I am getting a divorce that I don't feel is the right thing to do. I still have strong feelings for her.?

Answer 1

talk with her about your feelings.

Answer 2

You can either try and work on it. Why don't you both have a break for a month or two without seeing other people and see how your feelings toward each other are then.
Maybe she does not feel the same way you do and though you have strong feelings for her she is obviously not feeling the same.
Talk to her. Try counciling or having the break. Just ask her to try different things before she gives up completely.
Good luck

Answer 3

Who is divorcing whom? What I mean is...does SHE still have strong feelings for you? If this divorce is her idea...it's really hard, but the one BEING left, really has no means of repairing anything if the one leaving doesn't want it repaired.

If you feel strongly about this...by all means, give it a try. You don't want to divorce if there's a chance you can make it work. Divorce is the final straw, you know? Good luck!

Answer 4

Don't get the divorce until you are both.. I mean.. BOTH comfortable with it. you will have to sit her down and talk to her, possibly with a counselor just as a mediator.

If you leave the relationship with unresolved issues they will haunt you for the rest of your life. You have to tell her exactly how you feel, and she has to tell you exactly how she feels, then you two can come to that conclusion or resolution on your own together.

You may have married her, but she married you too(if that makes sense) its not up to only 1 person to decide where the relationship goes. but if she isn't happy, and you want her to be happy, sometimes letting go is the best thing to do.

Answer 5

If you are initiating the divorce, then obviously you can do something to stop it. Talk to her and maybe you can work it out.

I think if both of you can decide to marry each other in the past, both of you can talk now, and decide, whether divorce is the best option.

Otherwise seek professional help and if you are a christian, your pastor or priest. It is not too late.

Answer 6

There are REASONS and there are FEELINGS.

If the divorce is for the right REASONS, then it's the right thing to do. Feelings will be there either way.

You use the verb FEEL to describe the "right thing". Won't work.
Try using the verb THINK regarding whether it's the right thing to do. Divorce is seldom an unfeeling activity, it's painful.

Answer 7

If you do not feel this divorce is right then do not do it!!! Do not sign the papers and tell her that you still love her and want the marriage. See if she is open to trying again with you and working on th marriage to try to restore and heal it. Seek marriage counseling and help too. I wish you the best.

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Answer 8

Have you tried telling her this? If you feel like it is not right thing to do and you still have strong feelings for her, then I would recommend seeing if she has any feelings for you and if there are then probably going to marriage counseling.

Answer 9

Then don't get one then. Let her know how you really feel.Now on the other hand I hope you did not mess up so bad that she can't forgive you. You did not give us a lot to work with here.You can always take some time apart. You know, until you both have some time to think it over.I hope there are no children involved.

Answer 10

Don't get the divorce. Trust me, it'll never get better. There will always be something about someone you can't stand. Stay with your wife, there's no problem that can't be worked out.

Good Luck

Answer 11

Try working things out with your wife. Let her know how you feel before it is too late. Maybe your wife has feelings for you still. I hope that it works out for the two of you. Good Luck!