Where do you focus your attention, is it on the looks, age, profession, career, level of compromise or the size of his shoes? Please be honest and sincere.
2007-02-06 12:02:33 · 12 answers · asked by Night Hawk 4 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
employed in a steady stable legitimate job
ability to communicate
his attitude to life
honesty and trustworthiness
ambition to follow his dreams
looks do not really pay a part in considering whether to share your life with a man. i do think that is has some bearing on whether you start to get to know them though, as harsh as that sounds.
i cant really answer age. i dont really know, as i have never been in a situation where there was too much of an age gap.
profession and career arent that important. but if they worked as a cashier at macdonalds and had no hope for any future meaningful empoyment, i would probably be a bit hesitant.
level of compromise - yes, this can be important in a relationship
shoe size? does not matter
2007-02-06 16:26:18 · answer #1 · answered by Minerva 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I think its important that a man have an age appropriate career. Unless he has fallen upon some hard times in his life, I do not believe a 30 year old man should be working at the grocery store. Its almost a red flag that he has zero ambition and is content to just exist. I could care less about the size of his shoes, and as to the level of compromise, I really do not expect anyone to compromise for me, its not a big deal when you have most things in common with him.
2007-02-07 01:31:40 · answer #2 · answered by Bonzai Betty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its personal for each and every woman, but the important thing for you is to decide what you want in a mate and what you expect in a relationship. One time I wrote down a list of all the qualities I wanted in a mate and then in another column I wrote down the things I would not be able to tolerate or traits that I disliked. That helped me identify the type of person I wanted to be with, but you have to remember that very few people are going to meet all of our desires and expectations. From a practical standpoint I would say that there are certain qualities in a person that make it easier in a relationship, including mutual love and respect; committment; willingness to communicate openly about problems without becoming defensive; responsible but not compulslive; and genuniely affectionate. These are just a few but communication is a huge component. I often tell people that love is an important ingredient in a relationship but its not the only ingredient. To me, love is the icing on the cake but the parts that make up the cake include the other characteristics I just mentioned.
2007-02-06 23:52:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My primary focus is on his character, what he thinks of himself, level of confidence. Looks are secondary, what he does for a living is not really important, that fact that work ethic is in his vocabulary is important. Must have legitimate employment. The size of his shoes, not important. I have met some great men with small feet and some great men with large feet. As for age, I'm sure I do have a cut off point, however; not sure exactly where it is. I have not experienced this one yet. Great question. God bless****
2007-02-06 20:16:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honestly i guess you are first attracted to someone by the way they look, then i'd say age, shoe size, level of compromise, profession.
2007-02-06 23:41:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I look for someone who is responsible, esp financially. I dont want to end up with someone who is up to his ears in debt and has no way of getting out of it and/or keeps spending money like its no big deal.
Career as well, I dont want to have to be supporting someone who is very well capable of helping out, but is just too lazy to do so.
Looks naturally. I want someone who im attracted to.
Someone I am able to be able to hang out with and talk to. Personality is by far the biggest. Must have personality, make me laugh, love to do things I enjoy, and also able to compromise on things that either one of us doesnt like doing, but still do it b/c we know the person we are with enjoys it.
Age for me is not important that much. There cant be a 60 year difference though, but 20, I dont see it being that big as long as the younger one isnt a minor.
And lastely, gotta be w/ someone I enjoy sex with! Sex is important and I dont want to be with someone that cant please me sexually. That would be a bummer!
2007-02-06 20:15:07 · answer #6 · answered by Mac 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Long term goals and ambition. Also humor is a must for me. I want someone I can talk on a daily basis and still enjoy their company.
2007-02-06 20:18:55 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
brains, brains, brains. and cool hair. and respect. real respect for all women. alas, i've never met a man worth sharing an evening with, much less my life.
2007-02-06 20:37:04 · answer #8 · answered by scruffy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks give first impression
profession gives financial confirmation
and his heart gives eternally adoration.
where can i find this man?
2007-02-06 23:12:08 · answer #9 · answered by Mayya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
level of respect and affection. without respect there's bound to be abuse of some sort, without affection it's hard to feel loved.
2007-02-06 20:10:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋