my boyfriend and i have been dating for over 9 mouth now, we decided to have relations, but we dint use condom. We just find out that i am pregnant. Since i am just 13 and he is 17 we decided that the best thing is to make and abortion i am really scare about these what should i do??
2007-02-06 11:30:40 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I know that it is very scary. When I was 19 I got pregnant unplanned and when I first found out I wanted to have an abortion because I was scared to have to go through a pregnancy, and I was scared to tell my parents. But I did some research about adoption and decided that adoption was the best thing for me. Please think long and hard before having an abortion because it may be something that you regret doing for the rest of your life. With adoption at least you know that you are giving your baby a good life. My friend had an abortion and she regrets it everyday. When we talk about it she says that she wishes she would have gone with adoption because she would like to know that her baby was with a family healthy and happy. If you want any more information on my experience feel free to e-mail me at jndugan@mac.com I know that this is really scary and hard right now, trust me I have been there, but things will be okay.
Hope this helps, good luck!
2007-02-06 11:37:31 · answer #1 · answered by babydancingnlovinit 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Please talk to your parents before you have an abortion. Abortion is a decision that you will live with the rest of your life. When you are an adult and you hold your first baby in your arms you will cry for the baby that died when you had an abortion. You may cry for that baby your whole life. If you give the baby up for adoption, at least you will know that the baby did not die.
Find a new boyfriend. A 17 year old boy should know that sex without a condom will cause a girl to get pregnant. A boy who is 17 also knows that he should not be dating a 13 year old girl. If he really loves you he will wait until you are old enough to date him.
2007-02-06 11:48:53 · answer #2 · answered by anne p 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your parents. An abortion is a surgical procedure that has very serious risks. You need your parents to protect you from making a bad decision.
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE don't go through with an abortion. I know you are young and you didn't understand the consequences of what you were doing, but don't murder and inocent life. I just had a little girl, she's the most beautiful thing I've ever laid eyes on. I promise that if you have a little baby you wouldn't regret it. You could give him/her up for adoption and make a couple very happy.
I believe if you abort this new little life inside you it would be very selfish. You made a grown up decision to start having sex. Now do the right thing and be responsible for your actions. Tell your parents as soon as possible. If you can't tell them talk to a counselor at your school. You can email me if you need help- I will do whatever I can. Good luck sweetie :)
2007-02-06 11:37:50 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Humble Proclaimer♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that is truly what you want to do. It haunts a lot of women for the rest of their lives. Please don't have the procedure done as a way of birth control. You need to talk to your parents so that they know what's going on with you. What if you have some bad side effects from the abortion? People have been known to hemorrhage or get a fever and infection after wards leaving them sterile. Either way your family will find out. Talk to all those close to you. I'm sure you have several other options. Be more responsible in the future.
2007-02-06 11:56:52 · answer #4 · answered by Babyface 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO please dont abort it i had an abortion a few years ago and honest u never can forget it plus i have seen photos of babies who have been aborted and i can honestly say it has made me realise u know my baby that i aborted should be here with me and instead i took the evil way and had it killed just because i was scared to tell my mum but wishing back i should of told my mum cos what is a telling off really???Nothing compared to ur own baby!!Just have a good think about it and if ur scared of coping well theres no need to cos ur love will come fast when ur babys here i have 3 children and i love being a mum
2007-02-06 11:43:18 · answer #5 · answered by elizabeth b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is best if you tell your mother you may not think it's the right thing to do but your 13 and you had unprotected sex with a 17 year old so I would say your or his judgement about this is not the best in the world. Besides that it is a very costly and painful procedure if you do decide to do it, and trust me your mom will be there for you when this guy is looong gone. It will be your mom who sets up with you at night when your crying over this not him soo please just talk to your mother about this and then go to your local heath department. They can give you more options, get you tested for STD's like HIV, Syphilis, and gonorrhea. Remember you did have unprotected sex. the Health department can also give you options about birth control and get you signed up for medicaid.
2007-02-06 11:50:24 · answer #6 · answered by qsababysal1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would go and talk to a crisis pregnancy center. I agree that God's word says it is wrong, but there are also risks in getting an abortion that the abortion clinics don't like to mention.
The crisis pregnancy center will give you a pregnancy test to confirm you are pregnant, they will give you an ultrasound to show you your baby and they will give you the statistics and counseling about your decision. It is all free, so you wouldn't have to worry about costs.
It is important to be informed on both sides of the issue.
2007-02-06 11:58:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
these Mommy's are just getting younger and younger by the minutes at your age it like a baby raising a baby what are you even doing having sex oh my god lord help you please ....... abortion is not a birth control method so now that you know you can get pregnant next time have him wear protection OK. you need to take much more care of your self i bet you your mama don't know and if she did I'm so sure she will be mad at you so your lucky you can have anyone over the age of 18 years old besides your parents sign for the abortion what you and you little boyfriend should do is take this as lesson to be learned
2007-02-06 11:42:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off for all of you who said that the age difference was a bad thing....My husband is 5 years older than me we met when I was 15 and started dating. There is nothing wrong with age difference and it's not robbing the cradle!!!! Robbing the cradle would be if you step-mom was the same age as you.
Second, please don't get an abortion...there is adoption, there are many people out there who want a baby that can't have one. Please, don't throw away your baby's life. Talk to your parents, they will be able to support you and trust me parents are more forgiving than you may think. They might be mad at you, but you are their daughter and they love you reguardless.
2007-02-06 12:18:36 · answer #9 · answered by schs_spartan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My cousin was in a similar situation. It screwed her life and now she can't go to college and become an art teacher like she wanted too! If you MUST go through with it, be prepared for becoming an outcast. Also, I would suggest giving the baby up for adoption, but making sure you could still go visit them occasionaly. Or you could just abort the baby, wich is cool too.
2007-02-06 11:37:23 · answer #10 · answered by serenityfan76 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋