my girlfriends family dont believe i love my girlfriend they hate me and despise me i need to prove to them i love her i already went 400 miles just to see her and it still wasnt enough for them they give me a hard time and say she shoudl get rid of me does anyoen have any ideas on how i can do it ?
2007-02-06 09:59:34 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First of all don't worry about her family, just worry about her. If she really loves you she will stand by you. Second, there is nothing you can say to prove you love her. Your actions will prove how you feel about her. It may take time, but eventually they will "see" that you love her very much if indeed you do :)
Good luck sweetie...
2007-02-06 10:03:52 · answer #1 · answered by CherBear 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, do they have any reason at all to "hate and despise" you? Seems like they have some pretty strong feelings about you. Ask yourself, honestly, without excuses, if they might have any reason to think what they do. If they do, then you have to ask yourself "what's the best way to prove them wrong?" That will take time - they'll have to see you behaving well for a long time if you have anything to "live down."
If not, here's the deal - you can't prove love. Not to your girlfriend, not to her family, not to the people you know, not to the audience on Jerry Springer. Love means different things to everyone, and it's subjective. You can provide evidence, but you can't prove - and if they have absolutely no reason to hate you, you sure can't prove it to these people.
So what you do is look at how you treat your girlfriend - are you supportive? Kind? Considerate? Affectionate? Honorable? Respectful? If so, then she should be able to believe that you love her, and that's the person you should be worried about - her.
If you love her, and she loves you, and you both feel that you're loved and are basically satisfied with the relationship, then other people will just have to learn to cope with it in their own way, which they'll do on their own schedule. No way to predict when they'll come around, or if.
You can't make her family, or anyone else, feel or think anything. You can only treat her in such a way that a reasonable person who didn't know either of you would watch you together and say, "Look how well he treats her - he must really love her." That way, if someone says you don't, or you don't deserve her, you'll know there is nothing to support what that person is saying.
Of course, if that's not the case, if you aren't kind, respectful, thoughtful, and honorable with her, then you have to wonder if you do love her, or yourself.
2007-02-06 10:11:08 · answer #2 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do not say sorry to atheists because you are able to't practice god exists. you're the single which could want to experience undesirable about that. Love is an emotion. you may want to song indications of exact charm, and that i'm particular lets one way or the different degree your emotional reaction to the conception of god--more effective heartrate, dilation of scholars, etc. this isn't any longer any variety of evidence. and that i'm no longer particular atheists run round declaring love doesn't exist because you are able to't practice it. this is an completely different good judgment at artwork there. We also does no longer commence wars antagonistic to those who reported there change into no such element as love. i'm open to the idea that you'll be able to't quantify it, and that something like motherly love (and that i have a good number of that for my sons) is basically a survival instinct. that doesn't make it decrease than it really is.
2016-10-17 05:44:32 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at what the families motives for disliking you are. Some dissaprove simply because of a mans job status, or children from a previous relationship. For others of course it is simply money. It may be that they have made up their minds that another better (in their eyes) man they know is more suitable. These type of people never even consider the wants and needs of the daughter.
2007-02-06 10:33:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put her first.
Treat her with respect.
Don't abuse her physically, emotionally or verbally.
Treat her family with respect.
Don't do anything that would jeopardize her future.
Ask why they want you gone and get honest about yourself when you hear the answer. Maybe you need to change something in your life.
Keep out of jail.
Don't knock up anyone else.
Pay child support if you already have a kid.
Get and keep a job.
These things usually help.
2007-02-06 10:06:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you do, you can't prove your love to them. The problem is them - they don't want to recognise your love for your girlfriend. You are just driving yourself crazy proving your love to her family when essentially, the important relationship that you need to take care of is the one with your girlfriend. The problem, too, is that they are not recognising her freedom to choose who she wants to be.
Look, your girlfriend's happiness is all that should matter to you. Hopefully, seeing that she is truly happy, her family will recognise that YOU make her happy. THey will come to realisation on their own what you mean to her. If not, then that is their problem. Really.
Be calm and recognise the only love that you are giving it to. Really, it's all that matters.
2007-02-06 10:07:14 · answer #6 · answered by Nocturne_in_G_Major 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be totally honest you really have nothing to prove to her family, the only person you need to prove your love to is your girlfriend. I would say the best way to prove you love someone is to trust them and let them know that you trust them.
2007-02-06 10:06:24 · answer #7 · answered by poohbear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your age is important. If you're both over 18, the parents/family will have to deal with it. As long as your girlfriend know that you love her, you don't have to prove it to anyone else.
2007-02-06 10:05:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
.....well, personally i think all you really need is for your girl to know you love her. tho i understand you feel the need to prove yourself. i suggest asking your girlfriend for ideas, she'd be the best source to find out how to please her family.
sorry if that's not much help......
unfortunately whatever you try may not have an affect. i think the fact you traveled such a distance proves your serious about this relationship and perhaps her family are just being over protective.
2007-02-06 10:11:06 · answer #9 · answered by booboaba 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her family gently what makes them don't believe you love your girlfriend. It's because of your attitude? your looking? your personality? or a rumour about you? Or may be they don't believe you love your girlfriend it's just an excuse to cover the real reason that cause them to ask your girlfriend to get rid of you?
2007-02-06 18:43:49 · answer #10 · answered by JoanH 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋