Is It Really Worth It????

Question

im a guy, 15 , and my best friend is a girl. i have been in love with her forevr. we really started being great friends 1.5 yrs ago. i have told her i love her as more then a friend and she says she loves me as only a friend. in da beginning of the school yr things were great and we talked evr nite. we watched tv while talkin on da phone and walked together between class. then when swimming season(she a swimmer)started she talked to me less and got a boyfriend on the team. i still loved her. i asked her y she didnt talk to me much and she said it was cuz of swimming. a week ago she was dumped, and called me crying. we talked and i was there for her. we talked a little more. i have gone to all her home swim meets to support her n show her i love her. yet she nvr really says thx for coming. lately she walks with the swim guys and doesnt really notice im there. i love her with all my heart n think of her all the time. i have thought of suicide bcuz im so depressed over her. what do i do!!

wow for those of you have answered when i read these i want to cry. she is the world to me tho and have tried to get rid of her and i cant. thx all of u

Answer 1

you need to realize she loves you b cuz ur ALWAYS there 4 her no matter wut.. and ..she KNOWS that ull ALWAYS b there 4 her..but if u were to stop talking to her she mite just stop taking you 4 granted...and she will realize that she should have took tha time to aktually like u for u and not 4 sumone 2 lean on wen she needs it... plz watever u do dnt turn to suicide!! i almost did that 4 a guy SOOOOOO not worth it TRUST ME so move on and take tha time to meet new girls that will appreciate your sinceativity.....plus u sound like a REALLy sweet guy NE girl Would want to have.

Answer 2

Please keep things in their right perspective. If you are meant to be together you will be together. That, unfortunately, is the way life is. I too thought of suicide when I was a kid. Time will pass and you too will realize that it wasn't a bit helpful to feel that way. This all will pass in time and you WILL look back eventually and see that it wasn't the end of the world for you. You have a great future ahead of you and you are destined to experience more bad things however you also will experience GOOD things as well. The good will overshadow the bad. Hang in there with her and keep being her friend. She notices you for that and in time may realize that you are more than just a friend. Be patient and GOOD LUCK.

Answer 3

Suicide 1st off is not the way u want to go!!!! God clearly states that if any man were to take his own life U woould go to Hell 4 eternity. I dont know u but i can tell u that u got a long life ahead of u,ur only 15. Love is something that should be shared with mutually. If she doesnt feel the same way,its really hard but u CAN let it go.Feelings dont go away fast but they r overcome.I went through that recently, I lked this girl so much and I thought she felt the same way but it ends up happening that she didnt.It hurts but u need to have the strength to know that its her loss u have to see that what u have to offer is great and if she cant see it,im sure someone else will!!God listens, why dont u pour out the way u feel to Him,I can only give advice.He can take ur whole situation in His hands,just BELIEVE(FAITH)

Answer 4

well i am kinda going through the same thing with my best friend and i posted a question about it and now i think you sould be friends and you need to start talking to girls and maybe when u stop paying so much attention to her and she relizes it she may just tell you she does like you or the reason she doesn't is because she sees you as to good of a friend to lose over a relationship. thats what my friend told me and i still love him alot but don't let it controll your life and don't commit sicide over a girl no girl is worth your life so just wait awhile don't pey her attention don't run up to her in the hallways that coul creep her out alittle so i hope everything go you way cause i going throught the same thing goodluck

Answer 5

First, finish English class.
If she keeps ignoring you, and then calls you up when she has no one else, forget her. She isn't a good friend if you have done so many things for her and she won't even talk to you. Obviously she doesn't care about your feelings. Find a new friend, and forget her. If she calls you up, say well i'm going to go talk with other people and completely ignore you. If she gets what you are saying, hopefully she will start being a real friend. If she doesn't get it, well you should act like she is a normal person you would pass in the halls.

Answer 6

Well for one thing, you're NOT going to kill yourself! You're only 15 and there will be many lovely women throughout your life, not just this one. You deal and you go on. Your heart will be broken many times in life, and there will be many disappointments...but there's alot of good times to be had, too. If thoughts of suicide are really persistent, you need to tell someone that will get you the help that you need NOW.....your problems stem much deeper than the puppy love that you have for this girl. ...as far as this girl goes, she's young, too and has some maturing to do. Hang in there, get help, and wait for that wonderful girl in your life who will love you with all of her heart...then, you will truly be glad that you decided to stick around.

Answer 7

Give it time. You are still very young. Girls often wake up and realize that the person of their dreams is right there waiting for them. Get an education and learn about the world so you can make a good life for yourself and whomever is your life mate. The suicide comment is not good. Talk to your counselor if you feel depressed. Get help for it. You have all the time in the world, young man. Better yourself so you can be the person she wants.

Answer 8

The more you are around her the worse it will get. Its not worth it. And i dont know how to convince you that there is someone just as wonderful out there somewhere waiting to meet you and fall in love. But as long as youre around her you will never notice. You need to go cold turkey and find new friends so you wont be around her at all. She doesnt love you like that and eventually it will get worse. Im sorry but she isnt worth it. There are girls who are though. Go look for them.

Answer 9

First of all, don't kill yourself- high school infatuations/love is NOT worth it. People change. Especially in high school with adolescence and meeting new people and what not.

Just be there for her. But if she isn't there for you, then you might want to start channeling your emotions into something or someone else.

High school isn't forever. It's better to learn that now rather than when you're a senior. It makes it easier to get through tough times like these, and it's true.

Answer 10

look mann imma be stright up wit u i realy dont know what your goning threw but kiiling yourself over a Female is not the way to go Playa u need 2 Pray cause a gurl aint that special to me u still got your whole life ahead of u and your young u still got bout 10 to 15 more years to look for a gurl

Answer 11

The way she's treating you indicates that she really only thinks of you as a friend and even as a friend she's treating you like crap.

Forget her. Tell her its too painful for you to be around her and then cut her out of your life! Stop going to her swim meets, don't listen to her relationship problems, etc. Find a new group of friends.

There ARE other girls that will treat you with the kindness and respect you deserve.