like you tell the person you r madly in love with that u don't want to have sex before marrige and he dumps u or cheats on u. does that mean they are not respect u or they r just getting bored with u?
2007-02-06 10:20:13 · 20 answers · asked by omg 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It means that they don't respect OR love you....
2007-02-06 10:24:15 · answer #1 · answered by BSG 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Neither, several times a week I run across people who marry and find their spouse doesn't like sex. I know that eyes are popping all over, but the truth is that some people just are turned off by sex, it's dirty, slimy, not worth the time. My Mom was this way. My poor Dad found this out after marriage. I'm saying that if someone reacts to a sexual encounter with apprehension, the partner may read this as an undesirable trait in a life partner. The wise choice would be to stop relations right then and now, look for someone who isn't as freaked out about intimacy!
2007-02-06 10:34:49 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It means that he didn't really love you in the first place. If there is genuine love, then the parties want to be together and have no desire to be with anybody else. They respect each other and they want their sex to be special, saving it for the marriage is the normal way to show that love and respect. If he dumps you because you want to wait, then all he was after in the first place was the sex. If you had given in to him, he would have dumped you after sex just as he did before sex. After achieving his conquest, he would have simply moved on to some other conquest. It is all in the challenge. Once accomplished, it is no longer any fun. That is not love, it is a macho control domination issue. You are better off without him.
Move on to a more decent person.
2007-02-06 10:33:03 · answer #3 · answered by rac 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know that for me, if I am in a committed relationship it includes sex. Many guys feel the same way. I'm also of the opinion that the emphasis on virginity is a throwback to the days where women were regarded as property and damaged goods if they were not virgins.
If you believe in virginity at marriage for whatever reason, religion, morality or whatever I would not enter into a committed relationship with you. It has nothing to do with boredom or respect it has to do with the lack of agreement on a very basic issue.
I think commitment requires the agreement physically as well as
spiritually. You would not be for me.
There is also a number of shallow guys out there who are in for one thing only.
Either way you are not the one .
2007-02-06 10:54:09 · answer #4 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys who do that only want a girl for sex and are trying hard to get it by using charm, taking the girl out and being romantic. If a man really loves a woman he will respect her wishes and stay with her, not leave. That's what true love is all about: love, honor, loyalty and respect.
2007-02-06 10:25:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Dont listen to all the women and their sob stories truth is most guys need that physical connection to someone. Dosent mean that they are using you or trying to screw you over but not many guys are gonna wait for that. It to long and men are very sex driven. Good luck with your hunt but 9/10 guys wont be waiting for sex sorry
2007-02-06 11:30:40 · answer #6 · answered by Kevin C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are dating to find a suitable future husband-the guys you are dating are not necessarily dating to find a future wife and/or don't share the same values that you do concerning pre-marital sex.
The key is to date men who share the same values concerning pre-marital sex. The most likely place to find one is in church or church-related activities.
My suggestion is to have a discussion about values before you allow yourself to fall in love. That will save a lot of disappointment later on.
2007-02-06 11:01:57 · answer #7 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means the only thing they wanted from you was to get in your pants. What a real jerk! (the guy of course). If they had respect for you and really cared for you, they would wait. If you have your goals of waiting until you are married, then wait! Don't let others pressure you into something you don't want to do. Also, set standards. If you heard rumors about the guy and he asks you out, don't go out with him.
2007-02-06 11:01:41 · answer #8 · answered by Çåŗőľîņẫ§ħŷġĭ®ł 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well not all guys....i mean ur great person that u are honest with the guys..and u know u are right...ur not an item sold in a supermarket we try it before marrige
2007-02-06 10:41:43 · answer #9 · answered by max h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys don't date for the purpose of getting married. We date to have someone in our life physically and understand that it may lead to marriage. Telling a guy you are waiting til marriage is like telling a guy you are only dating to find a guy to marry.
2007-02-06 10:28:02 · answer #10 · answered by jax0817 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it means they are looking for sex and cant have it with you. You will find someone that will love and respect you and they will not cheat or run away when you tell them you want to wait
2007-02-06 10:26:37 · answer #11 · answered by Lovely 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋