you just gotta know me. i am a 16 year old, who thinks and acts like a 40 years-old woman. everybody tells me that, and at fort "responsible, punctual, MATURE, composed, thinker" sound like compliment. but i feel like my sweet 16 is passing me by. i don't have many friends at school (just because i am introverted and find it hard to talk to them), and am much easier w/ people over 30.
Even my boyfriend, told me last night that it really bugs him.
In other words - i reeeeally want to change. Become somewhat immature, easy-going, spotaneous, random, fun.
I want it for myself... and not my bf, family of friends.
HOW DO I DO IT????... AT LEAST TIPS
Thanks
2007-02-06 09:32:48 · 10 answers · asked by ---- 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
just ignore my typing errors.... it was a long day .. :)
2007-02-06 09:34:06 · update #1
Honey, you don't need to change-it's everyone around you that needs to change.
2007-02-06 09:41:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I had this same problem! I was so responsible I never had any fun until my senior year of HS. I don't know how to describe my shift, but I think my confidence was a big part of it. I was able to talk to more people and then the more I got to know a variety of people the more easy going I was. So my suggestion is to put yourself out there. The more friends you have, the more events you go to and more exposure you have, which will give you more confidence.
Another thing I did my senior year was take an improve/acting class. It really made me more at ease talking to people, helped my sense of humor, and I made some new friends while I was there.
Another thing, I was always more comfortable making friends with guys. I was the girl in the middle of like a group of 4 or 5 guys even tho I wasn't dating any of them. I was lucky to find such good friends but they were always telling jokes and ragging on each other, and eventually me (in the good friend way). But you have to be able to take a few jokes to hang out with people like that and take a joke. Maybe hang out with you b/f's friends more so he doesn't think you are flirting with people but you are out having fun with him and his friends (as long he is ok w/ sharing them with you).
And fun doesn't mean immature. You can be responsible and still fun.
Good luck.
2007-02-06 10:25:37 · answer #2 · answered by az 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's very hard to change who you are. Just embrace who you are now... the world definitely needs some intelligent and mature people. An astonishing number of successful businessmen say they were loners in high school.
If you want to be more outgoing, join clubs that interest you or even a sport. Start doing things you naturally enjoy and everything will fall into place.
If your family and friends complain about the way you are, that's their problem, not yours.
2007-02-06 10:20:29 · answer #3 · answered by Mai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to find something FUN that you really enjoy doing. It could be something as simple as joining into a book club, but in that club should be peers among your age. What type of music do you like to listen too? See what kind of after school programs there are at your school---you will probaly be uncomfortable at first but when you start to interact with others you will probaly open right up and have alot of new friends. From there you take those new friendships and enjoy them---Dont rush to grow up soo fast. You are letting life pass you by. There is nothing wrong with being responsbile but you also need to make room for peers your own age ansd interets. Try to open up at school or even at a local gym or YMCA. Good luck
2007-02-06 09:57:46 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you sound like a great young lady,and you remind me of me.I was always more comfortable with older people and also introverted.One thing you could try to let loose a little is have a sleepover with some girls you feel comfortable around(sometimes it helps to have people more outgoing than you).Do silly girly things,watch funny movies,do makeover type things(you could have a contest to see who can give the worst makeover),eat junk food.Just relax and don't try too hard.It is most important to laugh and have a good time.Good luck sweetheart!
2007-02-06 10:00:24 · answer #5 · answered by rae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One piece of advice...maturity is a GOOD thing, a rare strength. So you don't want to swing too far in the other direction...don't overdo it. But I think you'll hit the mark if you just "stretch" a little out of your comfort zone and try to be a little more relaxed and fun-loving when you're with your friends. Be less judgmental, be more interested in others. Less serious, more open to humor...laugh more, participate. I'm not talking about major changes here...just loosen up and enjoy people more. Good luck!
2007-02-06 09:41:48 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Same problem,
I didn't do a damn thing about it and kept to myself and away from stupid is as stupid does types.
So meanwhile over time my fun peers, died (alcohol accidents), messed up their brains (drugs), gone to jail, get knocked up and raise kids with no dad's, blow every advantage their parents could offer (that education), get STD's and then try to explain to a real potential mate that they shouldn't care.
You see in the end 80% of all people are stupid and irresponsible. Life in a period of a few short years weeds them out. Being smart requires you to be a bit of a loner when you are young.
Now I live in the big house, great marriage, great kids, no STD's or children without a father. I have all the toys (boat, car, housekeeper, vacations) and I'm stuck with a bunch of do good mature neighbors like me. Life is actually kinda cool to us nerds in the end.
That's why I call myself Made It and I love to spread the news of what true cool is!
2007-02-06 10:06:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, what are other kids your age doing? Bars, alcohol, coke, H, dangerous sports, etc....is that what you want to get in on?
Okay, so be irresponsible, late as a rule, IMMATURE, out-of-control, and dumb. It certainly isn't difficult...look at your fellow schoolmates.
2007-02-06 09:42:10 · answer #8 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You want a method in order to become spontaneous and random? Um, have you actually considered that any ATTEMPT to BECOME spontaneous and random is actually a contradiction of all spontaneity and randomness?
Just be yourself. Also, please try to remember how many times and how many PEOPLE have told you to
Just be yourself.
2007-02-06 09:41:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
just forget them. your u
2007-02-06 09:41:44 · answer #10 · answered by The REBELution! 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋