Igot a "missed" miscarriage and very sad now. When i was pregnant i was not entirely happy about it but i grown to accept it and was looking forward to the baby. Now, my hopes and dreams are dashed. Wonder if this is a retribution.
2007-02-06 12:01:58 · 8 answers · asked by rest_relax_forever 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Miscarriage sadly happens more often than you know. As time goes by the pain will fade and you will feel hopeful again. You have not been punished because you weren't sure about the baby. You miscarried because there was something wrong with the baby. Do all the necessary follow up tests with your doctor so that when you do actually want to try to have a baby you will know you are healthy. Good luck.
2007-02-06 12:08:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through what you are going through in September 2005. We found out we were pregnant with baby number 3 and I was not happy. I had come to terms with it. I started spotting one day and I called the doctor. They had me go in for an ultrasound and for the next week I went in every other day to have blood work done becasue they thought it was ectopic. Well, after putting me through a very long week I started to bleed very heavily and they told me it was a missed miscarriage. I never understood why women get so sad when they miscarry. I always felt like, you don't even have the baby so what is the big deal. I now understand what it feels like to go through that. You have no idea unless you have been through one ourself. I felt like a failure. Like I had done soemthing to lose the baby. I thought if I had been more excited, maybe I would still be pregnant. It took me a long time to get over it. I remember one night my husband coming home and I sat down next to him and just started crying. It was the first time I had let myself cry and I cried in his lap for well over an hour. There is just so much pain in your heart. I feel for you right now. My mom had two miscarriages so she was a big help. Everyone else was like, "Oh well, at least you're not pregnant." The night before I went in for my D&C my mother-in-law said, "Well, at least it will be over and you can move on!" I just though, move on, you have no idea what I am going through. It took me a while to get over it. I remmeber one night I was watching Desperate Housewives and it was the episode where that guy takes Gabby and gives her the red balloon to let go of so she could let go of the baby she had lost. I cried and cried and cried.
Anyway, I am babbling, I know. Basically all I am trying to say is the feeling you are having are normal. It will get easier. Let yourself cry, let yourself mourn your loss. If you hold it in you will explode. My prayers are with you. It is so sad. I know we are not supposed to do this, but if you ever want to talk my email is ryanandtracie2005@yahoo.com. Having someone to talk to that had been through it helped me! Good luck.
2007-02-06 20:20:00 · answer #2 · answered by Tracie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A miscarriage has nothing to do with not being happy about a pregnancy. Take this time to reflect on the things you want in life, and form plans for reaching those goals.
2007-02-06 20:05:20 · answer #3 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not retiribution, it's mother nature making the decision for you. It was obviously meant to be this way. You will be fine and another baby will come your way, maybe at a better time.
By the way, you had a miscarriage, not missed a miscarriage.
2007-02-06 20:05:53 · answer #4 · answered by Kylie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing that gets me through every hard thing in life; and pain that i may feel is truly believing everything happens for a reason. Some things we may never know the reason. Best of luck. Hope you can find the strength in you to feel better.
2007-02-06 20:55:58 · answer #5 · answered by Beauty 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It was an act of God. For whatever reason ALLAH wanted you to have a miscarriage. Maybe it was deformed.
2007-02-06 20:57:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
well not really, its nothing you did wrong. i had 2 this year
2007-02-06 20:07:01 · answer #7 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, please do not blame yourself for this. I agree with Jay, this was mother natures way ending pregnancies that may have potential problems.
2007-02-06 20:12:46 · answer #8 · answered by Polynomial 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋