ok last year i discovered that my husband had an online realtionship with some old haggered chick that knew he was married he would send her little notes via email throughout the day and did other things when me and our daughter were in bed at night. he was also on some adult sites looking for women that were closer to home. When i caught him he had got sloppy and i got nosey. Anyway he said it would never happen again when he knew i found out he came home shaking and upset not sure if it was because he felt guilty or because he got caught. Now i question everything even though i am always checking everything, i feel so insecure does he really love me etc. It was great this past summer when a co-worker was flirting with me and even put his phone number in my purse i told him because i would never do anything like that but he was jealous it was great. am i being irrational or what?
2007-02-06 10:26:35 · 5 answers · asked by foxeh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know that your faced with a difficult decision right now. You have to be able to have some sort of truth to continue to work on your marriage. If he says that he loves you and it will never happen again and you want to give it another shot then you must put yourself out there to trust him. You can not be with him every moment of every day. If I were you I would keep my eyes open because you know what to look for and where to look for it at. Just remember if you stay with him you have to let it go..as hard as it may be you can not throw it up in fights or arguments. Good Luck!
2007-02-06 10:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by Maybe I am a smartass..so what 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I broke up with my ex boyfriend/babies dad because he would not awnser he phone and hed finally admit after giving me a lame story it was because he picked up some girl he found attractive and intersting to be a friend. Then I caught him doing the same thing with another girl in the building I snapped. I left. Then we broke up and three weeks later he tells me to move on cause he is already dating others. I am livid I hate him so much. But his behavior showed he was because he would get so pissed off sometimes if i asked what he was doing or why he was gone so long..and other times hed have no problems telling me what he was doing. So theres a red flag. IF anyone has to keep secrets from you then they are doing you dirty!! Dont waste your time with him if that is the case..and get out before you have kids because this is ******** i deserve better but now that we have a baby together it makes it one hundred times harder.
2007-02-06 14:20:28 · answer #2 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have learned the hard way, that you cannot trust someone that continues to hide things and lie.
If you can't trust him, you have nothing.
I find myself doing some soul searching on all that lately, realizing that you cannot truly be happy if you have to constantly check up on someone to see what they're doing. It's not worth the constant stress, then EVERYTHING you do, think, and feel becomes about them, and what they are or are not doing.
Move on...maybe with the guy that slipped the phone number in your purse, *wink*, but get a divorce first.
2007-02-06 10:51:13 · answer #3 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I started an online relationship with a woman I ended up cheating on my wife. As for you getting another man's attention gave him a taste of he's own medicine.
2007-02-06 11:12:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either forget it or dump him. Get off the fence.
2007-02-06 13:12:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋