OK i have very serious problem...............?

Question

im 17 years old girl and im soooooooooooooooo shy, i dont have freinds, i dont have courage to talk to anyone. so my question is that how can i get over from shyness and PLEASE DOT TELL ME IM LOSER CUZ I ALREADY KNOW THAT. so what kinda help i can get to shake my shyness
thanks!!!

Answer 1

well try to dress like what were wearing now..and try to look great..youll see youll have friends in a while..good luck

Answer 2

First off...you are NOT A LOSER!! Just because you're shy does NOT mean you are a loser.
Next...try a jpb that's not face to face. Maybe you could try telemarketing. This way....you'll gain a little bit of self confidence without having to look anyone in the eye.
Next...work on looking people in they eye! When you talk to your family..look them in the eye. Stand up. When you're standing, it gives you the impression of power (not that you're trying to over-power anyone) but it will give you a sense of self. Try all of this on your family forst. Practise in the mirror what you would say to someone at school. This is your own space. You don't need to feel stupid since noone else is around.
Next....put that into action!! When you're ready tospark up a convo with someone, compliment them first. Everyone likes to hear a compliment! Tell them you just LOVE those shoes or sweater and where did they get it?? And yes..you've heard of that store but you haven't been there...what are the prices like?
And maybe you live close to it and where do they live?? soon you'll be chattier than I am (which would be rather hard (dont'cha think??lol) but you need to have these kinds of convos with yourself in a mirror first. Or ask a family member to help you. I know that this won't be easy for you but you're first step is to try. If you don't succeed and you can't do it, don't get down on yourself. You'll do it eventually. The more you try, the more you comfortable you will be.
Just don't call yourself a loser. You're not.
You WILL find the courage to do this. The strength comes within and you WILL be able to do it.
Good luck and I certinly hope you find a good friend!!! :o)

Answer 3

Get self confidence that you lack. Quit being around people that tell you this. Be around supportive people. Do things you are good at and when people want to know something about it they can ask you how too. Just have to do things so that you have to talk to people. The more you do the easier it gets. Little steps at first but just try to talk to different people and start getting on with meeting people. Get a job in the public at a store and do a good job then people will notice. Older people will give you more incouragement also than younger people that still think they need to act mean.

Answer 4

Start out by making friends with people who aren't very intimidating, like video game and Dungeons and Dragons playing nerds. When I got to college I was afraid of everyone, but the nerdy people were really welcoming and they're really quite a diverse group. I have a ton of friends now and I am always out doing something different than what other people are doing because of the whole counter-culture thing going on with the nerdy friends I have. Good luck and just be yourself!

Answer 5

One thing that worked for my very shy sister was to volunteer to read at a home for the elderly. They love to hear the voice of a young person and they often tell wonderful stories of their own. She became friends with many of the people there and met some of their families. She actually gained self confidance by helping others. Just an idea.

Answer 6

Well, where I went to HS, I was very shy, and no friends. I didn't talk to anyone. But, what helped me was that I went to a whole different county where no one knew anything about me and the school I went to. I went to a well known "hang out" in that area for a few weeks, they mainly approached me, got numbers, made friends, played pool, played mini-golf etc...I became a popular person at that hang out, with the guys, and the girls.
This approach opened up a can of worms in my life. I became more open and was able to talk to more people at school. But I remained faithful to my friends at the different county.

Answer 7

i was like that too for awhile...
if you make yourself do a sport, it will make u open up without even realizing it. and you will meet people.
another way is to start talking to random people in school. like just ask to borrow a pen and it will give u an excuse to talk to someone. then before you know it youll be talking about other things with the person you borrowed a pen from.
dont worry, youll meet people soon

Answer 8

your problem is that you already think you're a loser before anyone even talks to you. start looking at yourself in a more positive light and have confidence and than others will see that in you

Answer 9

just imagine its just you and the other person,block everything else out and speak and think about everything bad happening around the world and think that you are alot better off and just be loud,happy and get on with it! i know ur situation an i been there, jus go for it babe

Answer 10

be confident.... if you think your a loser you'll convince everyone that u are... and who wants a loser for a friend... lol... laugh... it always attracts people to ur conversation.

Answer 11

Ask people stupid question like What is the teacher talking about or do you understand this? where is room #...?