Someone who I thought i could trust blabs my secrets?

Question

so i used to like this guy. past tense. and i'm really secretive about who i like and stuff so all my friends try to pry it out of me. i told one of my friends about this. i thought my secret was safe with her. then i found out that another one of my friends noes and i didn't even tell her. i told the friend that i did tell if she knew anything about it, and she asked me who else i told. i remembered that i had told one other friend. she told me that this friend probably told my other friend. i was mad for a whole day at that friend and finally confronted her. she promised that she hadn't told anyone. then i asked the friend who mysteriously knew who i liked who told her who it was. guess what i found out. it was the same grl that told me another one of my friends told her. now she's denying it but i totally no it was her. wut should i do???

Answer 1

I'm confused, but just don't trust her anymore.

Answer 2

I hate it when people tell your personal secrets! It is so disrespectful and RUDE! And just recently I learned that the best way to keep a secret from spreading is simply not to tell any. And if you just can't hold it in, choose to tell only ONE person, and it must be someone you completely trust, and that has never told any of your other secrets before. If you keep this in mind, you won't have any problems. Now, as for your specific problem, I say, talk to this person. Tell them exactally how you feel. Tell them that you don't feel like you can trust them anymore. Anyone who hears news that someone can't trust them will surely put at least some thought into it, and maybe try to improve. Because everyone knows, when you improve, you gain respect, in with respect you gain more privlage, which means more fun, and more of hearing secrets! And of course telling your best friends secrets can be quite fun, but it can also be dangerous to your reputation. So if you do choose to talk to this person, remember to tell them kindly and gently, and as a friend. Don't make this person feel like you are mad or upset at them. If she doesn't understand, she isn't a true friend anyway.

Best Wishes,

Serena

Answer 3

You didnt say how old you are, but Im going to assume you are in either middle or high school.
This kind of stuff is synonymous with school and immaturity of kids.

You cant trust children/teenagers to keep secrets, so keep your secrets to yourself until you become an adult. (unless the secret involves someone's health or life, then you have to say something to an adult... Notice I said adult???)

Just tell her, that you know and have proof that she said what she said, and to fess up.

If she insists on lying to you, dont ever talk to her again. Liars are losers.

If she fesses up, then calmly, thank her for being honest, but you will not be confiding in her in the future, but you can stay aquaintences.

Answer 4

Well you need to think about it this way, she told another friend of yours. She didn't tell the guy or a bunch of other people. The fact that she lied to you about telling is the thing you should be upset about. If she makes a habit of lying to you then stop being friends with her otherwise forgive and forget.

Answer 5

I find its always very hard to find someone you can really trust...real true friends wont break your trust, but sometimes you'll have friends that just cant help themselves, it doesnt mean they do it out of malice, although in some cases they do...but if i was you, just be careful about what you tell this particular person in the future....

Answer 6

U cant take it too personal and u cant take it out on them because u told them. If u absolutely wanted no one to know u should have told absolutely no one. Now u know who u can and can't trust and with what life lesson # 1. Trust no one with everything and everyone with nothing

Answer 7

if there is one thing ive learned about friends it is that you cant trust a single one of them no matter how close you are to them. its a hard truth to accept but it is true, i guarentee there are many people out there who would support this. The only person you can trust in this world is yourself and thats the bottom line. but im sorry your friend sucks so... yea..

Answer 8

Obviously don't tell that girl secrets anymore and maybe consider dropping her as a friend

Answer 9

Well, if this girl is telling everyone your secrets, is she rlly your friend? I don't think that you should tell her anything more. She doesn't deserve to know about your secrets. And then, if she notices ur behavior, just tell her about it.

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Answer 10

The sensible way is You could stop talking to her, and just give her the cold shoulder.

I mean i didn't mean to be effensive but i was just wondering ...what is the problem if they know. As long as no one tells the guy.

If they do...might as well get even....or just look away.

good luck

Answer 11

If you don't want someone to know your secrets don't tell anyone. Or if you have to tell someone, tell someone who is outside that group of people.