Who else out there is going through a divorce or recently divorced and hate the thought of dating and being single? Whats so great about being single again?!
2007-02-06 09:14:33 · 26 answers · asked by Completly in love... 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-02-06 09:19:17 · answer #1 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the great thing about being single is getting out of a divorce that one person or both people don't want to be in. It might be difficult to jump on the dating bandwagon again but I think you're translating single into meaning "alone". Being single gives you the opportunity to date and find someone who would be a good match for you and who you'll be for as well. You have a lot to offer, you've been through the marriage process, you're expericnced with certain things in life and some guys are looking for just that. Focus on YOU and if you have kids, on them too. Dating should be a fun process, not something that you dread. Besides being single and dating again will untimately bring you the happiness and stability in a relationship that you want.
2007-02-06 17:23:29 · answer #2 · answered by mmatthews000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm married, and I had been married before, with a 4 year "single" span in between my divorce and the new relationship. I do enjoy being married, but I enjoyed being single as well. When I was single, I lived alone in a small apartment, had my pets, lots of free time, didn't worry much about cleaning or dinner, saw my friends often, dated or didn't date (depending on my mood); it was actually quite nice. During that time I took up some new hobbies, and met some new people. While I love having the companionship of a long-term relationship, there's something to be said for having a bit more time for yourself. I wouldn't want to be single for the rest of my life - but I enjoyed the break, and made the best of it. It's the old saying of making lemonade out of lemons - there was a lot of it going on in the first few months after my divorce; but then it got better, and I kind of got into the "single" routine.
Being that the divorce is something you can't help - try to make the best of your situation. Surely there are things you've always wanted to do, places you've wanted to visit, books you've wanted to read, but never had the time? Now would be the time. Take up a new hobby. I got into fencing - I've been wanting to learn to fence ever since I read the Three Musketeers in 6th grade, and I finally got involved in it for a couple of years while I was on my own. I also helped my friend start a pirate re-enactment guild, and did some events and parades with them. I went to Europe. Started playing the big MMPORPG. Made a dent in my reading list. Do some crazy stuff... what the heck. Visit family or out-of-town friends. Travel. Kick back and relax. Subscribe to the magazines you never had the time to read. You can start dating when you're ready. Good luck.
2007-02-06 17:41:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get to go out for a night with the girls whenever you want
You can stay in your PJs, eat ice cream and watch tv all night long whenever you want.
You don't have to shave unless you have a date!
You can answer personal ads - hand picking dates? sure!
you can have your friends introduce you to a bachelor they know.
you have more time to spend with your friends and family who love you.
you can take an evening class, or a yoga class in the evenings.
you can travel the world by yourself - nthing is more eye-opening then stepping off a plane in a new place completely by yourself and able to explore where you want to.
every year I have a "bring someone I don't know" party. it's a great way to meet new people - women and men - and everyone is new so it's not as awkward because you are all in the same boat.
and regardless, the best thing about being single again is that your husband is no longer the last person you will ever have sex with.
And all those little household disagreements you had to learn to live with - you won't have to deal with those again either! no more roomate!
2007-02-06 17:23:27 · answer #4 · answered by imnotachickenyoureaturkey 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry about your recent divorce. Getting back into the "dating" scene SUCKS. I wont paint any pretty pictures there. My advice would be to just relax and do some things that you WANT to do. Don't hurry back into the dating thing. Be single for a while. Prove to yourself that you are fine being single before finding another. You will be MUCH happier in your new relationship if you are in it because you WANT to be... not because you HAVE to be.
Hope that makes sense.
2007-02-06 17:18:31 · answer #5 · answered by Scott M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just getting rid of that "thorn-on-your-side-of-a-husband" should be excuse enough to be single again! Think about the things you can do without having to answer to another person and the feeling of release from the marital "leash." Think about the people you're going to meet, the fun things you could do, the adventures awaiting you. The entire bed--- all yours to stretch out in. No one to pick up after, cook for, do laundry for. F R E E D O M!!!!!
2007-02-06 17:19:13 · answer #6 · answered by JADE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing thats great about being single is the freedom. You're going to get lonely, but its better than having someone there that gets on your nerves. Just do what you love to do to pass time and go out on a date everyonce and a while. Let loose, your free!!!
2007-02-06 17:18:07 · answer #7 · answered by Achilles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there, one great benefit to being single again is that you can do what you want when you want and go where you want without answering to anyone. If you want to buy yourself something, there is no one there to say you can't have it or that you don't need it. Being single again is scary, especially if you have never lived on your own before. Don't be in a rush to start dating again, spend time getting to know yourself and what you want in life. You just spend a long time trying to please someone else, now is your chance to please yourself and be happy.
2007-02-06 17:18:56 · answer #8 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i get the impression that for you, marriage is the be all and end all to life as we know it. instead of dreading it...embrace it. you can do what you want to do and when you wan to do it without thinking of anyone else but yourself. you can't put a price tag on freedom. oh...and instead of playing the 'dating' game...focus on developing friendships and let your deep relationships grow from that. what i see is one of the biggest problem in today's society is that too many of us go from the 'meeting' phase straight to the 'marriage' phase and because of that missing 'getting to know you phase' there are divorces that are hovering around 50 percent. so instead of worrying about finding another man and HAVING to go into the dating scene (which you don't have to do just because you are single) do some activies that you've always wanted to do. paint, sing, learn a new language, go boating...anything. get a pet...if you wanted to.
2007-02-06 19:34:21 · answer #9 · answered by cfalways 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The good thing about being divorced/single...
You're not stuck in a relationship that you didn't care about anymore and are now free to do what you want whenever you feel like it and with whomever you wish to do it with.
2007-02-06 17:29:36 · answer #10 · answered by genetic_traitor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One less bell to answer
One less egg to fry
One less man to pick up after..
or
After you go, I can catch up on my reading
And after you go, I'll have a lot more time for sleeping
And when you're gone
Looks like things are gonna get a lot easier
Life will be a breeze, you know
After you go, I'll have a lot more room in my closet
After you go, I'll stay out all night long if I feel like it
And when you're gone
I can run through the house screaming
And no one will ever hear me
I don't have to miss no TV shows
I can start my whole life over
Change the numbers on my telephone......
2007-02-06 17:19:57 · answer #11 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋