I feel hanging around girls and have a lot of girl "friends". I take forever to get to know a person. I will not even kiss a girl in the first six months let alone have sex
I usually don't like sex as much as others I know. I see it as a choir than enjoyment. I like the personal connection, good conversations,.... better than sexual activities. Is this normal for some guys? If you are a girl would you marry someone like me?( Like if your husband would do it once a month or something). Let me what you think.
2007-02-06 11:56:31 · 21 answers · asked by Lifesucks2333 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry I am in my late 20s so I have bloomed
2007-02-06 12:00:56 · update #1
hello i would totally date you i mean i want a guy who doesnt want to have sex the first six months besides i dont believe in premarital sex ok so dont think your weird just cuz your guy friends are having sex just ask a girl out she might be right for you oh yeah and if you get married and you go on your honey moon that doesnt mean you get to totally rip off each others clothes ok once you get into the relationship ask the girl if shes into that if she is than i dont think shes the girl for you you need someone whos like you but not too much like you or then you will have nothing to talk about. well i hope my advice helps you
2007-02-06 12:22:00 · answer #1 · answered by bonee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
are you worry that you think you mihgt be gay? from what you've said i don't think so....not everyone enjoys sex, some like the cuddling and making out more. you mentioned that it feel like a choir for you, now that's a problem because sex should never make you feel that way. maybe you feel that way because when you do have sex it's out of force or to prove something. so do it ONLY when you want to...when it feels right. and just because you have a lot of "girl" riends doesn't mean you have to be hard around them or attracted to them; i have male friends too and i don't get excited around them because I'm so use to them that i only see them as a pal. to be honest i would not want to marry someone who would want to have sex only once a month. Sex is very important in a marriage just like honesty and communication. however if i learn that my husband had that kind of a problem after we got married then we would definitely have to seek counseling. Well hope i helped. again don't stress yourself out.
2007-02-06 12:28:36 · answer #2 · answered by lala_jonesy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as it doesn't interfere with your life, there is nothing wrong with having little or no desire for sex. If you are concerned about it, talk to your doctor, just in case there is an underlying condition that is causing it.
However, I have never been very interested in sex and it doesn't bother me. I've been fortunate enough to find a boyfriend who also has little interest in sex. There is probably a woman out there somewhere who wouldn't mind that you were not interested in sex and is willing to be intimate with you on other levels (like you said, conversation).
Some people just aren't obsessed with sex. Nothing wrong with that.
2007-02-06 12:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by Venin_Noir 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not abnormal. if your not a virgin it could be that your expectations of sex werent exactly met. and now your just waiting for the right girls. also your testosteron level could be low. its no big deal, just go to the doctor to see how your testosterone is, and if its normal then you might be one of few guys who dont have a high sex drive. and thats ok. dont worry too much about what the future holds for you when it comes to women, you'll marry whoever you'll fall in love with and you are definately going to be sexually attracted to her, so maybe then your sexual drive will increase. but dont worry about it too much, its fine.
2007-02-06 13:10:59 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you are asexual, im actually the same way, I have no desire what so ever, I use to think it was medicine i was on, so I stopped taking all my medicines because i wanted to be "normal" I prefer cuddling and spending time over making out and sexual contact.
2007-02-06 12:01:21 · answer #5 · answered by me. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just haven't met the right girl yet.
But then if you really do feel like that I am sure that there would be women like that too.
Maybe the se x you had is boring that's why you didn't really enjoy it.
Maybe watch some porn and get some ideas to try something new next time you have se x.
2007-02-06 12:01:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Interesting condition you have. Maybe you and your penis need some sort of counseling to settle any unresolved issues. If you don't, he is likely to leave you for not paying enough attention to him.
Even when my ex and I were on the verge of separating, we still had sex all the time.
Wierd.
2007-02-06 12:10:06 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is like that... This is partially why we get along so well - he doesn't bug me for sex all the damn time. I don't think it's "normal" tho, if I were you I would ask your doctor - maybe they will have your testosterone levels checked; low testosterone causes low drive, and it also has other effects. It is treatable, tho. Good luck.
2007-02-06 12:01:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are not asexual if you are having sex at least once a month--
i don't mean to sound rude, but are you sure you are asexual and not a h**osexual??-just curious-- anyways i don't think i would marry you - kisses and sex play a pretty great part in a relationship(to me)
2007-02-06 12:21:33 · answer #9 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off, I would not marry a man who will make love to me once a month(like you). I will cheat on him...and she will cheat on you too! Secondly, have you ever thought that you could be gay?? If not, you can be asexual...you have no sexual urges and/or desires...A grown a-s-s man like you needs some p-u-s-s-y...see a psychologist. ;-)
2007-02-06 12:37:32 · answer #10 · answered by EmpreSS 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋