For straight/bi girls only...?

Question

Would any of you date a bi guy if he were flaming and had a gay voice/lisp? I'm talking loving shopping, nail polish, make-up, etc. and with a very effeminate demeanor. Also someone who wears semi-tight clothes and soft jackets, etc. I don't necessarily mean myself, though I do fit this case, I'm just asking in order to judge the amount of girls who would. Assume other factors such as nice, honest, etc. that you look for in a guy that don't pertain to my question already exist and the only sticking point is the effeminity and/or voice. Would you give him a chance and/or date him/be his gf?

Yeah, don't mean crossdressing; just with extremely girly traits, likes, fashion sense, etc.

Would you ever be afraid he'd turn out gay and just hiding it? I know several girls who have held this fear.

Answer 1

I'd date him. I find feminine guys to be very much a turn-on, though we're assuming that he had the qualities I look for in men/women (i.e. I don't particularly care for 'fabulousness' or 'drama queen'/'diva' behavior in anyone, male or female, my lover or not, so that's going to affect things). But if he turned me on and I liked him, but he just acted "too gay", I wouldn't care a bit.

Answer 2

I'm bi, and my ex-boyfriend was bi and this wonderful balance of Goth and redneck. He had long hair that he dyed darker to look more dramatic, loved wearing black or red polish on his bitten-off nails, and lived in tight jeans. I do like being able to tell a person's gender on the first try, but I like a bit of a twist to it, too. I think the gender roles are such b.s. anyway. They vary by time and culture--if you had lived in pre-revolutionary France, you would have been seen as perfectly masculine while you were powdering your wig and lacing up your corset!

Long answer short, you *will* find girls who like you. There may not be as many as other guys get, but all you need is one, right?

Answer 3

It isn't possible to turn a lesbian into someone who's attracted to men. You say that she hasn't told you definitely that she's gay; she could be bi, or even straight, and perhaps you should approach her with your feelings before you decide she isn't attracted to males. On the other hand, if she *is* gay, or simply not attracted to you, you should respect her wishes. Some people's conversation styles are simply flirty.

Answer 4

Sure. I'm horribly attracted to a lot of guys that act/ dress that way though they've usually been completely gay. As long as you can still tell easily that he's a guy.

Answer 5

It really depends on their personality, not just their mannerisms. I have a bi guy friend and I used to have a crush on him... but I also know a lot of bi guys that annoy the hell out of me :P

The mannerisms aren't a turn on or a turn off for me... I don't really care about stuff like that.

Answer 6

Absolutely!

Answer 7

Yes, I have no problem with bisexual men. (And dare I say I prefer them to straight men, at least the bi guys understand what its like to be attracted to both genders. )

Answer 8

yea if he was a guy i was friends with beforehand and actually liked. i personally have no issue with bi guys. they are just like other men except for their orientation.

Answer 9

I'd share my nail polish with you ;)

Answer 10

if he was a real flamer id be a Lil scared of what he might have if he was permiscious