2007-02-06 13:59:04 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
just because (and I'm assuming here) that you and the father are not together any longer does not make him NOT her father.
it's out of your hands now. and if, when she is an adult, decides to change her name she can. OR if you are re-married and your husband wants to adopt her if her father has abandoned her...then he can do that and give her HIS name.
don't take from her the one last thing that connects her to her birth father.
2007-02-06 14:08:23 · answer #1 · answered by ☆MWφM☆ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well that depends. My mom gave me her last name instead of my bio-father! It worked out pretty good but it did feel weird when she got married because I was seperated from the family by my last name. We are planning on changing my last name though. I think that it would be a good idea to if you don't want the father to have anything to do with the child. It worked for me.
2007-02-07 12:29:11 · answer #2 · answered by Gecko'sGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With whom does your daughter live?
Sometimes when parents split Moms feel better about having the same last name as their young children. I can understand this.
If she only lives with you, but you still want her to have her father's name you can do like they do in Holland and the Netherlands:
Give her Dad's last name as a middle name & mom's last name as a last name. So, Dad Smith and Mom Brown would name their daughter Girly Smith Brown.
2007-02-06 22:04:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends....if he is in her life and loves her...definately keep her father's last name....If he is a dead beat dad that doesn't want anything to do with her...change it....A very delicate matter....you don't want to undermine her self esteem. A daughter needs to identify with her father....it helps her feel as though she has value...but if he refuses to be part of her life...why have a name be a constant reminder of what she doesn't have. Be Blessed.
2007-02-06 22:03:38 · answer #4 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
now that the baby has her fathers last name i don't think you can just change it without him having a say in it.
2007-02-06 22:04:42 · answer #5 · answered by bassetluv 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hmmm are u guys together? i mean still living with each other? i didn't change my daughter's last name is her father's last name...its up to u....
2007-02-06 22:02:21 · answer #6 · answered by Legant 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's HER name...leave it alone if she is not old enough to make an informed choice. If she is, let her decide. My 2 girls are adopted, and we could have changed their birth names if we had wanted to. We chose to let them keep the only thing they had that came from their birth mom.
2007-02-06 23:02:02 · answer #7 · answered by tiger 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think it should really be ur daughter's choice if she is old enough to make that choice if not, i feel it should be who ever she is living with last name if u guys r divorced
2007-02-06 22:05:21 · answer #8 · answered by KeKe 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should carry her father's name, unless she chooses otherwise when she is old enough to make that decision.
2007-02-06 22:08:09 · answer #9 · answered by T Time 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i changed my sons name after my exhusband left us both and moved 2000 miles away. i also changed my name back to my maiden name so our names r now the same
2007-02-06 22:04:30 · answer #10 · answered by want a princess baby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋