I am 7 weeks pregnant and just announced the news to my sister and my bil. This pregnancy is a long time coming, we waited quite some time before trying and now that we have decided to make the leap we are really excited. We are 32 years old and have been married for 5 years. My sister has a 4 year old and I thought she would be over the moon. She seemed excited for about a 30 second hug and then went onto another thing the topic hardly came up for the rest of the night. Maybe I was expecting too much or I am just hormonal.
Anyways, were any of you disappointed in the reaction when you announced the news?
2007-02-06 13:46:31 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Don't worry you're not the only one who imagined your family jumping up & down, hugging you crazily like they do in the movies. We broke the news to my Mother and my husband's Mother, Father & Sister at the one time. My Mother was excited and had a little bit of a cry, my Mother & Father-in-law just said "Oh that's good" and my Sister-in-law didn't say a WORD!!! With her it was complete jealousy as her marriage had broken down & she's 38 without any prospects of a man or having children, but we were still shocked that she said NOTHING. They then said "Oh well, we better go" and didn't hang around. My friend announced her pregnancy to her family recently and got similar reactions. Her Mother was showing her something in a magazine when she told her the news and she basically just said, "Oh right ok. Good. Here let me show you the article I was talking about" and changed the subject. So I totally understand. I don't think it's being hormonal I think we all just expected too much. As long as you and your husband are excited then enjoy it and enjoy your time together before bub comes along. Congratulations!
2007-02-06 14:20:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was so disappointed in the reactions of my family and my husbands family when we told them the first time I was pregnant. It just came out to be..an "Oh." That was it, nothing more. THe second time I got the same thing, plus a little "I thought you didn't want another one." FIrst off I was so insulted by my mother saying that, no congrats, no smile, no hug no how are you feeling, just, she thought we didn't want another one. Why I don't know. My husbands family did the same, only they made a stament of how hard two is and had the nerve to ask if I was up for it.
We're on our third now and had..yet again the same reaction, and it's just as hard to hear it as it was the last times, but this way around I'm waving their comments off. We're happy, it's the only thing that matters and we are so overjoyed by the fact that we're keeping it under wraps so no one, no one from either side has a chance to ruin it for us. I already told my doctor I don't want anyone besides my husband and my kids at the hospital, and dont' want a single visitor, which means they'd be turned away if they came anwyays. I also have set up a two week no visit at the house after baby and me are home. It's not the time for me to be dealing with whatever it is they may say and I just want no part of it. Impersonal, mean , rude, I don't care. They've ruined the first two pregnancies for us both and we want this one to be ours so we're making it special.
Don't blame yourself for being hormonal, I've always hated that, just because your pregnant, just because it may be that time of month or the mere fact your a woman doesn't mean you can't have feelings and emotions. So if you want my advice, be happy for yourself, make it special, it doesn't matter what they think anyways, it's your family your starting, one you've waited for and you should be as happy as you want throughout. As long as your happy, that's all that matters.
Good Luck, and many Congrats on your growing family!
2007-02-06 13:58:07 · answer #2 · answered by Bugster 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. I think that it is our joy and you want people, especially family to be as excited for you as you are for being pregnant. Also at this point you may be hormonal, and want lots of attention. ( not a bad thing) I felt the same way!! I am sure she is ecstatic for you. In time when you become further along and start to show more, I'm sure that she will talk a lot more about it. She will probably be wanting to throw you a shower.
2007-02-06 13:53:03 · answer #3 · answered by Tammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your sister and bil have been trying unsuccessfully for another baby for a while, then I can understand their reaction. But they should have at least pretended to be happier for you. I had been trying for three years when my sister told me she was pregnant, and she and her husband weren't even trying! I was heartbroken, jealous, frustrated, disappointed in myself, all kinds of horrible emotions, but I swallowed it all and put a smile on my face. Of course, I was happy for them too and I told them so, but I was crying inside.
If your sister hasn't been trying for another baby, then perhaps it would be worth asking her if everything is all right. Maybe it's nothing and maybe it's just your hormones, but you might feel better if you cleared the air.
2007-02-06 14:50:13 · answer #4 · answered by luckylab8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother actually told me to have an abortion and i was 36 years old at the time... On the bright side, my husband's family ( we were not married at the time) was OVERJOYED!!! My own mother has very little to do with me now and she is missing out on a beautiful lil girl.
2007-02-06 15:01:07 · answer #5 · answered by Lily18 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I was but my moms reaction was to kick me out of the house. Dont worry who else is happy for you, just enjoy your pregnancy.
2007-02-06 13:51:03 · answer #6 · answered by binglejells2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably is a little jealous.my sister in law showed no emotion when i had my babies and when she fell pregnant she wanted everybody to be happy for her and come and see her baby.she told me later she was jealous that i had fallen pregnant so easy.
2007-02-06 13:54:41 · answer #7 · answered by gym junkie mummy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋