I am a really nice but also really shy person i am described as cute looking or pretty i am in good shape and have a decent body 5 ft 6 110 pounds.But i attract possesive, controling,often have a macho personality and manupulative type of guys and i dont understand why?I always try to see the best in people and am friendly so whats wrong with me?I like feeling protected and safe in a relationship is this the problem?
2007-02-06 10:15:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
These are the only guys that ask me out!?
2007-02-06 10:16:52 · update #1
No i dont like these types of guys but nice guys never ask me out?
2007-02-06 10:24:04 · update #2
I am only in college
2007-02-06 10:29:29 · update #3
You are attracting them because you are drawn to that type of personality for whatever reason. You need to look at what is happening in your life that makes you this way.
2007-02-06 10:25:34 · answer #1 · answered by Helen T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a very good question! It seems that you may be a very nice looking young lady based on what you're saying! I tend to feel that all men have one of those personalities! Which may or may not be a good thing! Maybe you're the type of girl that those type of guys tend to look for. Are you too sweet right away? And then again they may have their own insecurity issues and try to portray someone that they actually aren't! Make sure that whatever you do that you do not compromise for just anything! Always go for what you want! The right guy will come along!
2007-02-06 18:32:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try working on your self-esteem issues first and then asking a guy out yourself. Don't wait for someone to ask you out. You can find a genuinely nice guy if you look in the right place. I am not sure how old you are, but decent guys are not found at bars/clubs/etc. You will find them at the lab, library, science/engineering class. But first build your self-confidence otherwise you will only attract losers and assholes.
2007-02-06 18:28:08 · answer #3 · answered by demondesolator 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've found that for most girls, the type of guys they attract is a matter of where they're looking. Think about what kind of guy you want, and then go looking for guys there.
You said you want a guy who is protective and will keep you safe in a relationship? Keep in mind that it requires a certain amount of being controlling to keep you safe. I can't keep my wife safe if she's not where I can protect her.
2007-02-06 18:28:19 · answer #4 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be a smart girl that is in college which shows you have a good head on your shoulders. Your description of yourself sounds like your desirable to men.
I know my mom use to tell me that girls like bad boys especially around your age. I am 31 and I have been where you are. I would suggest for you two things..
1. If you meet a guy that you think is nice and he does not ask you out; empower yourself and ask him out.
2. Don't be afraid to have your friends set you up with a guy. Your friends will look out for you and never set you up with someone that think is bad for you.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-06 18:45:03 · answer #5 · answered by Maybe I am a smartass..so what 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want someone to make all the decisions,
You want someone to pay all the bills,
And then you wonder why you are being controlled and feel manupilated -- That's what you are requiring for a realtionship with you.
Get a JOB pay your own BILLS for a few years and make your own DECISIONS. Don't date for two years.
After that I'll bet you'll never date a controlling man again.
Don't blame anyone for problems that follow your shoes around except yourself.
2007-02-06 18:27:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"attrackting"? Is that like "attacking" merged with "attracting"?
Do you "attack" them? Or do they "attack" you?
Maybe you need to stop confusing macho with confident. A man can be a gentleman and be confident. Typically, it's the negative challenge these types pose that attracts women. You need a positive challenge: a secure man that expects you to prove yourself to him but who is nice to women and is not going to settle for one who has low character.
2007-02-06 18:25:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show more confidence. It shows in your walk. Hold your head up.
A confident man likes a confident woman. A possessive man with low self esteem likes to control the timid in attempt to boost his ego.
2007-02-06 18:22:44 · answer #8 · answered by Prudent World 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think once you learn how to spell "attracting", your life will mysteriously fall into place.
2007-02-06 23:45:00 · answer #9 · answered by Patrick the Carpathian, CaFO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋