If he was making every effort to get another job yes. I have been in a relationship in the past where my b/f did not work, he laid around at home getting stoned and drunk all day, and getting more and more paranoid, and if I did not call him at exactly the pre-arranged times every day then he would call and call and call until I could talk to him. He then resorted to theft of money from my bank account, I would give him money enough to get food for us, but he then stole £600 from my bank account. He made no effort to look for work and was very happy to laze around all day doing nothing, so for those reasons the relationship ended. If someone will not help themselves then there is nothing anyone can do to help them.
2007-02-06 20:32:38
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answered by sparkleythings_4you 7
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If my partner was actively looking for a job I would encourage him. My partner and I bought a house together and after a year he lost his job. It took him 4 months to get another one and I definately had second thoughts. Although he said he was looking, when I got back from work he was always lying on the couch which made me mad. As it was a new relationship it was touch and go as to whether I wanted to stay with him but Im glad I did. Now that I have been with him longer, if he lost his job I would be more supportive. It definately puts a strain on a relationship.
2007-02-06 19:53:22
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answered by jaygirl 4
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I'm in that situation with my boyfriend because he's American and I'm Irish. He couldn't work when he was in Ireland and I can't work when I'm here (for 7 months at a time each). Which is why we're getting married coz it's soooo much easier when we both have jobs, just makes us both feel independent. I'd still stay with him if he couldn't work, it would just be harder and I don't think he'd be as happy not contributing. But there are lots of stay-at-home parents these days too looking after the kiddies..If being unemployed was out of pure laziness then I dunno...probably wouldn't be with someone like that in the first place!!
2007-02-06 16:42:06
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answered by nicg 2
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My boyfriend's out of work,and has lost 2 jobs since we've been together-one because company closed down,and the other because he was made redundant. He then had a temporary job-but then,of course,that came to an end. But I love him. I always will. Whether he's employed or not has nothing to do with the strength of my feelings for him.
2007-02-06 21:40:30
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answered by Anonymous
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I have been married for almost 15 years.
In that time I have had many jobs until I got my current position.
My wife had a job for about 3 months, about 14 years ago.
If she wants to get a Job again I will encourage her. If she wants to stay a 'kept woman', I will encourage her.
If she is happy, I am happy.
I would do ANYTHING for my wife, thats why we have an amazing marriage.
If you don't want to be around someone because they have no job then that is simply an excuse not a reason.
:~}
2007-02-06 12:07:46
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answered by Anonymous
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It would depend on the situation
If they have a good reason for being off work then yes I would
If they were being lazy and not trying I would have to talk to her
If you love them enough though I guess you would stay either way but if they loved you as much back they'ed get a job!!
2007-02-06 21:08:27
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answered by Soul Reason 3
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My partner is a student and never has any money.
But I love her, so of course I would say yes to that question.
On the other hand, if she never got a job after graduating, I'd ditch the lazy cow.
2007-02-06 12:01:46
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answered by gav 4
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Our society accepts a woman staying at home but much less sympathetic toward a man. Are you sure it's not about you not making enough but still want to have a mate?
2007-02-06 12:04:18
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answered by Sir Richard 5
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i have a friend who has just left her hubby of 20 years cos of this, he has never worked properly in all that time and she's had enough.
frankly i'd have gone a lot sooner, its not as if he is unable to work, just bone idle,
i think i'd have to say get a job or go.
2007-02-06 20:43:32
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answered by Anonymous
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it depends on the reason why they don't have a job. if its becos they don't want to work and nothing is wrong with them, they are healthy, then no i won't be with them. if they don't have a job becos they are studyin or some other reason, then that's different. i know when they can, they will find a job.
2007-02-06 12:04:42
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answered by rambo 2
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