has he/is he cheating?

Question

one night we was at home celebrating the birth of our 4th daughter, we had some friends round, i went round to my next door neighbour to ask if she wanted the music turned down and she said it was fine she invited me in for a drink so to be friendly i went i didn't realise the time everybody else had left my house except my best mate she came round and told me that my husband had tried it on. he said he couldn't remember doing it and apologised she just shrugged it off. since then he has been going out every wednesday and friday wearing aftershave and deodrant, my best mate came round the other day and told me she was six weeks pregnant and he dissappeared how do i find out whats going on. help please

Answer 1

i think that you better be vareful and get a paternity test too

Answer 2

Instead of allowing yourself to be left in the dark, always worrying if your husband is cheating, you need to get smart. Firstly if he users a mobile phone, you could check it regularly, this way you find out which numbers he rings regularly etc. Look through his messagers,if he users the internet check that too. Why not follow him when he goes out. Why dont you ask him where he is going & then check up that he really is there. Check the milige of the car before he goes & when he comes back. Smell his clothes when he comes home, you cannot miss the smell of another womens perfum on your mans clothes. When he's out on Wednesdays or whenever, why not phone your friend & if your husband is there her voice will sound nervious. Get some hard evedience before you accuse anybody of deceipt. I hope you find out he's not cheating but preper for the worst, because it does happen.

Answer 3

From my experience, follow your gut! More than likely he has cheated with her. Being the father, you couldn't know for sure. I ignored all my gut feelings about what my husband was doing and later found out that he was nothing but a no good loser.

Answer 4

If he dissaperad that much with the cologne and all why werent you asking more ???'s and what did he try on? If he is gone again I would think he is cheating anfd probaly was the whole time. If he comes back get some answers from him

Answer 5

That one is hard because, there isn't really a whole lot of evidence. Your gut is usually right. I would try to find anything that is questionable. I hope that he isn't cheating because, that hurts so much when you are betrayed by the people that you love.

Answer 6

Well if your hubby disappeared than u can assume that he has and had been cheating on you and probably with your best mate, and when he comes back u just need to ask him, plus why did u not ask where he was leaving all the other times and why did u let him leave?

Answer 7

wow, u got some problems hun. Sounds like he isnt being honest with you. '
If you havent asked her, then pin her down and be point blank.
The simple fact that he disappeared is showing guilt already.
There appears to be some deceit in this lil love triangle.
You definately need to get to the bottom of it. The only way to do that is to keep asking. Dont be niave. Go with your instinct. If something smells funny, you question it. You are given a womans intuition, trust it hun. Its your best friend, not this lil lady who is pregnant with hubby's baby.
Good luck.

Answer 8

Sounds like you will just have to confront your husband and find out what is going on...as soon as you see him. This needs to be figured out right away. Never assume anything. But you need to get to the bottom of it. Then you may consider asking your friend some serious questions if you can find her. I hope turns out in your favor. Good Luck.

Answer 9

CALL CHEATERS BABY!!!!!!!! get a baby sitter for those nights and follow him girl what are you waiting for?????? do not be a victim!!!!! ieven get someone else o follow him and report back to you if he is doing it then tell him to piss off you have children to think about and they dont need the tension that this would be causing. your best mate doesnt sound like she is your best mate she sounds like a whore. we are at our most honest when we are drunk and everyone uses the excuse that they dont remember when they are drunk so if he tried it on then he wanted more even if only for a minute and you DO NOT deserve to be second best to any woman. you are the mother of his children and if he doesnt respect you then kick him to the kerb. you deserve a man that loves you only and doesnt look at other women.
the other option is to wait until the baby is born. you said that you have 4 kids maybe that child will look like one of yours. the real question is how long will you let this continue. if it is happening then you are being treated like fool.

Answer 10

Has he cheated doesnt seem like the question ...the question is did he impregnate your friend ....but honestly if you even have the question...there is a trust issue...and you will take no comfort in other people confirming something you clearly believe.

Answer 11

Talk to him about this. Draw your line .Stop him from going out without your presence .Ask him to show that he still loves by stopping doing what he does .Try to follow your friend and check if child was your husband but that wont help you .The best thing just wait and see .If he can stop doing what he does it can be very helpful.