How Should I Tell My Parents?

Question

I AM 18 YEARS OLD. I HAVE BEEN WITH MY BOYFRIEND FOR ABOUT 3 YEARS NOW. I AM ALSO IN THE AIR FORCE. DURING CHRISTMAS, WE HAD SEXUAL INTERCOARSE AND ABOUT 3 WEEKS LATER I FOUND OUT I WAS PREGNANT. I AM NOW 8 WEEKS PREGNANT AND NEITHER OF OUR PARENTS KNOW. I ONLY LIVE WITH MY MOTHER BUT IM SCARED SHE MIGHT BE MAD. HOW CAN I POSSIBLY BREAK THE NEWS TO HER?

Answer 1

Sweety you are of age now. Just have your boyfriend with you when you go to tell her. Sit down and just tell her you have some news and go ahead and just say I'm pregnant. Good luck and congratulations

Answer 2

I was 18 when I got pregnant. Kind of the same story only he was in the Marines. You just have to tell her ASAP. You need her help. She is going to be disappointed but remember she will still love you and help you. Just go for it, your going to have to tell her.

Chances are since your living with her, she might already have an idea if she is the one that usually buys your personal items. That is how my mom pretty much figured it out, then I just had to confirm her thoughts. I am a young mom too and I know exactly how you are feeling. But do the right thing and talk to your mom. I am now 26 with 3 kids and still with the same man. It can work for you too.

So good luck to you, and best wishes.

Answer 3

im 19, 18 when i got pregnant. Telling my mom was the hardest thing i had to do.

My mom was and still is one of the most important people in my life. She was the only one i had while growing up. And it was even harder to tell her because i lived so far away (5 hour drive). I had to tell her over the PHONE!!! but she was happy. She couldn't believe i was going to make her a grandmother.

Since then, i've moved back to my hometown with my fiance and we've never been happier. Im now 29 weeks pregnant with my baby.

Answer 4

Just pluck up courage and tell her like it is. I too had to go through this when I was just 16 years old and 30 years ago this wasnt a good thing !!. I won't lie - boy she was upset and dissapointed but within a couple of weeks she was knitting for my baby and there for me all the way before and after my daughter was born. She was the best grandma my daughter could have had. The hardest part is getting the words out 'I'm pregnant' - once you've done that its the hard part over - believe me, I'm sure it'll all be fine. Good luck to you and your baby xxxxxxxxxx

Answer 5

Think of it this way- ur 18. Your mother might be angry at first but she will get over it. It's better to have a kid at 18 than 60. When that kid is born you will totally forget the whole "im a teenager" situationand so will your mum. My mum had me at 18, she married my dad at 17 and they've been together ever since havin 2 more children. dont worry about it- just tell her

Answer 6

I was seventeen and married three months before I fell pregnant and even then I was petrified to tell my mum, but I sat my mum and dad down along with my husband and we told them together that we were going to be parents, even though I was married I was still young and thought they would be cross, but parents have a lot of patience and understanding. Honesty is really the best policy and the sooner you tell both sets of parents the longer they have to accept the fact there is another life being brought into the world.


All the best of luck.

Answer 7

What has she got to be mad about? You have a good job, have been with your boyfriend for 3 years and...well you are 18. Just sit her down and explain things to her. she may be shocked at first but I'm sure she will come round

Answer 8

it is a wonderful opportunity to be a mother. before u tell them, ask yourself what your future plans are and how u truly feel about being a mother/this pregnancy. Coz when u tell ur parents, they might ask u the same questions. Most parents concerns are wanting the best for their child and as long as their child is responsible and confident with their decision. They just need to be assured that u are matured enough to be a responsible parent yourself. Dont get mad if they started yelling, maintain your composure and tell them your decision.

Answer 9

It sounds like you need some support at the moment, and who better to do that but your mum.

I was pregnant at 18 years old too, I was so scared of telling my mum, but i did and she was great, yeah sure, she was annoyed with me at first but she calmed down.

I had a beautiful little girl called Eden and my mum was there with me the whole time. Since then we have had a great relationship. If anything your mum can go through all of your options with you and at the same time she can support you.

GOOD LUCK XX

Answer 10

I would just sit mom down and tell her almost the same way you asked us - " Mom, I don't know how to tell this to you...but I am expecting your grandchild." Express your hopes that you will have her support during this time.
At least you are having it with someone that you have been steady in a relationship with! AND you are out of school and working on a career.
Good luck to you and your family - this could and should be a special time for you all.