im definatly way beyond what odd people would considor normal. but i want friends just like everyone else. as im growing older i just want friends, people i can enjoy being around. my oddness is apparant. i dont even like looking people in the eye. so how can i make friends and reinsert myself back into society?
2007-02-06 13:00:59 · 8 answers · asked by sean_mchugh6 3 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
It sounds like you might be putting too much pressure on yourself to be "normal" You survey 100 people and they might all give a different answer as to what is normal in society. There are several of us in society who are fit marginally into society.
At what point did you take yourself out of society? You said you want to reinsert yourself back in society. To make friends be a good friend. Many people are uncomfortable with eye contact, that's not a big deal. Treat others as you want to be treated and see what happens.
2007-02-06 17:55:35 · answer #1 · answered by Cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many mistakes in this question, in my opinion.
1. Strictly stated, "normal" for you is you, not you conforming to them.
2. Will your "friends" be people you "enjoy being around" if you have to conform to their expectations?
3. Is it really them rejecting you that looses you potential friends? Could it be you rejecting them, or just you giving up when you get too uncomfortable?
4. Could it be that your own lack of comfort with your oddness is what is turning them off, not the oddness itself? When you aren't comfortable with yourself, generally no one else is either.
5. I know its not easy, but maybe you need to relax and stop second guessing yourself, just be as honest, direct, and perceptive (becomes confident when you get used to it) as you can and keep pitching, you won't have "old friends" overnight, but remain consistent, and not a pushover nor a yes man and you'll grow into it. Don't give up, and be the kind of "you" that you CAN have confidence in.
2007-02-06 19:47:08 · answer #2 · answered by johnseastep 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Again what is normal, don't change to make friends, you will regret it. Maybe it isn't you it's them. Work on that eye contact thing, I find that I can tell so much about a person when I look into their eyes. Eye contact is very important. Don't go out looking for friends, you will find each other.
2007-02-08 21:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself and talk to more people. If you think you are being odd then quit doing your oddity and do what you think is right instead of what you think just draws you attention. Your attention getting antics do not get you friends just attention and stares. Do like you should and you will make friends.
2007-02-06 13:11:20 · answer #4 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a need to fix yourself. Dont, people will like you for who you are if you are happy with who you are and they can see that, they will like you too.
2007-02-06 13:09:52 · answer #5 · answered by justchecking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is normal? Just enjoy your life & people will enjoy you
2007-02-06 13:07:54 · answer #6 · answered by hobo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as you accept yourself just the way you are, others will also!
2007-02-06 13:16:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to be the one to tell you, but you cant get there from here.
2007-02-06 13:10:30 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋