My friend came in on Monday crying and soon left. today, our teacher told us that his dad is dying. He is really upset. He also doesn't want to talk about it. I think he just wants to keep his mind of it. When I'm near him i just feel so sad for him. What can i do to help him? What should i talk about with him? Please Help!!!
2007-02-06 11:56:44 · 22 answers · asked by :)dreamer. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
His grandpa just died a few weeks ago...... it's really sad. How can i become closer to him?
2007-02-06 12:06:15 · update #1
he REALLY DOES NOT WANT to TALK about it
2007-02-06 12:09:18 · update #2
if he doesn't wanna talk about it, don't. and don't make it look like you're sympathetic for him either. just talk to him about other things like school and maybe go watch a movie with him to get his mind off it. hope that helped. =)
2007-02-06 12:02:26 · answer #1 · answered by Trisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to give him some room he is probably hurting really bad insided so maybe tell him you are sorry or ask him if he needs anything... even the small stuff always means alot to people who are sad. maybe a ride home after work or school or whatever, take him out to a movie (comedie to make him laugh), help hm with his books... but dont do to much that he will feel sadder because everybody knows his dad is dying and feel like you are mourning him and not his dad so do small things and do just a litte bit... thats all and act completely normal like nothing is happening...
2007-02-06 12:04:49 · answer #2 · answered by JIFFY121 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be his friend. When he's ready to talk about it, he will. All you can do for him is be available. I'm sure he's having feelings he's never had before. It's hard for anyone to handle the death of someone you're close to, but it's even harder for a kid. He has a lot to work out right now. It's hard to see him like that, and not be able to help...but sometimes, you have to wait for the right time to help someone.
2007-02-06 12:02:24 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since i have been in a similar situation, losing my mother in '01, i know one thing for sure, stay of subject when he doesn't want to talk about it, only start a conversation about it(if u really want to) when he seems ready and willing. Don't sow you feel sorry for him, pity is something that reminds ppl of painful stuff. Keep him distracted..... Anyway you cant help him much, he must learn to deal with it on his own, it is a good thing he is aware of his father situation, it would be much harder on him if his father died without warning.
2007-02-06 12:04:26 · answer #4 · answered by Stefan F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer him a shoulder to cry on when he needs it, take him out more often to cheer him up, be more understanding than usual, and offer him the opportunity to talk about his feelings when he wants to. Don't cut him off or discuss other things if he wants to talk about his dad with you. Help him prepare for when his dad is gone and simply be there for him.
2007-02-06 12:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be his friend. it really sucks when your dad is dying and most of the time, you want to be left alone. and that's also a good idea, but just be there for him when he needs to talk. if youre a religious person, keep him in your prayers and everything. good luck!
2007-02-06 12:04:30 · answer #6 · answered by sayrah88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is let him know that you will be there for him when he is ready. Alot of people don't like talking about things until they have sorted it out inside themselves and come to terms with it. Just be normal with him and assure him that you wil always be there whenever he is ready to open up.
2007-02-06 12:02:28 · answer #7 · answered by jimmychick78 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has happened to my former friend! There is nothing you can do about it, if you're Catholic you can pray to God asking him to let his dad live a bit longer. You can talk about anything else with him! Just don't make him feel like you're trying to make him feel better!
2007-02-06 12:01:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT RY AND MAKE HIM FEEL BETTER BE WHEN SOMETHING THIS TERRIBLE IS HAPPENING U REALLY DONT WANT A WHOLE BUNCH OF PEOPLE CROWNDING U AND TALKING TO U MAKING U SAY SOMETHING U DONT WANT TO... BUT IF U REALLY FEEL THAT IT IS WORST FOR HIM TO BUDDLE UP HIS PROBLEMS THEN TALK TO HIM ABOUT WHO U FEEL, AND THE TROUBLES U R HAVING FOR HIM.... NOT TO BE PERSONAL BUT WHO OLD IS UR FRIEND CAUSE IF HE IS YOUNGER AT AGE MAYBE IT WIILL BE EASIER TO TALK
2007-02-06 12:00:56 · answer #9 · answered by vs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him your are there for him and if and when hes ready to talk youll listen..and hug him. thats the best you can do and just try and cheer him up, go to the movies or something u know
2007-02-06 12:04:21 · answer #10 · answered by divinemadness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋