2007-02-06 11:29:55 · 31 answers · asked by poppiesu1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-02-06 11:31:53 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Jasmine ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER!
You shouldn't marry unless you love the one you are going to commit to. You love your kids so do the best you can to show them. They are better off with a single parent in a healthy environment than in the midst of a stressful relationship. The bottom line is that if you don't truly love this person then you will never be happy with him/her. The relationship will eventually become strained and it's the kids that will suffer. They may not understand what is going on but they feel it.Families are made up of many different combinations of people. There doesn't have to be a mom and a dad.The main thing is to let the kids know they are loved, support , encourage and guide them in their lives.That's what matters most.Good luck to you !! : )
2007-02-06 20:13:37 · answer #2 · answered by uncle louie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not the kids that you will be making a vow to.
Children are not stupid and marrying for them when there is not other positives in the relationship will only make stress in the relationship - then the kids get to go through all of that!
So my thought is, only marry for the kids if you are also willing to divorce for the kids!
2007-02-06 19:33:29 · answer #3 · answered by QueenBee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY dont marry for kids you should marry because you are in love and want to spend the rest of your life with your spouse if kids s what you agree on then go for it DO IT but dont get pushed into it if you dont feel comfortable
2007-02-06 19:33:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no perfect situation. if you are looking for someone who loves you and at the same time loves your kids, chances are slim. However, you can find some responsible loving care person who would like to take care of kids with you. Even though at the beginning, the person may not be too attracted to you, because she/he is caring, kind, time will allow you establish a bond. People reached certain age, do not develop inmature spontaneous feelings. But time will allow you get to know better, and establish a secure bond. I may not marry right away, but would like to try to see if it works out. As a mother, if my kids are happy, that alone, add lot of happiness in my life.
2007-02-06 19:54:22 · answer #5 · answered by J F 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no kids should never be the reason you want the kids to be in a happy health loving home and where there's no love then there is no home. kids need both parents true but ones the love each other and not fighting all the time. so i say forgo the wedding and have family day out and let the kids know that its best that your apart then together and one day they will thank you for that and love you more for thinking of them and not your self's....
2007-02-06 19:34:11 · answer #6 · answered by tlcoufan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is no. My parents were married for 13 years. Now that they are divorced and moved on with their lives, they are better parents then when they were together. My husband had an illegitimate child with his ex - she wanted to marry him- he didn't want to marry her. It's not about having to be together to raise a good child. I know a couple who has been together for over 20 years but the children grew up with no morals. You don't have to be married to raise good children. I grew up perfectly fine with a good job, a good husband, a nice home.
2007-02-06 19:50:13 · answer #7 · answered by princessk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOPE
Did that, didn't work, besides, the kids know. It's a disaster waiting to happen.
You can stay single for the kids. Or get into a great relationship for the kids to show they how good it can be.
20 years from now you'll thank me.
2007-02-06 19:34:26 · answer #8 · answered by Jim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If you do not love the other person then the kids will ultimately suffer the consequences if you two are fighting all the time and don't care about one another in that way.
2007-02-06 19:32:29 · answer #9 · answered by zyllee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Marriage is a sacred bond for two people who love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives together. If you hate each other chances are you should not be married.
2007-02-06 19:40:58 · answer #10 · answered by Isabella's Mommy Expecting #2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the kids dont care. You do it for you two...wouldnt be hard to divorce? I think if they are both your kids or from seperate marriages (or relationships)...if the kids are of understanding age- then ask them...involve them. I doubt it matter to them. I was 14 when my parents divorced. I say no-not if you are pressured. It is your relationship...be careful if there is kids involved.
2007-02-06 19:34:06 · answer #11 · answered by Rachel H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋