My husband travels he is a crane operator and is gone for weeks at a time. Well all of a sudden he tells me if I see a unussaul number on his bill its a women that he was trying to get hired. Well he got her hired and of cource my mind goes to wondering. I never even looked at his phone bill until now. So I went back all the way to May and he has been talking to her all this time. What would you think about this situation? I trusted him completly, but now I'm not so sure what to think. Most of the bills show that he will get off of the phone with me and then call her. We have been married for 15 years. Please give me your honest opinions. Thanks
2007-02-06 13:42:30 · 25 answers · asked by aloneathome 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is working in Cross, SC anyone live near their that's willing to make extra money?
2007-02-06 14:03:00 · update #1
dont read too much into it....YET. ask him and find out what he is willing to tell you.
If he clams up, and unwilling to tell you what these calls have been about, (at least some details) Then you can guess that he has something to hide.
At that point, CALL HER. That is probably what i would do.
Good Luck.
2007-02-06 14:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by Mikez Bad Girl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's definately cheating on you with her, and he's not even good at being sneaky if all you had to do was pull out the phone bill. His telling you all of a sudden about her being on his phone bill is a sign of a guilty concience. He knew you'd find out, and if it really was nothing then he would never have mentioned it because there would've been nothing wrong with it. His guilty concience already thought of a lie and couldn't wait to tell it to you that way he thought you would automatically believe that's what it was instead of wondering and getting ideas into your head and getting suspicious. You should confront him with the evidence. Don't let him tell you any crap about it being work-related b/c that's B.S. You're obviously and intelligent person and you know better. If he still tries to lie about it to your face then there's really no hope for him and make sure you keep the phone bills for your divorce lawyer if you chose this path b/c it will help prove that he's having an affair. It sounds like you're thinking of hiring someone to follow/investigate him and that's a good idea. However, if he mans up and admits to having an affair, maybe you two have a chance to work things out with serious counselling. Good luck to you.
2007-02-06 23:53:41 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to him and ask why the bills date back to may?
Or if you have the money get a private investigator!
Find out where the phone number is from or ring the number and ask for him but don't let on who you are just say you are such and such from the bank or someplace like that and see how you get on.
2007-02-06 21:53:26 · answer #3 · answered by Jack 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hello,
well i grew up with a over the road trucker and my mother....my father was never home but calls every hour it seems like and i am 27....my mom on the other hand is anoyed by it....so i am saying this woman to woman if you thing that your gut is telling you your husband is cheating then he probably is....if you are seeing another womans number on a phone bill that you and your husband pays then you have every right to question....i would say if my husband was o tell me about another womans number then i would be asking him why once maybe 2 times of her number is understandeable but seince may that is not....you need to find out the answer your self and ask him.....sorry to be so rude
2007-02-06 21:51:03 · answer #4 · answered by wendy p 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should go with your gut instinct on this one. Hire a private detective and have him followed and keep checking his phone records. Also if you have or can trace her number call her and ask her what is going on between the two of them. I am sure she will be more then happy to tell you. I feel he is probably being unfaithful to you but you have to make sure before jumping to this conclusion. Have you asked him and confronted him about this and see what he has to say about it?
2007-02-06 21:50:28 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is playing you.I would definitely be concerned.I know how construction workers are.I have been one for years and there are allot of things that happen on the road away from home that never gets talked about.Most of these guys are away from home with money in their pocket and time on their hands.There are allot of woman just waiting to meet men like this.
2007-02-06 21:55:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you two have a great relationship? Be honest with yourself. This is very suspicious and a happily married man just doesn't decide to throw it all away one day...He is trying to confront you about this before you would have noticed it, so it makes him seem like he is not hiding anything. Confront him about it. Be calm, don't yell, try to be cordial. If you want some serious answers, just be polite, and calm.
2007-02-06 21:57:39 · answer #7 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I will put it this way....if he has been talking to her since May, sounds like it's more than just trying to get her hired....sorry, but I speak from experience...I know how it feels to be cheated on and hate to see anyone else go through it. See what you can find out...that would be my advice. Sounds pretty "fishy" to me.
2007-02-06 21:47:08 · answer #8 · answered by Latino Heat 4ever 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I definitely wouldn't trust him completely anymore. Confront him with the phone bills and what you found. I think it is rotten of him and you have a right to be concerned.
2007-02-06 21:51:06 · answer #9 · answered by cheoli 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If his calls with her were long, I would worry. Also, if they are 1 or more times a week, that's not normal for just an aquaintance.
2007-02-06 21:47:18 · answer #10 · answered by broadwayaprilandtiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋