it's especially not fair to his wife who probably has no idea he's even considering this. I've been in "the wife" position. It's never fun. So think about all of that before you make any decision.
2007-02-06 14:20:23 · answer #7 · answered by gigagiggle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DON'T BE THE OTHER WOMAN. How would you feel if you were his wife? He took a vow. Why should you be the one to help him break it? He's going to cheat with or without you.
Have more respect for yourself and the people around you. You won't get anywhere dating a married man. My mom dated married men for more than a decade and now that she's in her 50's, she's all alone because she never took the time to meet a man who wasn't married.
2007-02-06 14:21:58 · answer #8 · answered by Galoshes 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have had friends in similiar situations and trust me it is better for you not to get involved in these kind of conflicts someone always ends up hurt. My friend went with a married man and it bought pain and drama in her life she didn't need the wife found out and found out where she worked and went to her job and in front of everyone told them she was having an affiar with her husband it was drama and chaos she got fired. Also think about it this way if he would do it to her why wouldn't he do it to you? whats so diffrent really?
P.S. have u ever seen the movie "unfaithful"
2007-02-06 14:33:32 · answer #9 · answered by LOOKING 4 ANSWERS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it from an older woman, run, get out, STOP, I may be wrong, but he probably has cheated before, don't believe everything you hear, there is a reason he does not have a good relationship with his family , and the cheating issue could be it i.e. he could be a repeat offender. Also, statistically, you will wind up getting hurt.
2007-02-06 14:25:55 · answer #10 · answered by vivib 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋