What should I do about Child Support?

Question

I dated a girl for a month last year around March and after we broke up she notified me she had a child. Due to some shadyness on her part, I wasn't sure if it was true. I told her I didn't want to have a child. She started to call my work and harass me about it. I have since treated her nicely and she has cooled down and become cool. She notified me she had the baby around November, and won't ask for child support from me and is now going to be moving out of state. To protect myself from the possibility of owing back child support, and to find out if it is really mine - what can I do? I don't want to anger her and have her slam child support on me, but I also don't want to get a large child support bill down the road. She said something about how I can sign over rights, will that absolve me of paying any child support? Is there any legal way to where if she agrees, I can get something in writing that I don't have to pay child support?

Answer 1

Todays courts will not allow a parent to just sign over their rights, unless there is someone who is willing to adopt the child (new spouse for instance). DNA can and will be ordered in todays courts, so dont worry, if its not yours, you wont be ordered to help support it.

Todays courts also go by both parents incomes (in most states) and the childs needs. if one parent isnt working, they usually calculate an income for them and add it in.

here is a child support calculator. just click on your state and fill it in. its to give a general idea of what will be paid. other factors are added in also, such as daycare expenses, medical insurance, medical needs of the child, etc. But its a basic idea at least.

http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/calculators.htm

No matter what she says, the state and federal government is tired of parents not paying for thier kids (and looking for ways to avoid it). Sooner or later, you will pay.... i can assure you. The state will require it at some point. And you cant hide out until the child is 18, the courts are onto that trick (from years of deadbeats doing it).

She has no right to harrass you at work. I know you dont want to anger her (in the hopes you can avoid taking responsibiltiy for your child), but I wouldnt take that from her, let alone anyone.

Do the DNA (when the state finally forces you to take care of your child) and buck up.

Why wouldnt you want to take care of your own child anyway? Why would you have to be forced to?


http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/states.htm
http://www.divorcehq.com/spprtgroups.html

http://www.divorceinfo.com/statebystate.htm
http://www.divorcenet.com/states
http://www.divorcesource.com/
http://www.divorcecentral.com/
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/calculators.htm
http://www.helpyourselfdivorce.com/child-support-calculators.html
http://family.findlaw.com/
http://www.divorcehq.com/deadbeat.html
http://www.divorceinfo.com/
http://www.divorceinanutshell.com/
http://www.lawchek.com/Library1/_books/domestic/qanda/childsupp.htm
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-laws/state-child-/
http://www.supportguidelines.com/resources.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/articles/news.html
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-basics/

http://www.ncsea.org/
http://www.nfja.org/index.shtml

FACTS AND REGIONAL FEDERAL CS OFFICE INFO
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/opa/fact_sheets/cse_factsheet.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/passport.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/fop.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/faq/faq.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/oro/regions/acf_regions.html
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http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/grants/grants_cse.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/index.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/region2/index.html
http://www.fms.treas.gov/faq/offsets_childsupport.html
http://www.govbenefits.gov/govbenefits_en.portal
http://www.fedstats.gov/qf/
http://www.fedworld.gov/gov-links.html

CHILD SUPPORT LIEN NETWORK
(some states work with them)
http://www.childsupportliens.com/

COLLECTORS
http://www.supportkids.com/
http://www.supportcollectors.com/faq.php

TAX INFO
http://www.taxsites.com/index.htm
http://www.divorceinfo.com/taxes.htm
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc354.html
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc422.html
http://www.irs.gov/faqs/faq4-5.html
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/advocate/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/publications/p525/index.html
http://www.fms.treas.gov/faq/offsets_childsupport.html

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Answer 2

OK you have to contact a lawyer and ask for a paternity test. Mo matter what if that is your child you will have to pay child support, and do u really want to sign over your rights? That is a really tough thing to do, that means the child is not yours anymore. she also cant move out of state if a paternity test is pending, Do not let her scare you with child support. Fathers always get scared because immature women say that, you have so may right that you don't even know about, especially if she never told you about the child.
The judge will take that into consideration and it will not look good on her. Don't let her scare you and find a lawyer of your own, you will be surprised on how many right s you do have, with a DNA pending she cannot leave the state and if she does it is kidnapping. Good luck to you! I actually am a single mom and he does pay child support, it is a fair price and he is an excellent father.. BTW.. being a parent is very awesome .. you will never ever love like that! So think about that before signing your right away!
Michelle

Answer 3

No, So if you was smart you better head straight to child support and request DNA . If it comes back the baby is yours then they will set up payments now for child support and if you are not working they will be low so you will not have a large amount to pay. Unless the baby is being adopted there is no way to sign over your rights to get out of child support. Sure she is trying to get you to sign your rights so she can leave with they baby but that has nothing to do with child support. She is playing you. Believe me I have 2 grown children.

Answer 4

You need to have a paternity test done to see if you are the father or not. Has she put a name on the birth certificate? Maybe you should talk to a lawyer to see what your rights are. The first visit should cost you right around $50.00 more or less. Good Luck

Answer 5

nope. here is the best advice you will ever get. every paycheck give your parents 200 dollars and have them invest it for you. and do it for 18 years. in the event she comes after you, you've got a little cash saved. 2 or 3 years down the road when you become responsible, the kid sleeps through the night you demand a paternity test. if it is yours you take and share responsible. if not you make a down payment on a house.

Answer 6

definitely a question for a support lawyer...he's cheaper now than 18 years of support down the road...get to it.

Answer 7

First off you need to have a dna test proving you really are the father! yes signing over rights will get you off the hook! Do it through family court though!

Answer 8

find out if the child is yours first call a lawyer, they handle all of the dirty work!!!! i wouldn't sign anything!!!! until you find out if the child is yours or not. some girls scam guys for $$$$$ if it's yours, you should pay

Answer 9

The laws vary by region. You should really consult an attorney licensed to practice in your area.

However, my understanding of surrendering your parental rights as she described, would absolve you of all parental obligations in the future.