2007-02-06 10:19:59 · 18 answers · asked by forty and fabulous 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There's really very little you can do about this - she's his mother after all! Some men have very strong ties with their mother and really believe they are above reproach. Trying to make him take sides will only make life harder for you, and you'll get terribly resentful. If I were you, I'd try and limit how much you have to see her and encourage him to see her on his own - say you understand how important she is to him and how you'd love for them to have some "them" time. Then you go and have a coffee with a good friend and slag her off to your hearts content! If he's this loyal to her, you can bet he's equally loyal to you if she's saying anything about you. Remember that mother's are like bottoms...you can slag your own off, but nobody else is ever allowed!
2007-02-06 10:26:54 · answer #1 · answered by f0xymoron 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wouldn't have a problem if he supported you because your mother in law would have to tow the line. So it's not your problem it's his. His attitude will only make things worse and the longer he lets it go on the unhappier he will make you. If he supports you life could be more peaceful. Good luck.
2007-02-06 18:33:22 · answer #2 · answered by chewystuff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could see it from the other way in that he has a problem with his mother in law but you think she is great??
2007-02-06 18:23:09 · answer #3 · answered by Bristol_Gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck. All men believe their mothers can do no wrong and that they are perfect. You feel the same way with your mother if anyone attacked her.
What kind of problems do you have with her? Is she trying to control yall?
2007-02-08 12:15:16 · answer #4 · answered by Erin B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...instead of trying to talk about it (which i'm sure you have done) then you need to show them with your actions that you and your mother-in-law don't get along. actions speak louder than words. for example...if your mother in law wants to have dinner at her place...send your husband by himself. you don't HAVE to go. find something else to do while your husband is with his family. another example...if she decides to show up (make sure that you park your car in a place that cannot be blocked by another car so you can leave if you need to) unexpedly...then you leave until your mother in law leaves. screen the calls at home. if it is your mother in law...let the voice mail get it. if you don't have caller id...get it. block her from your email so that she cannot send you any emails. i'm sure that your husband will put up a hissy fit because you don't want to be around his mother...but hey...you tried to talk and nobody listend. now you have had all the abuse that you can take and you can't take anymore. you will have to put your foot down in regards to this situation so that YOU will have peace of mind.
2007-02-06 19:16:00 · answer #5 · answered by cfalways 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem with my mother in law. My wife finds her at no fault all the time it is so frustrating. I know how you feel.
2007-02-06 18:24:49 · answer #6 · answered by duotronic3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you have a problem with your mother ?or do you think she is great and does your husband have a problem with your mum you see it is his mother not many men find fault with their mother it is true a boy will always be mummys boy, not many women are good enough for their sons,bite your tongue .good luck
2007-02-06 18:33:30 · answer #7 · answered by susan will of the wisp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you should do is tell a few friends about the situation and see what they say--we dont always see things clearly when we are involved--perhaps she is a problem or maybe not and u just need to work things out-------good luck
2007-02-06 18:24:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to know that he has now started his OWN family with YOU, and while he can still love his mother all he wants, your needs are going to have to be met first. Whatever your issues are with your mother-in-law, he should be symmpathetic to you and not defensive and protective of mom. You are his wife, he has chosen to build his life with you, and he needs to be protective and sympathetic to your feelings.
2007-02-07 04:08:13 · answer #9 · answered by gg55 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you haven't mentioned your problem .It is difficult to share love with somebody .You love her son .She loves her son too.Try to sort this problem through discussion, firstly with your husband tell him facts so he can believe .Don't ask him to make a choice between you and his mom because blood will be always thicker than water so don't frustrate your self ..Woman to woman talk can also be organised.
2007-02-06 18:33:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋