I have known my partner for 10years, we are married for 3 year now. But love seem to have dies.
I love romance at heart to last till the day I die, but seem not gonna happen to me any in this lifetime. I love my hubby and he love me very much too but he is one spoilt child nature which being unfair to me.
Hopefully someone out there have the same reason and share with me your side of story, I guess talking it out does help.
Write to me....
2007-02-06 13:43:56 · 17 answers · asked by Abby Q 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
From my experience, Love can last forever! It takes time and really depends on how well there is communication between you and your lover! Take time to let each other know what's been bothering you! Be adventorous with him and love him each new day like you've never loved him before! Be consistant with what you do and above all, try to make him angry the least and keep him happy the most! If you at that, don't give up he will realise it one day!
2007-02-06 16:36:59 · answer #1 · answered by Ian Smith 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
love changes as people change. Are you the same person you were 15 years ago? What will you be doing in another 15 years?
If you've had children, and have jobs, and family pressures, it is hard to keep the idealized romantic love alive - it actually can't stay the same, but it can become a richer, stronger and more passionate relationship!
You just need to take the time together to WORK on it:)
2007-02-14 11:26:45 · answer #2 · answered by Leslie K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who doesn't want a love that lasts forever?
Yes, that is what we're all hoping for- a love that lasts a lifetime, but unfortunately people aren't that perfect. Different people share different experiences that has mold us into what we tend to be as we enter any kind of relationship.
What is important is that we have loved and though we've been hurt, we have tried to work it out!
2007-02-12 17:46:38 · answer #3 · answered by LadyLuv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOVE is a verb not a noun, The feelings of love die when you stop being loving. Sound like you need to focus on what you have and not what you don't. Every day write down three things you like about him. Focus on that and behave as if you were in love with him. 10 years is a long time something held you two together for this long . Try to remember what that is. No one person will ever be Everything you want them to be. Be grateful for what you have and let the rest go.
2007-02-14 11:36:56 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he know how you feel? Communication is a very vital part of a marrige. We all get into ruts, especially in a marriage. You can put spark and romance back into your marriage, but it takes work from you and your spouse. I've been married for almost 14 years and there were times I just wanted to pack my bags and leave, but I did not because I love him. No marriage is perfect and neither are we. It's like everything else out there, if you want it bad enough, you have to work for it. Don't let this eat you up inside, you'll start to have feelings of bitterness, then after that, it just keeps getting worse, until the love is all gone and there is nothing left. If he loves you like you say he does, he will respect and listen to you.
Give it a try, it won't hurt.
2007-02-14 12:51:52 · answer #5 · answered by Frances M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would say that you to have just gotten to comfortable around each other and have forgotten what took place to make you have the love and passion that you once had for each other. I say get back to basics. Snuggle every once in a while just for the sake of being close to one another, hold hands when you go out, share some pda, do something spontaneous while your out for example ( read between the line ) take a bathroom break or share a dressing room while shopping . Just add a little spice and you'll be fine
2007-02-14 03:11:15 · answer #6 · answered by 女性ウルバリン 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow ! I truely believe that real love is about the highs and the lows in life. I've been married for many years now and there were times when I almost gave up. The bad times passed and evrything was fine again. My hubby is a good man. Hardworking, church-going, and a real family man. But he is not romantic. It tickles me when I think about the few times he tried. But he pays the bills, helps around the house, and if I say I want something he will try his best to get it. His actions let me know just how much he loves me. And yes, I would like romance sometime but you can be romanced by a pimp. A real good man is so hard to find these days. I'm keeping mine.
2007-02-14 12:41:21 · answer #7 · answered by thinkincap1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Couples feel that once that exciting, thrilling, hot feeling of sex starts to die down that all of a sudden, they aren't in love anymore. Love CAN last forever and means alot more than sex; it's sharing, talking, helping, sypathizing, forgiving, etc., etc. A relationship goes through good times and hard times and love is going through ALL of them together and coming out strong.
2007-02-06 14:15:22 · answer #8 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love does last forever and it is always there. Sometimes love has different phases and it will change over time. You begin your life togehter and there was a natural high and then it seems to die. But it becomes settled and you have to look at love in a different sense. You have to beginning loveing the little things and many different things than before. He may not gaze into your eyes or pamper you but he has a different appreciation for you. The children come and then you have a real physical symbol of your love and they are there to help you find a new love. it is hard and it isn't easy to adjust. I have only been married 8 months been I have went through the first phase of being completely head over heals with each other and now it has died down but we still feel love for each other. Just give it time and look at your husband differently or maybe you need a counselors help to get over that hump. God Bless!
2007-02-06 13:55:08 · answer #9 · answered by Lindsay H 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's sad..love for other people seems to get old. I may be wrong, but it seems to start when people start taking the other person for granted. In other words, not really appreciating them and glad they are around. I wish I could find a new love, and the love would always feel fresh and new, and I'd think about her all the time, and she would want to be with me as much as she could. I just met a girl, and I hoped she was the one, but I guess it's not to be.....*sigh*
2007-02-06 13:49:18 · answer #10 · answered by merlin_steele 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋