I think my best friend hates me?

Question

iv'e been best friends with my best friend for 5 years, wev'e been really close, like sisters, we'd do everything together, have the best time, tell each other everything, and would always be there for each other. now i only see her once every 2 weeks if that, she doesnt say much to me anymore, she rarly talks to me online, never on the phone either. I don't know what i did, i do all i can to hold a conversation with her but she only says a few words and has nothing to say to me. I ask her what i did she says nothing. I'm at a lost about whats going on.

Answer 1

Okay, it sounds like either she's going through something she doesn't want someone, who would clearly be able to identify, to know... Or you did something and don't know about it.

Solution: Ask her to come over, or get something to eat, or go somewhere that means something to you two. Make sure you ask her and talk to her alone. It's probably best to not bombard her when she is around other people. Make sure you tell you you're there for her, and you really need her to explain why she is retracting from you. Tell her what your friendship means to you. Make sure you don't lose patience.

I hope this helps, best of luck!

Answer 2

I don't really know what kind of personalities either of you have so it's hard to say. There could be different reasons as to why she's acting that way. But if I were your friend, I would be acting like that because I wanted to distance myself. I might be that way towards someone who's too attached to me while I'm not attached to them.

Think about your friendship before you guys drifted. Were you the one who put more effort into it? Were you the one that always called first? Always talked more? Sometimes, it's best to just let things be. See if she makes any effort to keep in touch with you. If not, she probably isn't feeling the same way about the friendship. It's up to you to decide whether or not you want to keep a friend that feels that way.

Answer 3

Sometimes people just grow apart. this can happen at any age or stage in life. Some people tend to get sidetracked or have other things going on that make them want time to themselves. If you've tried to ask what's wrong and she doesn't have an answer, just back off and give her some time. If she's as good a friend as you thought eventually she'll come around. If not, don't cry over something that can't cry over you, hun.

Answer 4

If she said that you did nothing wrong, then respect her answer and know that you " did nothing " wrong.

Don't concern yourself too much about what you did wrong. If you indeed did something wrong, when she's ready to discuss it, you'll hear about it.

Meanwhile, let her have her space. She'll respect you more and let her have this time to reflect on her decision as well.
Perhaps you didn't do anything wrong at all.
Perhaps it is her that did something wrong.
Perhaps she has slipped into a depression or have some personal problems to deal with.

In any event, respect her and give her her space.

Answer 5

Then why is she your best friend?

Just try and work it out by talking. It happened to me with two of my best friends...it was really sad, but sometimes people just grow apart...you really have to go over each others' houses and talk more, that's the only way to stay close! Take it from someone with experience...

Good luck! ;-)

Answer 6

looks like u guys r growing apart. best friends come and go but true friends come and stay. maybe it's that u don't see her a lot anymore and that she found other friends. don't worry about it hun. that's just how life goes. find new friends and start hanging out with new ppl. do other fun stuff with ur other friends. just becuz u don't talk or see her that much anymore, doesn't mean u guys hate eachother. maybe u guys just need to move on. good luck!
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Answer 7

It happens to the best of us.Probably your friend is going through somethings that she can't even tell you ...even though you've been tight for that long.Just give her some space and some time(not too much and not too little, just enough)to deal with whatever is bothering her,she's bound to come around.Also don't be too hard on yourself, just take it one day at a time.

Answer 8

Sounds like maybe you've grown apart, and just don't have much in common any more. Maybe she feels this and you don't and she no longer feel the "bff" thing for you. It happens. I'd find out and stop trying to hang with her if she doesn't want to, she might jut not know how to tell you and doesn't want to hurt you so she says nothing.