2007-02-06 12:52:29 · 13 answers · asked by papa chulo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Since you said you are young, it sounds like you are newlyweds which is probably a big part of the reason you two fight so much. It takes time to get used to married life when you are so used to having time on your own. It has nothing to do with love because I'm sure the two of you love each other very much. It's just stress because you used to have two separate lives and now it's merged and you have a life together now. Just try to avoid starting arguments and if you do argue, try to talk things out together without shouting. Figure out what the problems between the two of you are and how to fix them. All relationships have arguments. Best part of the arguing though...The make-up sex.
2007-02-06 13:00:34 · answer #1 · answered by mrb1017 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fighting or silence is not healthy in a relationship. It requires more open communications, respectful to each other, and write down the issues every time you are fighting. If find out the root cause, the fighting can be prevented. Hubby and wife can argue over house chores, financial, take responsibility, being clean vs. unorganized/messy, etc.. If willing to split the responsibility and understand the issues, both need to let go. Don't try to change your spouse! Love her as the way she is. Trying to manipulate other to the way you want, this can cause many fighting. Order her to do breakfast, lunch, and dinner without her willingness can be harmful, the love comes with sharing and respect. Good luck!
2007-02-06 13:07:30 · answer #2 · answered by LittleBlueBird 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are young and need to work on this. Have discussions about what each of you would like/for yourself and the other to do. Both need to try and do more for the other than the other does for you. Learn to look at things from the other perspective so that you can imagine how they would fel if you did something. Learn to notice and say something swet to the other a couple times a day.
2007-02-06 12:59:41 · answer #3 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll put it this way my husband and I fought for the first ten years we were together. Its just a really long phase. You're still learning about each other realx a bit
2007-02-06 13:04:40 · answer #4 · answered by tiki/more 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fighting regularly is not love.........sounds like you both need to grow up and have conversations....a conversation is the exchange of ideas and thoughts and you don't have to agree and neither has to be right or wrong.......
2007-02-06 13:21:51 · answer #5 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't fight at all, if you fight all the time that is not healthy and it is not good for your relationship, kiss more talk less.
2007-02-06 12:57:10 · answer #6 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all couples fight. in fact arguments can be healthy in relationships. As long as it doesnt go over board I think you are ok. good luck
2007-02-06 12:57:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably if you married young and this is you first marriage,the first year is usually the hardest,don't worry you have to get used to each other and being married,everything will be fine:)
2007-02-06 12:58:50 · answer #8 · answered by msalb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because you are either too lazy, too irresponsible or too rude.
2007-02-06 13:19:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
comunicate more, do things together, change the atmosphere....God bless ya
2007-02-06 12:59:09 · answer #10 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋