My mom is a b****?

Question

OMG i love my mom one minute and the next she is being a b****. for years i have done my share of chores(my frineds say its slave work but im use to it) Everyday its school(ends 2:30) then i wash dishes(alot of them , im only one who does dishes in a family of 5). I take the trash out every other day then its homework and studying. I dont really have time to have a social life during the week. so in weekends my mom lets me have 2 nights with my friends. My friends say she is a B**** and i have to aggree. I ask i i can go to my friends birthday party(just hanging out really) and she said no. She yells about stupid things like dont wast you brothers time trying ti teach him just give him the answer! and dont eat cereal with that bowl its too big. There is paper on the carpet, you made a B (AP GOVERMENT and CAC.) you can do better than that you are going on punishment. i dont know what her problem is. my brothers dont have to do much.

I am 18 but mom says that dosent matter as long as you live in this house i tell you what to do. I wanted to move out but she says i cant. (i dont have any money either o ya she says i cant have a job or she will kick me out)

brothers get yelled at too but not as much there 13 yrs

Dad has a job and that is to play at least 7 hours of world of war craft (no joke he just got the game 3 months ago and he is level 60 or 70 witch is the max) he will order pizza so he dosent have to stop playing his game to feed us. didnt go to my brothers championchip football game so he can play calls into work sick to play, even put a mini frigerator next to his computer so he dosent have to walk away from the comp.

i saved up money little by little over past 5 years to buy a car. I payed for the car but she calls it hers and threatens to take it away. also says you "christmas gift was me letting you buy the car its a privledge"

i never relised that my life wasnt normal untill i saw how other families were. and i am just asking for sugestions? what do i do? i like to move out but i never had a job. were will i go?

Answer 1

sigh, i understand your frustration... this happens because of parents' minds being set in tradition, that girls should do all the housework and boys can laze... it really sucks... my childhood was similar, but i had my two sisters supporting me :) we three fought for our rights... it never was fair, but it got better... now that i'm grown up, i still can feel how you feel about this... nothing much you can do, just bide time and hang out with friends who care... have fun to forget the grudges of home life and when you do housework step out of reality and play games... my sisters and i usually played a game where we were hired as cooks but we were actually three popular guys--haha, the things we imagine during childhood... but it certainly helps :)

get a friend and when you do housework, block out everybody and get lost in a world of your own... the only other way is to talk with your parents--tell them how you feel and why they're so traditional and whether they actually care that you must always do all the work... i wish you the strength to carry on regardless of how down you get sometimes... think that there are people all over the world in your similar situation too :D

just don't give up and all the best!!! (btw, forget about the people above who aren't giving you some sympathy... maybe they didn't go through it and they don't understand)

Answer 2

wow you only one to wash the dishes and 5 people live there thats not fair ask parent why you all cannot take turns, one day you wash dishes in the next day someone else that way you get a break.its nice you do as you told and you respect your parents even though things are not right.dont let your friends speak ill of your parents ,she birth you in the world no friends of your should speak bad of your parents maybe they should do some chores.

Answer 3

You see, my friend, she's not being a b****, she's training you for when you have a family of your own. She muat think that you still are a bit lazy, so be prepared for anything. O, and just so's you know, I do dishes for five people, too, so don't think you're alone out there, and don't complain.

Answer 4

I call it the same sex syndrome....When a mom has a daughter....because she herself knows what she is capable of being female....she has the same really high standards for her daughter....but with the son's being the opposite sex....and not seeing the male gender as being as capable as the female's....she tends to let them slide.....She isn't doing any of her children any favors....making you feel as if you can never quite do it good enough....and not making the boys rise to their true potential. I am sure she love's you...and wants the very best for you....It is so difficult being parents sometimes...Kids don't come with manuals. Good luck.

Answer 5

Shame on you...so you're mad because you aren't getting your way. You have no family loyalty..how dare you call your MOTHER that ugly name and how dare you let your friends talk about your Mother that way. Maybe your Mother's problem is..she's tired and has to put up with attitude from her kids. Sounds like you love her when she's doing things your way..and she's a B..when she doesn't. You're lucky to have 2 nights with your friends...you could have none ya know....

Answer 6

Ehh, just get over it. Most mothers are like that, it's their job. My mom's probably even worse than you, but I have to live with her. Just deal with whatever she does, and if you just can't stand it anymore, just talk to her.

But I've learned over the years dealing with my mom that she's only doing these annoying, annoying, annoying things because she loves me & she wants to protect me (which sounds ultra corny, but whatever). Maybe you'll find that out about your mom, too. =]

Answer 7

aww hun, sry to hear this =[[ kind aupsetting i feel ur painn.. i hope that it getts better honestly. if i were u i would ttly just bounce out when i wanted 2.

best of luck. my wishes to you!

Answer 8

i see

Answer 9

It sounds like your mother cares about you and she is trying to teach you how to live your life. Your lucky

Answer 10

So tell me, what are looking for? Sympathy? A confirmation? or advice?