Were you raised to say "Thank you" and, if so, how did you overcome it?

Question

Well, I guess your 18 answers (so far) are kicking my butt so . . .I was raised to always say "Thank you" but in my years in banking almost no one says it they act like they are too good or they are above you and so, in reflection, I thought I was missing something.

In the places I worked, co-workers rarely said, "Thank you" and company associates, like the sales associates, never said, "Thank you".

Answer 1

my parents never ever taught me mannars or to say thank you. nervertheless i am a very polite person to strangers. almost grossly polite. i think maybe i picked it up from watvhing tv. or maybe it came from something else. but it is a part of who i am. the best way i know to overcome it is to stick with people and make friends with them that wat they have a better understanding of who you. also... just think of something else to say. ...thank you is a quick and easy way os aying something and ending a conversation. ...if you can think of soemthing else then go ahead and say it!

thanks

Answer 2

Yes, I was, and unfortunately, I have yet to overcome the habit.

I know from observing others that I am sadly behind the times. When finishing a bank transaction I should just take my receipt and continue my conversation on my cell phone, but I am so hopeless that I don't engage in cell phone conversations in the bank because I think it is rude! I am also trying desperately to learn the subtle art of walking through a door and letting it close on the person behind me, but some stubborn bone in my arm keeps holding it open so they can enter as well. (To my horror, I often find myself also letting them enter the building before I do!) I have tried studying the floor when I am in public so I don't accidentally make eye contact with someone, because a polite "hello", with the accompanying smile, always seems to fall out of my mouth. I am at my wit's end. How does one learn to be fashionably rude?

Answer 3

I wonder if it has something to do with the location of the places you work (either particularly snobbish or else particularly ignorant areas)?

I was raised to say "thank you", raised my kids to say it, live among people who all tend to say it, and run into a lot of store clerks and bank people who say it. Once in a while some kid who works in a store won't.

In a place like the grocery store there isn't just the cashier to say "thank you" to but the sacker as well - and I faithfully make sure I don't forget the sackers.

I've never thought much about the fact that so many of us say "thank you" - but its kind of nice, isn't it.....

Answer 4

Do you mean being thankful or being polite? Sometimes I think I need to work on both. I have many times been unappreciative of my wonderful life - how spoiled I can be. I'm also sure there have been countless occasions when I have forgotten to be nice - I'm sure I had some excuse. But, on the average I like nice people and I love saying thank you. So thank you for reminding me of that.

Answer 5

Courtesy is something one should never get over! A simple thank you, is necessary to show appreciation for things people have done for you. To not say thank you says that you don't appreciate what someone has done or given you. Etiquette used to be taught in the home, in church and at school. Maybe those courses should be regained. Education, without etiquette, is nurturing educated heathens

Answer 6

Yes I was and I'm raising my kids the same way. It's a shocking indictment of society when I see my six year old son displaying better manners than most adults, though. If more people used simple pleasantries such as please and thank you the world would be a much nicer place. Unfortunately, many people seem to think that abrasive rudeness is the new manners.

Answer 7

Thank you is a perfectly acceptable pharse. And even better, writing thank you notes!

It is a habit that has fallen out of main stream and it is sad. I wrote a thank you note to a co-worker who had given me a gift, and she was in awe. She told me I was raised right (I am 21 and work with people who all ahve children my age).

Say thank you!

Answer 8

Thank you for your question. It is a good etiquette and we should be grateful that any thing someone does for us and let them know by thanking them. That is good morals. Want to know more about good morals read Bhagavad Gita as it is BY Bhaktivedanta Prabhupada- tells what is to be done and what is not to be done and the meaning of life. go to harekrishnatemple.c for all details.

Answer 9

its a word of our routine ... or part of our professional life sometime our passion not involve in this as when we say at end of our conversation that take care think r we really caring for this person but we say take care so some word are part of our routine life this is not the matter of courtecy

Answer 10

My grandmother was a very proper french-canadian woman who insisted we speak respectfully to everyone. It has gotten me far in life, I do not want to overcome it.