Am I still considered married if my husband is away right now?

Question

What is considered a separation? My husband is away right now and will be for a while. Am I allowed to act single since he is away. What are the terms as far as marriage goes, if the spouse is by herself for 5 years or so? What would an attorney call this situation if any? I want to stay married to my husband but I just don't like this alone time that I am dealing with. I want to be able to have a friend to talk to and go out with at times. Thanks, Serious answers please

My husband is serving time in prison, and I do love him dearly. We have two kids together and because he got himself into this situation, he risks losing alot but I am one to forgive and be there for him and want to stay married to him. He just doesn't want me to put me and the kids life on hold for this amount of time. That is why I asked this question. Can someone give me more information about a legal separation. Thanks

Answer 1

Well your are married. I'm guessing your man is either in the military or in prison. Now I have two opinions. If your man is in the military then don't even go there. If he is out there risking his life and sending you his paycheck he deserves alot better than that!

Now if he is in prison, well girl I don't think he thought about you when he was doing his dirt. Whatever the case may be he was doing something he was not supposed to and why on earth you want to stay married to him is beyond me because you will open Pandora's box by getting involved with somebody else and can cause your husband to resent you and end up leaving you and not to mention, you may fall in love with somebody and then what.....

My advice...get a legal separation during this period and if you don't find anybody or feel when your man gets out that you guys can work it then cancel the legal separation and stay married. But do the legal separation because ....your married and it's CHEATING.

Answer 2

Yes you are still considered married. If your husband is away in jail and you still love him and are willing to forgive him for what it is that he did then you should stay with him. Just b cuz he is in their doesn't mean that you cant have a life. You could and should have friends this will help you alot. Talk to your girlfriends. If you mean, a "friend" as in a guy then that is diff. personally i love my husband a lot and if i were in this situation i would go visit him in jail and have some conjugal visits. Try to keep a relationship with him even if he's gone for a while, if this is what you really want. Remember the story of Penelope and Ulysses (Odysseus) she waited for him for years like 7 or more not sure and when he did come back everything was well. If your husband is not coming out ever then i dont know... you should really talk to him.

Answer 3

A separation is when you two agree, either between yourselves or by law, not to act as husband and wife anymore. Sometimes this is a prelude to divorce, other times it is a breathing space to allow the couple to decide if they want to remain married. Unlike divorce (which can be obtained with only one partner consenting to it in the US), it's got to be mutual. So if you want to act single (in a sexual or romantic sense) you need to talk it over with your husband.

Your situation isn't a separation in the sense that you mean... although physically, you are separated, your marriage is still binding. Frankly I think 5 years apart (with no visits? seriously?) is a lot to ask of any couple and maybe something you two should reconsider.

Answer 4

It depends are you separated because of a break up? Are you separated because he is in the military on duty? If you are separated for non negative reasons you should always look at yourself as his wife and never single. That's why no one is trust worthy any more. People go out for extended periods of time for work or country and how are they rewarded, spouses cheating on them because they can not be faithful longer then two months. If you are truly separated then you are either going to stay faithful, or you need to get a divorce. Being with another person even if you are single will only hurt what you may have left for a relationship

Answer 5

What do you mean "away"...like he moved out? If you guys essentially broke up and you haven't seen him in 5 years but haven't officially gotten divorced, then yeah I'd say you can start acting like you're single! But legally, you're still married. You will need to call a divorce attorney to make yourself officially single! Why is he gone for such long periods of time? Why would you want to stay married to him if he is never around and you want to be with someone else? I think you need to decide what's more important...being "married" (with no husband present) or being with someone and not being lonely. I don't know why you'd stay married, there must be a whole lot more to this story!

Answer 6

If you have not filed for a legal separation or divorce, then you are married. Why is the husband away? Is it due to him not wanting to be with you anymore or is he in the military stationed somewhere? If he's not wanting to be with you anymore and has moved away, then you can live as single as you want. But if he is stationed somewhere due to being enlisted in the military, you are legally married and shouldn't be doing anything. After all, you are probably all he has to come home to. If your husband is in the service, you should have known that he would be away for quite some time. You should have never engaged in marriage if this was something you did not agree to accept.

Answer 7

Well, if neither of you have filed for a legal separation or divorce, then you are still married. I can relate with being alone, there is nothing at all wrong with having a friend as long as it is a platonic relationship. Talk to your husband about it and maybe you can go and be with him so that there isn't a issue.

Answer 8

Married plus seperated equals married.
Divorced equals not married.
If you want to stay married to your husband as you say
then you just committed yourself to be alone because of
the situation, and if after awhile you can't handle it any-
more then you need to talk to him and see about getting
a divorce because no matter where he is at you and him
are still husband and wife for no matter how long a period
of time, it's just that plain and simple. You can have a
friend and go out at times as long as it is only talk and
meeting in public places, but statics show that when
opposite sex does that for a period of time then it ends
up with more than what it began with so it's up to you
to either be committed 100percent or not.

Answer 9

Yes, you are still legally married, no matter if your spouse is away or not. Confide in a family member or a girlfriend if you feel lonely. Put the shoe on the other foot, wouldn't you want your husband to act married if you were the one that was away for a period of time? If you are unhappy with it, then do him and yourself a favor and get the divorce.

Answer 10

Separation is when you are having marital problems and are getting ready to divorce. Since your only problem seems to be that you are lonely and you want to stay married then to have an affair would be wrong. If you love your husband you will be faithful. Unless you have already received finalized divorce papers you are still married. You have no right to act single while your husband is away and then pretend to be the loving wife when he returns.