Opinion about my bf?

Question

My boyfriend is a very hardworking man, loyal and all the good thing a woman would ever ask for a man.
He is also a dedicated Apostolic Christian. He goes to church every Tuesday, Wednesday, Friday and Sunday
(Church Service, Sunday School etc.) Also, he wakes up at 3am every single day just to pray, read the bible and
bible study online before going to work. It drives me crazy and I am getting worried, He was one time upset
because he missed church for a day or two because they had to work late in the office. He said he would
considerlooking for another job if that happens again. He also brings his very huge and thick Bible wherever
he goes and reads it whenever possible (lunch break etc). He have read the Bible back to back a million times
over and over again and he said he would still do over and over again. (note he also reads Bible Study online)
He also mentioned that he prays for me everyday that I would go to heaven and blah bla

told him he is a
fu(king crazy guy




for doing so. He also admitted that he would consider becoming a Pastor in the future not unless
I disagree. It is really driving me crazy as hell. I am worried he might turn into some Bible thumper lunatic
one day. We are getting married next year and now I am having second thoughts. Don't get me wrong, I was aware
he is a religious person when we were just dating. But as the year passed, I think he is over doing it.
Do you agree he is over doing it?

Answer 1

hes a dork

Answer 2

I, too, am Apostolic. What you are describing is normal for us. I go to church Wednesday and Sunday and any other day the doors are open. I go to every function within a reasonable distance from my house. My husband and I hold a bible study with our children every night that we don't have church. I read my bible daily and get up early each day to pray.

My husband has been called to be a minister. It's not easy. Being a pastors wife is a huge responsibility, and not something you can take lightly. If you don't think you can live with him as he is, and also become as passionate about God as he is you need to call off the wedding now.

Answer 3

WOW..thatz a really tough situation..well im religious too, but i dont think i'd be able to marry someone like that..if he's driving u crazy now, then it might be worse in the future.. and ur kids will probably end up like him.. i think he is over doing ...its a good thing that u live with him now becuz thats what coulpes should do before they get married, so they can picture how their future will be and see how their companion lives and acts..since this is driving u crazy, i think u should seriously think about what u want..but i do think he's over doing it...if i were u, id end it..sorry...but if u can put up with it the rest of ur life and dont have a problem with the fact that ur kids will be just like him, then saty with him...listen to ur gut instict..

Answer 4

I won't say he is overdoing it. Some people really are serious about their faith in Christ. I know, though, that he would probably want you to do the same as he does, and so if you don't like what he is doing, perhaps rethinking things is the best thing to do at the moment. I can tell you that I won't ever be able to do that. I can hardly survive going to Mass 1 day a week, so I can never go 4.

Answer 5

I do believe he is over doing it. Sometimes when people put that much effort into trying to live exactly like the Bible says they end up going over the edge at some point. I mean his intentions seem well, but it has become an obsession/compulsion for him. I would consider your decision to marry him very carefully. If he expects you to be perfect and live by the Bible as much as he does it sounds as if this could cause trouble.

Answer 6

Hi!
No, I don't think your Fiance is over doing it. Some people get more devoted over the Bible and Religion as time goes on and there's nothing wrong with that.

Being that he is getting on your nerves with this, only you can tell him how you feel about it. And, discuss it BEFORE you get married and you both need to come to an understanding on the subject.

Let us know what happens.

Answer 7

If it is driving you crazy now it won't get any better after you marry. So, tell him that it is driving you crazy and you don't think getting married is the thing you want to do.
Find someone that has the same desire to do the church thing as you do. You will be much happier.

Answer 8

In my opinion this dude is a fanatic....seriously......unless you know that this is going to be an issue with many late night arguments, then you should reconsider getting married....I mean, I was raised in a christian home, and yes, it's important to go to church on sundays and the odd prayer meeting, etc...but it's not about appearances, it's about what's truly in your heart, if he loves God, then that's terrific, but then he would know that God isn't expecting him to seek another job if he missed a sunday school once or twice...I'm guessing he never works on Sundays, and that's good enough....he should tone it down if he really wants to be with you, I dunno, you'll have to make up your own mind, but really, is this how you want your life to be run??

Answer 9

IF you read the Bible a million times, like you said, then surely, you read where it states, that once you have laid with someone, that in Gods' eyes, you ARE considered married. Or.....did you happen to skip that part?

Answer 10

well..it's good that he's a good person. But it looks to me like he would take his religion over you any day of the week. Not saying religion is bad. but I know of plenty of people who are married to NON-religious persons..and have had very successful relationships. But if this is driving you CRAZY.... I would Totally re-evaluate if this would be good for you.

Answer 11

I think it sounds like he's overdoing it...if you feel uncomfortable why don't you talk to him about it? If this is going to rule his life, it might make things harder for you, since it's already worrying you and you're not even married...Sounds a bit fanatic to me