Ok..I am from a pretty wealthy family my Dad owns 22 car lots and my grandfather owned 6 bar and grills..well The thing Is I'm getting married this fall (once I turn 18) and I've have dated this guy since I was 13..I love him more than anything and can't imagine my life with out him..But I have 2 trust funds and inherited a million dollar home..and also have a Job making good money..which is pretty much guranteed as long as I finish college..So my question is would it be wrong to ask for a prenup? Does that show that I don't have faith in the marriage? Would It really hurt my fiance?
2007-02-06 13:36:56 · 13 answers · asked by Only_God_could_tell_me_not _To 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you really need to get married so soon?
There is nothing wrong with a prenup. Women can be held financial hostage without them. But, why settle for someone you have this concern about? Why not give yourself a chance to be sure you have found your equal in life?
Yes it may hurt his pride. But, if he really loves you he should be able to be OK with standing on his own 2 feet if for some reason things don't work.
2007-02-06 13:49:00 · answer #1 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get a prenup to protect yourself. It doesn't show that you don't trust him - just that you are acting responsibly and in the best interests of your family. See if your dad would be ok with you putting the blame on him. So you can say "Honey, you know I love you more than anything but my dad is really worried and is pushing me to get a prenup to protect the family money. You won't mind just doing this to make my dad happy. Please."
Good Luck.
2007-02-06 14:34:52 · answer #2 · answered by CV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a good idea in this day and age to have a prenup. If you are thinking about it, something is telling you to do so. There is no harm in being cautious. Many people who think that they are in love at a young age, have changed their minds in a few years.
I am not saying that this is going to happen to you and your husband to be, but over half of all marriages end in divorce; no matter how much in love the people are at the beginning of their time together.
You need to sit down with your fiance and discuss all this in an adult manner. If he loves you for you, your families wealth should not mean anything to him. You are very astute to try and protect yourself and your family. Best if luck to you and your fiance.
2007-02-06 13:49:00 · answer #3 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are 18 and insist on getting married, I think a prenup is a necessity..........when more than 50 percent of all marriages end in divorce a prenup is prudent.....hey if doesn't want to sign it, perhaps he doesn't have faith in the marriage.......if it hurts him, postpone the wedding or better yet, enjoy your life, go to college.....live a little before you get married...
2007-02-06 13:44:19 · answer #4 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way.By marrying him that shows you trust him.By getting him to sign a pre nup that shows you if he really cares for you or if he is just there for the benefits.If he is serious about you he may be a bit puzzled by the request but he will sign it.If he is just there for the benefits he will protest and try to declare his love for you hoping that you will drop the whole prenup thing.Don't be foolish get a good ink pen and make him sign away.
2007-02-06 14:06:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's very important that you get a prenup. I would explain that it's money that belongs in the family, and that you feel responsible to your family to keep it there. Realize also that if he divorces you, he will be able to ask for half of your investment profits that occurred during the marriage.
2007-02-06 13:43:01 · answer #6 · answered by Faith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm......well...u known him since 13 ...which means he is not intrested in your money ...but u do sound very wealthy so i guess a prenup is a good idea just in case things go the wrong way...i mean u are still very young and things will change ....just try to talk to him about it and try to work it out ..... i dont think it would hurt him ......a good thing to do is just say your parents are making u do it , that always works
2007-02-06 13:45:36 · answer #7 · answered by should i ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Asking for a pre-nup is basically like saying you don't have faith or trust in your upcoming marriage. You said yourself that you can't imagine your life without him. So why the doubts? You better be careful because you could really affect the way that he feels about you.
2007-02-06 13:42:50 · answer #8 · answered by His Angel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is your choice but for me a prenup is not right and if you cannot trust your future husband then do not even marry him. It is like you are expecting to divorce him down the road. If i was engaged to be married and my future husband wanted me to sighn a prenup i would say see ya!
2007-02-06 13:44:38 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes. it may show that you do not have faith in the marriage, and it may hurt his feelings a little, but it is not wrong
and if he gets angry about it then you even have a motive for him loving you so much and wanting to marry you as soon as you turn 18
2007-02-06 13:43:20 · answer #10 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋