He has a great job; plans to retire in 8 years; has money in the bank; loves to cook, usually has dinner ready when I get home, & cleans up the mess...just too good to be true. My friends are so happy for me! I knew when we started dating that he liked to come home after work, have a couple drinks (beer or wine cooler)...no big deal...who doesn't? But now he drinking vodka and southern comfort before I get home from work...and eventually gets drunk & then want s to stay up & party til 1-2am. Not everynight but about 2-3 times a week. Back when we were younger he used to party alot & he quit for 18 years. I don't want to just break up...I don't know what to do.. I had a talk with him last night and let him know how I feel...This guy bought me an engagement ring for Christmas this year. I don't know what to do. I love him and I know he loves me. He also refuses to drink in front of any of his family and doesn't want them to know he drinks. I've never had to deal with alcoholism.
2007-02-06 09:18:38 · 5 answers · asked by LSR 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My question is, I'm not sure how to handle this. Can anyone help? Thank You
2007-02-06 09:20:21 · update #1
You have a great man you should fight to keep him, get him the help that he needs and let him know you love him and do not want to loose him, he probably does not even realize he is drinking too much, he has stopped once he can do it again, first thing to do is get rid of all the alcohol in the house, you stop drinking also, call alcohol anonymous.
2007-02-06 09:32:09 · answer #1 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the "engagement" a year -- in otherwords, set a date for early 2008 (or longer, like June '08) Start pre-marital counselling. See what happens. Don't be afraid to walk away if things get bad this year.
2007-02-06 17:24:46 · answer #2 · answered by tlbs101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be 2-3 times a week now, but this is a progressive disease--you're right about one thing.....too good to be true.....watch for signs of it getting worse.....2-3 times a week can jump to every day/all day pretty darn quick!
2007-02-06 17:33:21 · answer #3 · answered by Virgo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just help him along and if you like him them tell him that you do your not in high school you don't need to be afraid. sents you know all of this stuff about him why not but first let him know you.
2007-02-06 17:24:12 · answer #4 · answered by chicken 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what 'they' say.......if it seems too good to be true, it probably IS. As far as help........Only HE is able to help himself.
AND PLEASE be sure you KNOW who this person really is, before you commit to ANYTHING! Women have been duped before. Do NOT be one of them!
2007-02-06 17:24:59 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋