ok so my best friend (she's a girl of course) said to me the other day while we were hanging out in my room that shee wants to experiment with another woman. and she wants it to be me. she told me to think about it, but i dont really want to experiment with her or any other woman for that matter especially since im talking to this guy that i really like. how do i tell her no without losing her friendship and making her mad?
2007-02-06 10:54:46 · 22 answers · asked by imherewhatareyourothertwowishes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
just tell her that you respect her decision but that you are talking to someone and dont wanna mess that up and that you are not that interested in experimenting with her. but you'd still like to be friends.
2007-02-06 10:58:16 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she gets mad at you then that is weird because that is a huge thing to ask your friend...just say know, im not interested in that and im working on another relationship and it wouldnt feel right.
Plus it will prob ruin your relationship with her because you could both feel really weird after and uncomfortable. Think of the things involved in this, if you really dont want her to be hanging around your private parts, then you must tell her.
Dont be worried about telling her, she will deff understand!!!
2007-02-06 11:00:29 · answer #2 · answered by sabina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are flattered that she is attracted to you, but that you are strictly into guys and arent interested in the whole bi curious bit. Tell her you will support her regardless what she does because she is your friend, but its just not something that you have ever really had an interest in and will never. This new guy is your focus right now.
She should respect your decision and if she doesnt.....then she wasnt your friend to begin with.
Good luck hun and good luck with the new guy.
2007-02-06 10:59:17 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are flattered, but it's not for you. And as your best friend you hope she understands.
However, just because you like a guy doesn't mean experimentation is out of the question. You might find another side of yourself.
2007-02-06 11:01:31 · answer #4 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first poster: just tell her you're not comfortable doing that, but that you want to remain friends and then change the subject. If you don't make a big deal out of it then neither will she. If you freak out on her though, you're sure to lose her as a friend.
2007-02-06 10:58:28 · answer #5 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel. Tell her you are not interested in anything sexually with her, that you only want friendship. Tell her you are interested in this guy and wouldnt want to ruin anything. Just be honest and if she is truely your friend she will understand-been there done that and my friend understood. Good luck.
2007-02-06 10:59:11 · answer #6 · answered by mrsbarber21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is really your best friend just be honest on how you feel, that you are flattered but you are not into that. If she really cares about you then she will understand. Do not let her pressure you on doing something you don't want to.
2007-02-06 10:59:21 · answer #7 · answered by sweetpee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She shouldn't have asked you in the first place seeing as how you 2 are best friends. She should have known you weren't into that. Just tell her No Thanks. She will get over it eventually.
2007-02-06 12:47:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to her that you're not interested and that it's not about her, it's about the fact that you're not interested in any women, period. If she gets mad or ends the friendship, that's on her for being immature, not you.
2007-02-06 10:57:30 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If she is a true friend she should understand. Don't insult her ideas (though I don't agree with it). Try to explain to her how you feel. If she gets upset then she wasn't a "best" friend to begin with.
2007-02-06 10:59:56 · answer #10 · answered by sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋