We are getting divorced, but I really don't want to. I love this man so much, and would have done anything for him...How will I ever get over this. I miss him every second of the day. I thought that this would be the person that I would grow old and gray with. I dreamed about having his kids...I had so many plans, now it seems as if my entire life/dreams are down the drain...I often ask myself will I ever love someone as deeply as that man ever again ?
Will I love still love this person 50 years from now ? How do I heal and go on with my life ? How can I be happy again ? I am only in my 20's...
does anyone know ?
2007-02-06 12:04:14 · 12 answers · asked by Tammy07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The best way is --- Carry On!
I know it's a cheezy answer but so true.
You are only 20 girl. You may feel sorrow but when you have other things to focus on graduately you'll ignore it more. You probably won't forget about this man until you find your next one. I don't think it's hard at your age. Maybe you truly love this man but if he doesn't.....move on! You know what, maybe the next month you'll meet someone cool , start to date and realize this question has an answer!
God bless you find your soul mate again !
2007-02-06 12:14:25 · answer #1 · answered by whatsup2015 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the t-shirt and hence an answer for you.
The bad news is that you can't force the heart to stop loving somebody. You can try and replace love with hate, anger, and many other things but this is the silly way to go. Death of a love relationship is quite similar to loosing somebody you love due to physical death.
You have to first accept that your are on your own in this relationship and that the other person does not love you anymore.
Secondly you need to be possitive, and remeber with a smile the good times you shared, and try not to slip into being bitter minded.
Thirdly and last of all, you must go out and meet other men. Date or make yourself available to be asked out by going to places where you may find suitable candidates for this. Be carefull of 'rebound' though. You will fall in love again but don't be too hasty about throwing yourself whole heartedly into the relationship. Take it slow and easy.
Finding another person to love is the very best way to take the edge off what you are feeling now.
2007-02-06 20:27:55 · answer #2 · answered by Bryan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there many years ago. She broke the engagement. We had dated for 7-8 years. I was in my early 20's.
I met a wonderful woman just a year later. Best thing that ever happened to me. Met her in September, introduced her to my folks in October and gave her an engagement ring then. Married to her in December 2 days before Christmas. Over 33 years now. Two sons, 3 grandchildren.
I still recall the first woman now and then. No idea where she is now. It might have been, but it was not.
2007-02-06 20:12:18 · answer #3 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about it there are Billions of other men and you will find one that will not break your heart. I don't know because i am 16 years old but my ma has done it. she cried and cried and won't stop thinking of my father and found another man. She thought she might never love another man in her life ever. She was 19, just about your age, it might take you even a year to get over him but you should dress up and take care of yourself. Then, after you finished being so upset just hook-up with other guys but you said that you never stop thinking of him, if you go on dates you might stop thinking of him and move on. Good Luck, I hope this help u.
2007-02-06 20:15:50 · answer #4 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One quote I've found says "We never stop loving someone. We learn to live without them." It seems like you really love this guy. I'm sorry to hear you're getting divorced. But I guess you have to go ahead and...cry. Let your emotions out. Holding them in isn't going to help. Since you're in your 20s, you'll probably find someone else. I'm not saying he'll be just as good as the one you have now, but hopefully he will be. Leave it to faith.
2007-02-06 20:10:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that it's hard but give yourself time and get out and start doing things with friends after the divorce. Sure am sorry about the divorce especially when you don't want it.
2007-02-06 20:18:04 · answer #6 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think about the man that you had a secret crush you had in collage or some thing.
Just get intrested in someone else by going to an online dating.
2007-02-06 20:09:35 · answer #7 · answered by cutie_angel_4_minji 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not divorce him if you dont want to. Seek marriage counseling for you and your husband and do not agree to the divorce. Do not divorce him if you still love him. Why are you divorcing anyways? Do not divorce if you do not want to. Tell him how you feel and that you still love and want to be with him and that you do not want this divorce.
2007-02-06 20:17:29 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't stop loving someone, you just get around it. sometimes being a little cold and distance to them can make things work out in the end.
2007-02-06 20:09:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
simply accept the fact that this person is gone and get on with your life! not easy, but in time you will get over it!
2007-02-06 20:08:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋