I am getting married in five months, but I still think about a person from my past. I was very much in love with this person and him me, but we were like each others drug. Bad to be with each other, but can be worse to be apart. I Love my fiance and would hate to hurt him, I can see myself spending my life with him, but I can't get the other person off my mind. Does anyone have any suggestions on what I should do, I know it isn't fair to anyone involved for me to be thinking about another man while getting married to someone else.
2007-02-06 09:58:53 · 12 answers · asked by mandyb 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm glad that you realize that although you still have some kind of feeling for the other guy he is a drug. I had a guy in my life like that before I married my husband. We always fought, cheated, argued, mistreated each other - a fiery passionate relationship, which is like a drug! You know it's bad but you cant seem to get enough. I met my husband while we were broken up and realized that there is more than fire, there is intimacy, RESPECT, friendship and more. I still thought about the other guy all the time for many many years during my marriage. When my marriage ended after 19 years I went back to my hometown. I ran into the other guy at a temporary job and realized that the best thing I ever did is get off "the drug". He was a sad older version of himself 20 years before. He'd been in a few relationships where he abused and cheated and finally married the girl he had been with before me. The poor thing. He tried very hard to make a move but I was strong and never gave in. Be strong, if you know this guy is bad stay away from him. Best of luck to you, your fiance, and your future.
2007-02-12 13:34:36 · answer #1 · answered by tarahump 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Practice talking to a television set to get used to being ignored. Set an open package on Limburger Cheese in the bathroom beside the throne to simulate him dropping a load when you are taking a shower or bath. Invite a kleptomaniac over into your kitchen to remove food items without your watching to simulate hubby's eating things and not telling you. Turn sports channels on all night to become desensitized to all of the spectator sports. Place six concrete blocks in the refrigerator to simulate the space that will be occupied by beer cans and get used to going from 20 cubic feet to 5. This is a good start.
2007-02-06 21:25:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u alrqady know the ansewr. u have cold feet. u know the X is not amrrying material because if he was u would have. been there done that have the t-shirt. my x was my all but i am totally happy where i am in my relationship now we will wed 07/07. this would never go on with the x. yes we were bad together and miserable apart. that is not luv. infactuation. good sex maybe but not love. stop this foolishness. thaw out. kiss ur fh and become a bride.
2007-02-06 19:36:24 · answer #3 · answered by ray g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't get married....unless you are ready to not have all kinds of wild sex with people wenever you want.
Remember, when you're single, sex is just sex so you can do it often and with as many people as you like (no, you're not a slvt). It doesn't hurt anybody. So go ahead and live it up and then when you're done having your fun, thats when you wan't to go ahead and get into a boring marriage for the rest of your life.
At least that's the concensus among women on this forum.
2007-02-06 18:11:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always girls (not a WOMEN) that think of this crap. Were do you come up with this childlish stuff.
Break off the MARRIAGE because you are to IMMATURE to be married. You are DECIEVING your fiance by pretending you ARE mature enough to be married. You do NOT love him because you would NOT do this if you did.
TELL HIM EVERYTHING !!
Give him the oppertunity to go out and find a real WOMAN.
2007-02-06 18:12:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage should not take place, as long as either party has serious reservations, or unresolved relationships. Your situation has both. The emotion you seem to be describing concerning your old BF is either love, or fixation. Do yourself and your fiance a favor, and end the engagement.
2007-02-06 18:18:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not marry him if i were you especially since you cannot get this other man out of your thoughts. Do not marry for the wrong reasons and i do not feel you are ready for this marriage at all.
2007-02-06 18:04:29 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should get over the one in your past before you marry any one or it will cause you to have a unhappy marrige i did that and wouned up divorced i wouldn't hurt the guy your planning on marrying if you still have feelings for your exboyfriend don't marry a rebound
2007-02-11 11:07:01 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be fair to him and don't marry him. He deserves to be with someone who truly loves him.
2007-02-06 18:14:41 · answer #9 · answered by Helen T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be realistic you don't love your fiance, because you wouln't be thinking about your ex. My opinion don't get marry.
Good Luck!
2007-02-12 16:00:01 · answer #10 · answered by sexy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋